Why is my friend acting like an ass...again

[DianaBanana]

So I've known Matt since I was 12 years old but over the last year or so he's turned into a total turd.

For example, tonight I mentioned I wouldnt be seeing Josh on friday night. I told Matt that Josh and his sister were taking his parents out to dinner in NYC for their anniversary. Matt then says to me, "He didnt invite you?" and I reply with, "Why would he do that? It's his parents anniversary, we've only been dating a month and they havent met me."

Matt then tells me that I'm messed up for feeling that way and he doesnt understand why I wouldnt be invited. Again I repeat to him why I wouldnt be invited and he goes on about how thats retarded.

Finally, I tell Matt I'm sick of him insulting me lately and he's obviously got something up his ass because he's always attacking me. The conversation ended with that.

Matt has been pulling this shit now on and off for the last year or so and I really just dont understand why. I dunno...I just needed to rant.

[Edited on 3-26-2004 by DianaBanana]

[MaryJane]

he wants you. bad.

[DianaBanana]

Originally posted by MaryJane
he wants you. bad.

Please dont make me puke. He's got a slutty girlfriend that he's quite content with.

[GSLeloo]

Yeah maybe he just wants you.

[AnticorRifling]

Originally posted by MaryJane
he wants you. bad.

I think she's on to something.

[Hulkein]

Well if it's any comfort I wouldn't have invited either, and I don't think if I was in your shoes I'd really want to go anyway, something wrong with your friend.

He probably does want you, as MJ said.

[Artha]

He totally wants you.

[DianaBanana]

Yeah I never would have expected to be invited. I'm glad he's doing something nice for his parents...I think it's sweet. I dont know why Matt constantly feels the need to put me down and make me feel crappy about myself. This is why I only see him maybe one or twice a month now.

[MaryJane]

I know how you feel, I have a friend, just broke up with his girlfriend, who I was happy to see him with so he'd stop hitting on me.. and he acts like you described all the time.

[HarmNone]

Umm, yup. I have to agree with the others. He wants you.:smug:

HarmNone

[DianaBanana]

Originally posted by HarmNone
Umm, yup. I have to agree with the others. He wants you.:smug:

HarmNone

Sure seems like a stupid way of showing it. I'd never date him though...I'd end up beating the crap out of him weekly.

[MaryJane]

And he knows it! that's why he's mean!

[Bobmuhthol]

I want you.


OH NOEZ I MEANT HE WANTS YOU.

[Edited on 3-26-2004 by Bobmuhthol]

[DianaBanana]

Originally posted by Bobmuhthol
I want you.

Can you promise not to piss me off on a regular basis? LOL Wait a sec, you're way too young and I'm all crazy for Josh at the moment. Step off boy! :P

[Mint]

There is also the alternative...maybe Matt likes Josh. Hell, I dont know. Actually I would go with the popular theory that Matt likes you and is trying to drive a wedge between you and your boyfriend. Hell, I have no idea what I am talking about so I will stop now.

[Snapp]

No doubt he wants you. Insulting you/your boyfriend is just a defense mechanism.

[DianaBanana]

The little bitch also makes fun of my degree and my crappy job. Sorry, not the way to win a girls heart. Honestly, I think he's got a huge bug up his ass or something.

[DeV]

yeah.. what Snapp said.

[Ravenstorm]

Yup. He wants you.

Raven

[Latrinsorm]

Originally posted by DianaBanana
I'd end up beating the crap out of him weekly. Maybe that's why he wants you.

[TheEschaton]

I know he wants you. Why? Personal experience.


I definately wanted my best friend Jessica (who I've known since I was 13 or 14), but I was dating, by the time I broke up, she was dating some guy....anyways. By the time I got over my last girlfriend and decided I really did want Jess, she was dating this guy, Matt.

I, of course, insulted Matt at every possible instance. He took her virginity, whatever, blah, blah blah.

The best part of this all? I turned out to be a liberal freak, my friend Jessica (still my friend) turned out to be a Republican, and her boyfriend Matt, who is now a friend of mine, turned out to be a liberal freak as well.

They're getting married in September.

-TheE-

[Kuyuk]

I agree that your friend Matt wants you.



Kuyuk

[Skirmisher]

he wants you. bad.


Yeah maybe he just wants you.


I think she's on to something.


He probably does want you, as MJ said.


He totally wants you.


Umm, yup. I have to agree with the others. He wants you.


No doubt he wants you.


Yup. He wants you.


I agree that your friend Matt wants you.


