The thread about if you ever actually had someone you love die

[Alafaya]

I did. And its sucks. And a lot of GS people are pissing me off right now with their lack of respect. So now I am starting a thread about people who you love dying. I lost my older brother, and I miss him every day. If you've lost someone you love then tell us here. I won't blame anyone for not posting since it seems people who play this game are so immune to real loss....but if you have a story to tell...I'm making a place for it. I am attaching a picture of my older brother and me. 4938

[Jayvn]

Real loss?... it's called life.. I've lost my little brother to cancer, my step mother (dad's wife of 15 years) to md, and my best friend to suicide 4 years ago... you deal with it and move on... Without death life would be kinda pointless and meaningless.
I personally can't die yet because I still have a few episodes of Dr. Who to watch.

[Alafaya]

Damn, that's a lot to go through. I'm sorry.

[Catts]

I understand where you're coming from...and that's a touching photo, but I think you're wasting your breath on this forum for something like this. I lost a few people very close to me a couple years ago, but there's no way I'd post about them on this forum, where people just make every effort to grab attention ( good or bad) or argue shit incessantly. That's the internet of course and there are some pleasant exceptions; people who'd understand and relate...but I worry your opening yourself up to more aggravation.

This is going to turn into a pissing contest of who's life was more tragic...and I see it already has. No one can know how close you were to him and it's silly to compare my loss to yours or anyone else s.

[Alafaya]

I understand where you're coming from...and that's a touching photo, but I think you're wasting your breath on this forum for something like this. I lost a few people very close to me a couple years ago, but there's no way I'd post about them on this forum, where people just make every effort to grab attention ( good or bad) or argue shit incessantly. Thats the internet of course and there are some pleasant exceptions; people who'd understand and relate...but I worry your opening yourself up to more aggravation. This is going to turn into a pissing contest of who's life was more tragic...and I see it already has. No one can know how close you were to him and it's silly to compare my loss to yours or anyone elses.

I've seen your posts in other threads and respect what you've posted now and in the past. I am just trying to bring some humanity and reality to some shit that has gone down. If people want to shit all over it's on them.

[petiteSylvan]

Sorry to hear about both of your losses. I didn't get my introduction to death until my grandfather died about 5 years ago to cancer, and I was there to watch his last breath. Actually seeing someone die is.. well, certainly an experience. For a while afterwards, I was obsessed with death books, as in books that go into what happens to your body when you die, cultural death rituals... all that fun death stuff.

Death is certainly an every day occurrence, and it happens to all of us, but like stated above, you deal with it and move on. Some people take longer than others to get through the grieving process, and some never pull through. But it's inevitable that someone you love is going to die. Just like you're going to die and be that inevitable person.

Wow, I sound wordy. My apologies :(

[Port Royal]

I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you. Do NOT let people with no hearts tear you down or get the best of you. Its not human nature to want to destroy another human being.

[petiteSylvan]

This is going to turn into a pissing contest of who's life was more tragic...and I see it already has. No one can know how close you were to him and it's silly to compare my loss to yours or anyone else s.

It doesn't HAVE to turn into a pissing contest, and I don't see that it really has, so far. SO far.

[Gelston]

I've seen your posts in other threads and respect what you've posted now and in the past. I am just trying to bring some humanity and reality to some shit that has gone down. If people want to shit all over it's on them.

People don't come to this forum for humanity and reality. Most people get enough of that shit IRL. And yes, while I did post about Kevin's death on here, he was a fairly known poster on these forums and my initial post was merely asking if there was truth to the rumors. You are trying to get sympathy on a forum where the number 1 thread is about Topless pics and a thread called "Top 10 list of snerts" got well over 100 pages.

Again, people don't come here for the sort of crap you are wanting to see with this thread... And you are going to be shit all over.

[Delias]

God damn you are a self righteous bitch.

Seriously, who the fuck do you think you are? I can practically guarantee that everyone on this forum has suffered "real loss". Do you honestly think we are immune to the reality of human tragedy? You're fucking ridiculous.

