
Originally Posted by
DCSL
He's perpetually very late (hour or more, here) and thoughtless about it. He'll call me an hour after the appointed time, apologizing profusely and saying he just lost track of time. This happens ALL THE DAMN TIME.
So I said fuck it and just stopped paying attention to him whenever he says he'll be somewhere or do something by a certain time. This has thus far worked out, allowing me to do something besides sit on my ass waiting for him, getting angrier and angrier with each passing second, and he's none the wiser.
Today he said he'll be home at 5:30-6:00. I think to myself, "Sure, whatever, I'll go grab something to eat and finish my book before he REALLY gets home." He calls me at 6:30 saying he lost track of time (AHAHAHAhahahahaHAHAHA) and he'll be home soon. I wait around at the restaurant a couple more minutes to finish my book and then head home, figuring we'll get there around the same time.
At 7:15, I'm there but he's still not home and he calls me saying to get cleaned up 'cause he's taking me out tonight!!1! Uh.. sorry, just ate. He demanded to know why (we didn't have plans for this, by the way) so I was forced to tell him about my new strategy of not trusting his word about times.
Now he's hurt and angry with me because HE lacks all punctuality and I found a way to deal with it without bitching at him constantly and stressing out about it. I had kind of thought that my way was better than me turning into a nag.
It is making me frown because it is NOT my fault that he's thoughtless about time and no, I'm not just going to go back to waiting around for him whenever he decides he's ready to show the fuck up.