Buckwheet
10-31-2011, 09:36 PM
Them - You have got to get off of your opinionated, family hierarchy high-horse and learn that your thoughts, feelings, opinions, etc. on my thoughts, feelings,
opinions, etc. have no bearing on the day we want to spend with our FAMILY.
You're way of seeing and handling all of this is like that of an individual who takes sides on a debate after hearing only one side of an argument. You blindly support the blatant disregard for family gpa showed when marrying June and then you somehow twist it into we should be more compassionate towards the family aspect of their new marriage....can you say hypocrite?
Gpa has NOT ONCE attempted to contact me since his marriage to June and I have NOT ONCE seen this supposed new "grandmother" of mine. Don't assume that I make all decisions based on hate and disregard for anyone's feelings. If you weren't so quick to judge, and maybe allowed time for adjustment on my part, you'd hear that I'm planning on going over to talk to the both of them(since he won't talk to me) and tell them my feelings about the way he handled things and why it's caused the acute rift that it has. I want to tell them that in time I'm sure I can bear the sight of them together but for my emotional sake I would appreciate not seeing them hand in hand at my wedding. That makes me very uncomfortable and it's mostly to do with the fact that I have NO exposure to them and therefore could not possibly have grown any more fond of the idea.
Plain and simple, I would be very sad that you and ken couldn't make it to the wedding bc you all have been great family since day 1 and I want that family representation when I look through my wedding album. Ellie has twice as many family coming and I'm getting hung to dry left and right by my family. I would assume finances to be a viable excuse not to make it but I'm rather certain a trip to Ireland would be a tad more financially straining and that, only from what I hear of course, is in your agenda.
The fact that mere months ago you were always asking about the wedding and have only since the "other" wedding lost interest raises a red flag in my eyes. So I somewhat safely presume that your reasons for not coming are neither financial nor convenience, but rather personal!
I hope that you can see past the current issues and trust that in time they will be healed. I wish for you to follow your path on this subject and leave others to view it as they see fit. That is, in great simplicity, the beauty of the human way. As time usually tells, we will prolly find common ground around the bend but you must understand that we have different views on the matter and to continually judge and condemn others for their differing view is very unbecoming.
Please sum your feelings after reading this with an open mind and an understanding nature...that is of course what you ask of me in the case of Gpa and June. I will come around with time so please don't let my handling of a very uncomfortable situation become a reason for distancing my Uncle Ken and you from me and the happiness of my soon to be new life...and wife.
I Love You both and hope it's not too late.
Me:Lol wut???
Them:Wrong number?
Me:no idea you sent me a whole bunch of text about ken,gpa,and some wedding
Them:If you are not Faye in Minnesota then I'm sorry for that barrage of txts haha
Me:no problem it was soap opera style for the win, plz let me know how it turns out for you! <popcorn>
Them:Well...this is awkward
The first part was like rapid fire texts. Probably 40 of them. I wanted to tell them thanks for the pocket orgasm, but figured I wouldn't be too over the top.
opinions, etc. have no bearing on the day we want to spend with our FAMILY.
You're way of seeing and handling all of this is like that of an individual who takes sides on a debate after hearing only one side of an argument. You blindly support the blatant disregard for family gpa showed when marrying June and then you somehow twist it into we should be more compassionate towards the family aspect of their new marriage....can you say hypocrite?
Gpa has NOT ONCE attempted to contact me since his marriage to June and I have NOT ONCE seen this supposed new "grandmother" of mine. Don't assume that I make all decisions based on hate and disregard for anyone's feelings. If you weren't so quick to judge, and maybe allowed time for adjustment on my part, you'd hear that I'm planning on going over to talk to the both of them(since he won't talk to me) and tell them my feelings about the way he handled things and why it's caused the acute rift that it has. I want to tell them that in time I'm sure I can bear the sight of them together but for my emotional sake I would appreciate not seeing them hand in hand at my wedding. That makes me very uncomfortable and it's mostly to do with the fact that I have NO exposure to them and therefore could not possibly have grown any more fond of the idea.
Plain and simple, I would be very sad that you and ken couldn't make it to the wedding bc you all have been great family since day 1 and I want that family representation when I look through my wedding album. Ellie has twice as many family coming and I'm getting hung to dry left and right by my family. I would assume finances to be a viable excuse not to make it but I'm rather certain a trip to Ireland would be a tad more financially straining and that, only from what I hear of course, is in your agenda.
The fact that mere months ago you were always asking about the wedding and have only since the "other" wedding lost interest raises a red flag in my eyes. So I somewhat safely presume that your reasons for not coming are neither financial nor convenience, but rather personal!
I hope that you can see past the current issues and trust that in time they will be healed. I wish for you to follow your path on this subject and leave others to view it as they see fit. That is, in great simplicity, the beauty of the human way. As time usually tells, we will prolly find common ground around the bend but you must understand that we have different views on the matter and to continually judge and condemn others for their differing view is very unbecoming.
Please sum your feelings after reading this with an open mind and an understanding nature...that is of course what you ask of me in the case of Gpa and June. I will come around with time so please don't let my handling of a very uncomfortable situation become a reason for distancing my Uncle Ken and you from me and the happiness of my soon to be new life...and wife.
I Love You both and hope it's not too late.
Me:Lol wut???
Them:Wrong number?
Me:no idea you sent me a whole bunch of text about ken,gpa,and some wedding
Them:If you are not Faye in Minnesota then I'm sorry for that barrage of txts haha
Me:no problem it was soap opera style for the win, plz let me know how it turns out for you! <popcorn>
Them:Well...this is awkward
The first part was like rapid fire texts. Probably 40 of them. I wanted to tell them thanks for the pocket orgasm, but figured I wouldn't be too over the top.