[Alafaya]

Sorry to hear about both of your losses. I didn't get my introduction to death until my grandfather died about 5 years ago to cancer, and I was there to watch his last breath. Actually seeing someone die is.. well, certainly an experience. For a while afterwards, I was obsessed with death books, as in books that go into what happens to your body when you die, cultural death rituals... all that fun death stuff.

Death is certainly an every day occurrence, and it happens to all of us, but like stated above, you deal with it and move on. Some people take longer than others to get through the grieving process, and some never pull through. But it's inevitable that someone you love is going to die. Just like you're going to die and be that inevitable person.

Wow, I sound wordy. My apologies :(

No apology needed, I went through a time when I felt like....death? Bring It!! So I could be close with my loved one. Not sure if anyone has ever felt like that and I am for sure not going to actively try for it. But there IS some comfort in knowing there is someone waiting when you expire...a least for me. I don't want to overstep bounds, but if you believe in that, I bet you'll see him again.

[Port Royal]

Wow there are some fucking hateful fucks here LOL

[Jayvn]

Everyone you know is going to die...or you will die before you have to deal with losing everyone you know..
I was digging through my trunk of crap today and came across my death card thing we had to keep in our helmets in Afghanistan.. Most people just don't like to deal with the fact of their own mortality..that's why death and loss fucks them up so much.
I do remember back in the day working at an assisted living facility where some people had outlived all of their friends..and thinking how shitty it must be to outlive everyone you know...

[petiteSylvan]

Nah, you aren't overstepping any bounds.. I totally agree :)

[Alafaya]

I'm not looking for sympathy...just a place for people to post. If it doesn't appeal to you, fuck off.

[Delias]

By the time I was 10 I had been exposed to more corpses than I can conveniently count. My step father spent 6 years trying to prepare me for his death by exposing me to death, and in the 20 years since I watched him sicken more each day and finally die, plenty more have fallen along the way. You don't become immune to death, you just get used to it after a while. I'm sure my story is common enough due to the overwhelming mortality of humans. Learn to say goodbye, because if you survive, you will be doing it often.

[Merala]

I lost my younger brother to cancer about a year and a half ago, that's been really hard. I miss him a lot, and we were very close.

All I have to say is fuck cancer, 21 year old kids should not be dying.

[Jayvn]

One of my favorite quotes ever by Ann Druyan... On Sagan dying...

"Carl faced his death with unflagging courage & never sought refuge in illusions. The tragedy was that we knew we would never see each other again. I don’t ever expect to be reunited with Carl. But, the great thing is that when we were together, for nearly twenty years, we lived with a vivid appreciation of how brief & precious life is. We never trivialized the meaning of death by pretending it was anything other than a final parting. Every single moment that we were alive & we were together was miraculous — not miraculous in the sense of inexplicable or supernatural. We knew we were beneficiaries of chance… That pure chance could be so generous & so kind… That we could find each other, as Carl wrote so beautifully in Cosmos, you know, in the vastness of space & the immensity of time… That we could be together for twenty years. That is something which sustains me & it’s much more meaningful…

The way he treated me & the way I treated him, the way we took care of each other & our family, while he lived. That is so much more important than the idea I will see him someday. I don’t think I’ll ever see Carl again. But I saw him. We saw each other. We found each other in the cosmos, and that was wonderful."

[petiteSylvan]

Mostly, when I think about death... I want to sing:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlBiLNN1NhQ

Edit - Sorry if this offends anyone, but honestly, if you don't have humour....

[Alafaya]

I lost my younger brother to cancer about a year and a half ago, that's been really hard. I miss him a lot, and we were very close.

All I have to say is fuck cancer, 21 year old kids should not be dying.

They say losing a parent you lose your past, losing a child you lose your future, losing a sibling you lose your past, present and future. I am so sorry you lost your brother. I am not trying to lesson anyone else's loss, it is hard all around. I am just letting you know I relate.

[Merala]

Mostly, when I think about death... I want to sing:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlBiLNN1NhQ

Edit - Sorry if this offends anyone, but honestly, if you don't have humour....

