So I wanna get a big kid job

[Gnome Rage]

I'm concerned about telling my current boss that I'm looking for other employment, when I picked up the second job that I have, he kind of freaked out. When should I tell him I'm looking for a real-adult job, how do I do it?

:| I have a few applications I'm working on filling out, but I haven't submitted anything yet because I'll have to use him as a reference, obviously, and I know I need to tell him that I'm planning to leave.

[JackWhisper]

You have no responsibility to tell him anything.

And you don't have to tell him you're using him as a reference, either.

Just give them the *STORE* phone number, in the reference, so that they call and get you, and then you can field it as you want.

ETA: Tell him, when he's talking to them, that it was an application you filled out a while back, didn't even remember. Or something. Make a good excuse. ^^.

[Thondalar]

You have no responsibility to tell him anything.

And you don't have to tell him you're using him as a reference, either.

Just give them the *STORE* phone number, in the reference, so that they call and get you, and then you can field it as you want.

ETA: Tell him, when he's talking to them, that it was an application you filled out a while back, didn't even remember. Or something. Make a good excuse. ^^.

This. It is actually really impressive that you feel some amount of loyalty, but you can't let that hold you back from doing what you want to do. If you get a job offer, let the new employer know you need at least 2 weeks to give proper notice to your previous employer before you can start, and immediately let your current employer know that you are giving them 2 weeks notice.

Funny thing about "big kid jobs" is that most employers act like adults and don't begrudge anyone for trying to better themselves. As long as you follow the proper protocols and don't burn any bridges, you're fine.

[Astray]

when I picked up the second job that I have, he kind of freaked out

What? Typically if you give your boss forewarning, they'll sort it out by asking for a schedule. I've had two jobs before and both bosses were comfortable working out a schedule that didn't conflict or give me 5 minutes to go from point A to point B.

[Gnome Rage]

What? Typically if you give your boss forewarning, they'll sort it out by asking for a schedule. I've had two jobs before and both bosses were comfortable working out a schedule that didn't conflict or give me 5 minutes to go from point A to point B.

I literally picked up a job on my day off. He always gave me Wednesdays off, so I picked up a job on Wednesdays, and he freaked the heck out. He was all scared I was going to leave.

His son is joining the military in a month, I am literally the only employee other than the owner and his mother.

[Astray]

I literally picked up a job on my day off. He always gave me Wednesdays off, so I picked up a job on Wednesdays, and he freaked the heck out. He was all scared I was going to leave.

His son is joining the military in a month, I am literally the only employee other than the owner and his mother.

Now, because I'm a scumbag, I'd say this other job is offering me more. If he couldn't give me a raise, I'd say "Sorry but I gotta give this other job priority then" and that's just me. And again, I can be a scumbag sometimes.

[Seizer]

......I am literally the only employee other than the owner and his mother.

Not sure in your state what the laws are, unless you are listing him as a personal reference there shouldn't be too much concern on your part. Most employers just want to see that you aren't full of shit about working at a place from this date to that date. Technically they are only allowed to ask a question such as, "Do you have an employee named such and such? Did they work at this place from this year/day/month?"
Just my experience in the past when going from dead end job as a college kid to full time career.

[SHAFT]

I'm concerned about telling my current boss that I'm looking for other employment, when I picked up the second job that I have, he kind of freaked out. When should I tell him I'm looking for a real-adult job, how do I do it?

:| I have a few applications I'm working on filling out, but I haven't submitted anything yet because I'll have to use him as a reference, obviously, and I know I need to tell him that I'm planning to leave.

You never tell your current boss you're looking for another job.

[Gnome Rage]

You never tell your current boss you're looking for another job.

Even though I'm going to be putting him as a reference?!

[Ysamine]

You never tell your current boss you're looking for another job.

I always have been upfront about looking for another job and it's never caused a problem. Some bosses realized that if they wanted to keep me, they had to offer something more.

It isn't something that you HAVE to do of course, but I guess I'm old school because I still appreciate courtesy and I try to give it.