
Originally Posted by
time4fun
We've been through it twice. Once when I was younger- too young to know. My piece of shit step dad needed to sign the paperwork- which he did for my sisters. But he just couldn't really get around to it because he's a horrible person.
My mother and my brother tried a second time when Jopet was an adult, but- at the time at least- he was told that in order to start the process he had to leave the country and live in the Philippines to wait for the paperwork to process and then enter the country legally. It can take years for that. I don't know a lot of the details around it. Maybe it was because they had started once before and never finished? Maybe he's been arrested and isn't telling me? My family gets really vague when I've asked. Honestly, they didn't even tell me he was here illegally until after college. For obvious reasons, they try not to talk about it too openly. My family is from Arizona, which doesn't help.
I've offered a few times to start it back up, but he doesn't want to have to leave for a few years to live in a country he doesn't know anything about. He's in denial, but I can tell he's freaking out inside. I'm going to call some attorneys to try to see if anything has changed since he tried to get his green card a few years back.
It's just a really bad situation. Have I mentioned that he has Type II Diabetes and is on Obamacare? I haven't even gotten to the point where I can process that yet. Though at least in that case, I can pay for his insurance. I'm not sure what we would do if he were deported.
I feel so useless.
Should our family be torn apart over that? Should he go somewhere where he may not be able to get proper medical care?