We played that song with a bunch of goofy pictures of my brother putting bunny ears and otherwise messing around at his funeral. I feel pretty positively about that song.

[Gelston]

That song is actually part of a more recent British tradition. When a British destroyer was sinking, during the Falklands War, the British sailors were singing that song and such... Since then it has been sung to keep up morale when situations are not ideal.

[petiteSylvan]

That's kind of awesome. Most funerals I've been to have been kind of dry and.. well.. boring. Send them off with some laughter - that's what I'd want at my own funeral.

[petiteSylvan]

Also - it's a great morale song, I totally approve!

[petiteSylvan]

Oh, and sorry Alafaya, I didn't mean to change your topic into a Monty Python tribute.

[Jayvn]

The funeral from "PS I love you" was fantastic... I want a funeral like that... Fairytale of new york and shots

[Merala]

That's kind of awesome. Most funerals I've been to have been kind of dry and.. well.. boring. Send them off with some laughter - that's what I'd want at my own funeral.

We did our best to try and do him justice. We also played Young Forever by Jay Z since the lyrics were appropriate. We tried not to follow the "rules" if they didn't really fit. We also got permits from the city and shut down the block and had a huge party in the street. It was exactly what I think he would have wanted.

[SHAFT]

Is this the thread I come to when I want to be cheered up?

[Delias]

Is this the thread I come to when I want to be cheered up?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCx5zN-aPhU

[Alafaya]

Oh, and sorry Alafaya, I didn't mean to change your topic into a Monty Python tribute.

I listened to it and laughed. <3

[Alafaya]

We did our best to try and do him justice. We also played Young Forever by Jay Z since the lyrics were appropriate. We tried not to follow the "rules" if they didn't really fit. We also got permits from the city and shut down the block and had a huge party in the street. It was exactly what I think he would have wanted.

My brother wanted Harleys...I have a video of one Bike after another arriving at the funeral...like 25 pulling in!! (also just what he would have wanted). :) Thanls for sharing. It's what I wanted out of this thread.

[SHAFT]

I forgot to celebrate my 4000th post. Fuck

[Gelston]

I forgot to celebrate my 4000th post. Fuck

Oh that sucks... I'm almost..

[Gelston]

at around....

[Gelston]

5000 pretty soon. Oh well, goodnight!

[SHAFT]

One more pal. Just one more

[Jayvn]

you can do it!

[Tisket]

Are we allowed to be irreverent in this thread? I don't want to be scolded again.

[Jayvn]

I was thinking of something along the lines of "Don't leave us hanging Gelston" O.o

[Tisket]

He's savoring the moment.

[Tisket]

Could do what I did when I had 1337 post count. Just delete a random post each time you post. Nobody noticed though. Heartless bastards.

[Catts]

One of my favorite quotes ever by Ann Druyan... On Sagan dying...

"Carl faced his death with unflagging courage & never sought refuge in illusions. The tragedy was that we knew we would never see each other again. I don’t ever expect to be reunited with Carl. But, the great thing is that when we were together, for nearly twenty years, we lived with a vivid appreciation of how brief & precious life is. We never trivialized the meaning of death by pretending it was anything other than a final parting. Every single moment that we were alive & we were together was miraculous — not miraculous in the sense of inexplicable or supernatural. We knew we were beneficiaries of chance… That pure chance could be so generous & so kind… That we could find each other, as Carl wrote so beautifully in Cosmos, you know, in the vastness of space & the immensity of time… That we could be together for twenty years. That is something which sustains me & it’s much more meaningful…

The way he treated me & the way I treated him, the way we took care of each other & our family, while he lived. That is so much more important than the idea I will see him someday. I don’t think I’ll ever see Carl again. But I saw him. We saw each other. We found each other in the cosmos, and that was wonderful."

I love this

[Methais]

So now I am starting a thread about people who you love dying.

I don't love anyone dying. I hate when people die. I love when people don't die.

Why do you love people dying? Are you Hitler's granddaughter?

If there was someone I'd say I love dying though, it would probably be Bin Laden. But he's already dead, and I loved Bin Laden dying.