In summation:


Billy Crystal (Harry Burns): You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Meg Ryan (Sally Albright): Why not?
Billy Crystal (Harry): What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Meg Ryan (Sally): That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Billy Crystal (Harry): No you don't.
Meg Ryan (Sally): : Yes I do.
Billy Crystal (Harry): No you don't.
Meg Ryan (Sally): Yes I do.
Billy Crystal (Harry): You only think you do.
Meg Ryan (Sally): You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Billy Crystal (Harry):: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Meg Ryan (Sally): They do not!
Billy Crystal (Harry): Do too.
Meg Ryan (Sally): They do not.
Billy Crystal (Harry): Do too.
Meg Ryan (Sally): How do you know?
Billy Crystal (Harry):Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Meg Ryan (Sally): So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Billy Crystal (Harry): No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Meg Ryan (Sally): What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Billy Crystal (Harry): Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Meg Ryan (Sally): Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Billy Crystal (Harry): I guess not.
Meg Ryan (Sally): That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

[Nakiro]

Yes, he wants you. He is also insecure, hence the slutty girlfriend, the demeaning attitude, and his unwillingness to come forth and tell you how he feels about your relationship.

I mean, really.

I don't blame you for not being attracted to him though. His attitude doesn't seem to merit your attention. But, you should really talk with him about stuff and ask him whats on his mind.

[Atlanteax]

No wonder why women thinks guys are confusing... just like it's an universal truth among men that women are confusing.

.

Yep, he's interested in you, is trying to make himself look better by putting your boyfriend down...

... but is also being somewhat rude to you, because he seems to realized that the chances of you two hooking up are too slim... and so he gives into the negativity of not being able to hook up with you and becomes abrasive with you at times.

[Sean]

Diana: everyone needs to stop saying matt likes me or i will puke
Diana: all over this keyboard

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Matt likes you.

[Edited on 3-26-2004 by Tijay]

[DianaBanana]

Damnit...how much does a replacement keyboard cost?

Honestly though, him and I have been at odds for the last year. Everything use to be cool then one day he got all mean and shit. Oh well, it's not like he's the only person I have to hang out with.

[Sweets]

Originally posted by DianaBanana
Damnit...how much does a replacement keyboard cost?

Honestly though, him and I have been at odds for the last year. Everything use to be cool then one day he got all mean and shit. Oh well, it's not like he's the only person I have to hang out with.

That's the day he starting wanting you. Remember when boys used to beat you up in the school yard if they liked you? Yeah.....he's pulling your pigtails hard.

[Myshel]

Originally posted by Sweets

Originally posted by DianaBanana
Damnit...how much does a replacement keyboard cost?

Honestly though, him and I have been at odds for the last year. Everything use to be cool then one day he got all mean and shit. Oh well, it's not like he's the only person I have to hang out with.

That's the day he starting wanting you. Remember when boys used to beat you up in the school yard if they liked you? Yeah.....he's pulling your pigtails hard.

Bah you beat me to that, my thoughts exactly.

[DianaBanana]

You'd think after knowing me all these years he would realize he doesnt stand a chance. :grr:

[Miss X]

Remember, men are crap at reading signals. An ex friend of mine used to hit on me every time we were out, I never responded but he kept at it even when I wasn't single. I dropped hint after hint, men just seem a little slow when it comes to reading women. ;)

[TheEschaton]

Shit, there's a secretary at work who's constantly (I think) flirting with me, but I dare not act on it because, well, I know I'm misinterpreting something.

I have this rule: You do not interpret anything, you wait until it is said outright, from a reliable source.


So, women, if your boyfriend asks you what's wrong, and you're really upset.....tell them what's upsetting you. Don't say, "Nothing's wrong", because we'll take you on your word.

-TheE-

[Nakiro]

Originally posted by DianaBanana
You'd think after knowing me all these years he would realize he doesnt stand a chance. :grr:

HENCE WHY HE IS FUCKING PISSED AT YOU.

[Galleazzo]

Originally posted by DianaBanana
You'd think after knowing me all these years he would realize he doesnt stand a chance. :grr:
Why would that stop him from wanting to nail you? Ever wanted a guy that you'd admit to yourself in an honest moment you had no shot with?

[Galleazzo]

Originally posted by Miss X
Remember, men are crap at reading signals. An ex friend of mine used to hit on me every time we were out, I never responded but he kept at it even when I wasn't single. I dropped hint after hint, men just seem a little slow when it comes to reading women. ;)
Women are crap at giving signals, and they're downright allergic to telling you jack. Did you ever tell him outright "Please stop hitting on me, I'm taken?" Not "hinted." TOLD him.

[Miss X]

No because I didn't wanna be that blunt and hurt his feelings.

[Bobmuhthol]

<<No because I didn't wanna be that blunt and hurt his feelings.>>

What a dumb thing to do...

[Miss X]

:shrug: it seemed like the best option at the time. All worked out in the end so no harm was done really.

[Galleazzo]

Sorry, I agree with Bob. How do you spare a guy's feelings when you want to get the message across that you don't want him and you want him to stop pestering you? You're rejecting him and you want him to know that, so how does he avoid feeling rejected?

That's what I mean about women being crap at sending signals.

[Edaarin]

The worst shit is when girls talk to your friends about you, or talk to you about your friend. I don't want to tell one of my roommates that you think he's really sweet, but he's just not your type. Nut up and tell him yourself (yes, pun intended).

[Galleazzo]

I hate that when anyone does that, gal or guy. "So you got a beef with my friend (brother, lover, employee). Whatcha think I ought to do about it?"