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08-27-2013, 08:03 PM
Allereli

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Originally Posted by Allereli

just saw the road closure map for tomorrow. I'm going to have a really hard time getting to work.

they closed the roads at least 8 hours early
08-28-2013, 09:44 AM
Atlanteax

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Originally Posted by Suppressed Poet

It's tough being a single / divorced parent. Looking for reassurance or honest feedback from someone that has kids.

So the past year, things have been going real smooth with my ex-wife and I. It's been nice - no fighting, safe distance, mutual respect.

She starts a new job this year as a teacher in a suburban school district. A couple weeks before school started, she called me to let me know and ask my opinion about our kids walking home (her house is across the residential street from the school) and staying there alone for up to an hour a few days of the week. They are 9 & 10 and started the 4th grade.

I told her I didnt like that idea and would like to explore other options. I suggested they go home with a friend and their parent and even offered to pay for the after school program. I think they are too young to be left unsupervised. She kept pushing that she wants to give them that sense of responsibility.

After politely giving her every opportunity, alternative suggestions, and trying to let her come to her own conclusion in the right decision...she wouldn't do it. I feel this is a safety concern, so in the end I told her I would take legal action and have a bring it to a mediator if she wouldn't change (defined in our orders when we have a dispute beyond the scope of our final orders). She caved, but now she is flaming pissed at me and things are tense.

I stand by my decision, but I wish there was another way without having to come to that. And my kids think I'm a strict a-hole (figuratively) in this situation, but I hope they understand one day.

My younger brother and I used to walk home from elementary school all the time, probably a short 5 minutes walk. However, that was 20-something years ago, and "things are different now". *Maybe* if of middle-school age (6-8th grade), but I personally would not consider it to be a good idea to do the walk-home nowadays. I agree with your decision.
08-28-2013, 10:03 AM
AnticorRifling

I disagree with your decision for a lot of reasons. Let me know if you want me to break it down and list them but really the bottom line is I think you made the wrong choice.
08-28-2013, 10:05 AM
AnticorRifling

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Originally Posted by Suppressed Poet

Yeah that was me too - bit of a latch key kid myself. It's doable but never a good option and I don't want that for them.

Luckily she gave in, reluctant as hell, and we did the after school program. Thanks for the feedback - just feels like I have second guess my sanity sometimes because she is ultra liberal anything goes with the kids and Im the "ultra strict dad". Well it's my role to look out for their safety and sometimes you have to choose being the bad guy I guess. Hopefully she gets it and things will smooth over.

Ultra strict dad would have them walk home and complete their homework and chores before an adult got home. You're babying your snowflakes.
08-28-2013, 10:33 AM
Showal

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Originally Posted by Suppressed Poet

It's tough being a single / divorced parent. Looking for reassurance or honest feedback from someone that has kids.

So the past year, things have been going real smooth with my ex-wife and I. It's been nice - no fighting, safe distance, mutual respect.

She starts a new job this year as a teacher in a suburban school district. A couple weeks before school started, she called me to let me know and ask my opinion about our kids walking home (her house is across the residential street from the school) and staying there alone for up to an hour a few days of the week. They are 9 & 10 and started the 4th grade.

I told her I didnt like that idea and would like to explore other options. I suggested they go home with a friend and their parent and even offered to pay for the after school program. I think they are too young to be left unsupervised. She kept pushing that she wants to give them that sense of responsibility.

After politely giving her every opportunity, alternative suggestions, and trying to let her come to her own conclusion in the right decision...she wouldn't do it. I feel this is a safety concern, so in the end I told her I would take legal action and have a bring it to a mediator if she wouldn't change (defined in our orders when we have a dispute beyond the scope of our final orders). She caved, but now she is flaming pissed at me and things are tense.

I stand by my decision, but I wish there was another way without having to come to that. And my kids think I'm a strict a-hole (figuratively) in this situation, but I hope they understand one day.

I supported your decision a while ago to stop posting your opinion/stories/life on the forum.
08-28-2013, 11:13 AM
Suppressed Poet

I supported your decision to stop being such a troll pygmy ass-eater, but obviously that ain't happenin'.
08-28-2013, 11:40 AM
Showal

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Originally Posted by Suppressed Poet

I supported your decision to stop being such a troll pygmy ass-eater, but obviously that ain't happenin'.

OH SNAP! GOOD ONE!
08-28-2013, 01:22 PM
Allereli

my plan to watch the U.S. Open stream during lunch has been foiled by a rain delay.
08-28-2013, 01:22 PM
Tisket

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Originally Posted by AnticorRifling

I disagree with your decision for a lot of reasons. Let me know if you want me to break it down and list them but really the bottom line is I think you made the wrong choice.

^
08-28-2013, 01:31 PM
RSR

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Originally Posted by AnticorRifling

I disagree with your decision for a lot of reasons. Let me know if you want me to break it down and list them but really the bottom line is I think you made the wrong choice.

Break the walls down Anticor!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BkTcZJdgesQ