[Methais]

One of my favorite quotes ever by Ann Druyan... On Sagan dying...

"Carl faced his death with unflagging courage & never sought refuge in illusions. The tragedy was that we knew we would never see each other again. I don’t ever expect to be reunited with Carl. But, the great thing is that when we were together, for nearly twenty years, we lived with a vivid appreciation of how brief & precious life is. We never trivialized the meaning of death by pretending it was anything other than a final parting. Every single moment that we were alive & we were together was miraculous — not miraculous in the sense of inexplicable or supernatural. We knew we were beneficiaries of chance… That pure chance could be so generous & so kind… That we could find each other, as Carl wrote so beautifully in Cosmos, you know, in the vastness of space & the immensity of time… That we could be together for twenty years. That is something which sustains me & it’s much more meaningful…

The way he treated me & the way I treated him, the way we took care of each other & our family, while he lived. That is so much more important than the idea I will see him someday. I don’t think I’ll ever see Carl again. But I saw him. We saw each other. We found each other in the cosmos, and that was wonderful."

http://farm4.staticflickr.com/3307/4566670300_c43b814027_z.jpg

[AnticorRifling]

I did. And its sucks. And a lot of GS people are pissing me off right now with their lack of respect. So now I am starting a thread about people who you love dying. I lost my older brother, and I miss him every day. If you've lost someone you love then tell us here. I won't blame anyone for not posting since it seems people who play this game are so immune to real loss....but if you have a story to tell...I'm making a place for it. I am attaching a picture of my older brother and me. 4938

The important thing is to judge others because if you don't agree with it then clearly they're wrong. Excellent points recently...

[diethx]

Alafaya is going to need to post up some snatch in order to reverse all this stupidity.

[AnticorRifling]

Alafaya is going to need to post up some snatch in order to reverse all this stupidity.

Wouldn't fix it.

[msconstrew]

Alafaya is going to need to post up some snatch in order to reverse all this stupidity.

I was JUST thinking this.

This thread is just plain dumb. First, is there any doubt that most if not all of the members on the board have lost someone close to them in some way? Parents, grandparents, siblings, friends - whatever. We're all adults; it's highly unlikely that this so-called rhetorical question would be answered in the negative by anyone. But second, and more importantly, the way that the members of this board collectively treat the suicide of what can AT BEST be termed an acquaintance is in no way analogous or even comparable to the way we'd treat the death of a loved one. The entire premise of this thread is logically flawed.

[Delias]

I was JUST thinking this.

This thread is just plain dumb. First, is there any doubt that most if not all of the members on the board have lost someone close to them in some way? Parents, grandparents, siblings, friends - whatever. We're all adults; it's highly unlikely that this so-called rhetorical question would be answered in the negative by anyone. But second, and more importantly, the way that the members of this board collectively treat the suicide of what can AT BEST be termed an acquaintance is in no way analogous or even comparable to the way we'd treat the death of a loved one. The entire premise of this thread is logically flawed.

Sustained. Alafaya's testimony shall be stricken from the record.

[msconstrew]

Sustained. Alafaya's testimony shall be stricken from the record.

Make fun if you want to, but I hate false comparisons.

[Delias]

Make fun if you want to, but I hate false comparisons.

I just like to tease you, sweets. Your panties; untwist them. =]

[Taernath]

5000 pretty soon. Oh well, goodnight!

You son of a bitch.

[Methais]

I was JUST thinking this.

This thread is just plain dumb. First, is there any doubt that most if not all of the members on the board have lost someone close to them in some way? Parents, grandparents, siblings, friends - whatever. We're all adults; it's highly unlikely that this so-called rhetorical question would be answered in the negative by anyone. But second, and more importantly, the way that the members of this board collectively treat the suicide of what can AT BEST be termed an acquaintance is in no way analogous or even comparable to the way we'd treat the death of a loved one. The entire premise of this thread is logically flawed.

I think what you meant to say was:
http://objection.mrdictionary.net/go.php?n=6575575

EDIT: How do we embed these in posts like we do with youtube videos?