Social Graces

[Tendarian]

I used to work with this guy named Peter. Nice guy and everything else i thought he was funny. He did though have this really annoying habbit of picking his nose right in front of me. We would be face to face and talking and he would just start digging away. Wtf?

Then my 17 yr old step daughter's boyfriend. We will be playing Madden football or watching tv and he will stick his arm up to his elbow into his pants and scratch for like 10 minutes. Wtf? My step daughter when she sees him will bitch him out but he just keeps doing it!

What i want to know is this. I wasnt raised to be a social butterfly. I dont want to be one and im not a socially graceful person either. BUT i know not to stick my finger in my nose up to the knuckle while talking to someone and i know not to start scratching or play with my balls in front of people. I dont remember my parents telling me not to do this but they must have or something. Its beginning to annoy the hell out of me. Im kind of a germaphobe too so the thought of someone touching their sack and then touching me remote for the tv makes me want to puke. Sorry but this is annoying me so much i had to rant.

[Wezas]

Here's a question. Where do the boogers go when he's doing pickin?

[DeV]

Originally posted by Tendarian


Then my 17 yr old step daughter's boyfriend. We will be playing Madden football or watching tv and he will stick his arm up to his elbow into his pants and scratch for like 10 minutes. Wtf? My step daughter when she sees him will bitch him out but he just keeps doing it!

Crabs?

[Zanagodly]

I would come right out and say...."Not sure what goes on at your house, but here we don't pick our nose and scratch our groins amongst company. Please respect my wishes and my household and refrain from doing these things." I mean thats classless if I have ever heard it. This isn't a 8 year old, this kid must be similar to your step daughter's age. I would also be very disgusted.

[Wezas]

Originally posted by Zanagodly
I would come right out and say...."Not sure what goes on at your house, but here we don't pick our nose and scratch our groins amongst company. Please respect my wishes and my household and refrain from doing these things."

I would almost just ask the kid, "Are you alright? I'm not sure if it's normal to scratch that much, you might want to see a doctor". And the next time you see him do it, act concerned again. He will stop.

[Tendarian]

Great advice now i just have to suck it up to say something like this. And yes he is 17 as well graduating 11th grade with my step daughter. I just wish whatever my parents did to teach me this isnt acceptable,or whatever the hell it was that made me realize its gross and to do it in private(common sense?) was taught to this kid as well. Other than this he is alright,but its pretty hard to get past this.

I honestly dont think its crabs btw. I would be shocked if they hadnt had sex by now since they have been going out for almost a year and im under no dellusions that she is a saint. So wouldnt she have crabs also? But she never scratches at inappropriate times.

[Edited on 5-24-2004 by Tendarian]

[Betheny]

There's definitely something to be said about social grace.

Talking about eating certain foods just so you can have stinky farts and disgusting shits later *WHILE YOU'RE AT THE DINNER TABLE*... That's just wrong.

[DeV]

Tendarian.. was joking about crabs. But seriously that kid has no "home training" so to speak. Its actually disgusting to be doing that, and in front of your girlfriends parents no less. He shouldn't be getting away with that type of behavior in your home.

[Atlanteax]

I bet it makes you wonder why your step-daughter is dating him? :shrug:

[Weedmage Princess]

:lol: :lol:

If you'd rather not "say" anything, Tendarian...you can always just buy a tube of jock itch medicine...next time he starts scratching, hand him the tube and give him a knowing nod. Not a word will be said and he might be embarrassed as hell but...hey..no more spraying your remote and controllers with Lysol when he leaves, right?

[Tendarian]

Originally posted by Atlanteax
I bet it makes you wonder why your step-daughter is dating him? :shrug:

No shit! What the hell is she thinking. She is about a billion times better looking than him too. He is goofy as all hell but id feel silly saying as much as her mom(my gf) is a billion times better looking than me as well.

The jock itch tube is brilliant and definately something i could do. When i go grocery shopping this weekend it will be on the list.

[Kadumi]

one of my aim away messages reads:

It greatly disturbs me that some people turn on the faucet with the same hand that they hold their penis.

[Latrinsorm]

Originally posted by Kadumi
It greatly disturbs me that some people turn on the faucet with the same hand that they hold their penis. Some of us need two hands.

[Atlanteax]

Originally posted by Weedmage Princess
:lol: :lol:

If you'd rather not "say" anything, Tendarian...you can always just buy a tube of jock itch medicine...next time he starts scratching, hand him the tube and give him a knowing nod. Not a word will be said and he might be embarrassed as hell but...hey..no more spraying your remote and controllers with Lysol when he leaves, right?

Just do NOT do it in front if your step-daughter. Otherwise, she might get pissed at you for embarrassing him (and by extension her) like that. Then she could possibly complain to her mother which might put you in a bad light.

However, if it's just you and him, the act of handing it to him, with the classical male grunt and nod, will send the point home (at least it should). He'll be too embarrassed/self-conscious to mention it to your step-daughter... but you should be a bit proactive to add "be sure to put that way, before (her name) comes in".

Meanwhile for best effect, you should hand it to him, point at it (when he's holding it, wondering what the heck you gave it to him for) and comment "you know, you always seem to be scratching yourself down there, so I thought you could use something like this so I don't have to see it anymore"

Problem solved :D

[Tendarian]

ust do NOT do it in front if your step-daughter. Otherwise, she might get pissed at you for embarrassing him (and by extension her) like that.


Yanno now that i think about it she yells at him constantly for this. I could probably even get her to give it to him herself and then she could and probably would tell him i gave it to her to give to him. Which would solve the problem mostly and he would know to do what every one else does. Do it in private and wash your hands after. Ok the wash your hands part is me hoping i admit.


Then she could possibly complain to her mother which might put you in a bad light.

This wouldnt happen,my gf is quite possibly the most reasonable woman on earth. She is more reasonable than i am.

[Weedmage Princess]

Problem is if you have your step daughter do it, it might not work. If she yells at him all the time about it and he does it anyway, clearly it's going in one ear and out the other.

You got to do it. The effect will be much greater.

Unless he's just a pig and doesn't care.

[Atlanteax]

Originally posted by Tendarian

ust do NOT do it in front if your step-daughter. Otherwise, she might get pissed at you for embarrassing him (and by extension her) like that.


Yanno now that i think about it she yells at him constantly for this. I could probably even get her to give it to him herself and then she could and probably would tell him i gave it to her to give to him. Which would solve the problem mostly and he would know to do what every one else does. Do it in private and wash your hands after. Ok the wash your hands part is me hoping i admit.


Then she could possibly complain to her mother which might put you in a bad light.

This wouldnt happen,my gf is quite possibly the most reasonable woman on earth. She is more reasonable than i am.

No, it'll be better coming from you.

A man-to-man thing. He may "ignore" her thinking that she doesn't get what he percieves to be a "man thing" (despite how scratching balls in public is known to be not appropriate by most males).

If she's been yelling at him for awhile, and no effect, her giving it to him from you isn't really going to have an impact.

He may "understand" better coming from you, as a male speaking to another male.

Besides, what's this obsession about finding a round-about solution to this "problem" by trying avoid any direct interaction with him about it, and trying to use your stepdaughter instead?

You're a man (I think?! :saint: ), so act like one and tell him like it is (as per the dialogue I suggested in previous post). :yes:

[Weedmage Princess]

Man thing, pssh.

Who better than a woman to humiliate a man?! It's our God given right, damn it!!!

But in this case, Tendarian...you got to do it.

Do post your follow up story once you've done it. With pics, if possible :popcorn:

[Skirmisher]

One carefully applied swing of a baseball bat could correct all of the poor behaviors mentioned above.

[CrystalTears]

Maybe it's just me with the big mouth, but if I saw a youngster scratching his balls in my presence, the first thing I'd do is watch him with a disgusted face and follow up with, "Do you mind?!". Of course that may not work very well but I'D sure feel better.

Joking aside, you need to be the one to tell him. He may think it's okay because you're a guy and would understand and needs to know that it's not something you approve of.

[Edited on 5/24/2004 by CrystalTears]

[Wezas]

Originally posted by Atlanteax
I bet it makes you wonder why your step-daughter is dating him? :shrug:

For the same reason TheE's sister is dating that geeky jewish kid. http://www.buddysite.com/naughty/buddysite-05221.gif

I was unable to access the normal icon from Klaive's site, so I had to improvise.

[Tendarian]

The reason i dont want to do it is cause im not his mom or dad. I hate yelling at people who im not responsible for. But i guess in this case you are all right. But that doesnt mean i want to do it :) I dont want to be an asshole to this kid as he is alright for the most part. So at the very least it will be the polite way with the tube of crap. I know Anticor would probably beat the kid within an inch of his life and say shit flat out but thats not my style. If i can get along with someone who im going to have to be around i want it to be as smooth as possible. If he wasnt over here so much it wouldnt be a problem,i told my gf's brother to piss off numerous times but thats because i know i will only see him a few times a year and theres no real reason to get along with him when he acts like an asshole.

[Atlanteax]

Originally posted by Wezas

Originally posted by Atlanteax
I bet it makes you wonder why your step-daughter is dating him? :shrug:

For the same reason TheE's sister is dating that geeky jewish kid. http://www.buddysite.com/naughty/buddysite-05221.gif

I was unable to access the normal icon from Klaive's site, so I had to improvise.

:eek: (at the sight of Wezas' emicon)

Though I want to see TheE's reaction to that.... :popcorn2:

[Tendarian]

The real reason im suspecting is she bosses him around like most people do dogs. He does her laundry he goes and gets her food he waits on her hand and foot and she still yells at him. Yep thats right im raising a grade A bitch. Being 17 i hope she grows out of this.

[Wezas]

Originally posted by Atlanteax

Originally posted by Wezas
For the same reason TheE's sister is dating that geeky jewish kid. http://www.buddysite.com/naughty/buddysite-05221.gif

I was unable to access the normal icon from Klaive's site, so I had to improvise.

:eek: (at the sight of Wezas' emicon)

Though I want to see TheE's reaction to that.... :popcorn2:

http://forum.gsplayers.com/viewthread.php?tid=6653

Forgive the missing icons in the thread, they are linked to Klaive's site which is down.

[Atlanteax]

Originally posted by Wezas
[Forgive the missing icons in the thread, they are linked to Klaive's site which is down.

Oh, I remember the thread... I'm just refering to that particular emicron.

It does more for the imagination than simple words... especially since he hates thinking about it. :lol:

[Mint]

I had a coworker that would reach down and 'adjust' himself everytime he talked to me. He did it in a very casual manner. He would just reach down and sort of tweak himself in the middle of conversations. I don't think he was even aware he was doing it. I always wanted to scream "buy better fitting underwear you weirdo!". Of course, I did nothing of the sort but still....

[DeV]

Or perhaps he wanted to draw your attention to the lower extremities in an oh so subtle manner.

[AnticorRifling]

Sometimes the boys need a position change.

[Satira]

I say you give him the cream, start calling him "Sack Hands" (as loudly as possible), and point out you don't want his nut scabies on your remote control.

[Wezas]

Originally posted by AnticorRifling
Sometimes the boys need a position change.

^^ exactly. Though try to be discreet about it.