On Celibacy.

[Mint]

Just thought that an 'alternate lifestyle' choice deserved a thread.

Any thoughts?

[Bobmuhthol]

Celibacy is for people who need an excuse because they aren't getting any.

[GSLeloo]

Well... I think it's actually safer and it's a personal choice. there's no risk of getting an STD or getting pregnant. I have nothing against having sex before marriage and I don't care what other people do. I'm not really sure yet what I am personally going to do... but either way I don't plan on having sex on a first or second date. I plan to wait until I feel I love the guy and if they can't wait that long then they weren't worth it.

[Miss X]

Its really a personal choice, I have a lot of respect for people that manage it. Would I date someone who never wanted to have sex? Sorry, no. Call me shallow or whatever but for me to fall in love with someone there has to be that physical connection as well as the emotional one.

I really cant get my head around people that dont want to have sex, I mean I dont sleep around by any stretch of the imagination but life with no sex? No thanks.....

[DeV]

Celibacy is great.. all about personal choice. To each his own.

[Suppa Hobbit Mage]

I dated the same women through most of college, and probably on our second date she told me she was waiting for marriage, to have sex.

We dated for 4 years and admitedly some things progressed to oral sex, we did not have intercourse. It was one of the best relationships emotionally and intellectually I've ever been in. I was most comfortable around her, and we talked about everything and anything.

I don't regret us breaking up, and we are still great friends today (albeit we don't talk as much). I think it was a life saver for me, to meet and date such a person in college -- I respected her then and I respect her today for doing what many do not.

[Galleazzo]

Anyone catch the results last week of the survey that showed that teenagers who took an abstinence pledge got STDs and got pregnant at the same rates as teens who didn't take the pledge?

[Satira]

All I can say is, that's their choice. But, BOY are they missing out. I'm not endorsing going around and having sex with 900 people or anything, but yay for good sex with someone you really love. Screw marriage.

[HarmNone]

I see it as a personal choice. Since we are unable to look into another's thoughts to see why they make such a choice, I feel we must trust that it is the right thing for them at this point in their lives. To my mind, it is nobody's business what somebody else chooses to do, or not to do.

HarmNone

[Latrinsorm]

Originally posted by Galleazzo
Anyone catch the results last week of the survey that showed that teenagers who took an abstinence pledge got STDs and got pregnant at the same rates as teens who didn't take the pledge? All that shows is teenagers are wishy-washy or that teenagers lie on surveys.

One of the most fun moments of my high school career was when they gave us a survey to fill out (and gave us a fucking hour and a half to do so, the thing took maybe 7 minutes) so we, being mostly punk kids, decided to read out loud along with our choices. I didn't even know it was possible to have more than 20 drinks a day, but quite a few kids chose that option (and one probably actually did it, but that's another story). The sex section was even more intriguing. Apparently those kids never slept.

And if the school administration happens to be reading this, I took that survey very seriously and dissuaded my peers from laughing it off as much as possible. Really.

Also: I picked the religion one. :)

[Mint]

I included that choice just for you Latrin.

[Latrinsorm]

Originally posted by Mint
I included that choice just for you Latrin. :heart:

If I had Bob's artistic talent, you'd have like 90 poorly formatted Paint things right now.

[Souzy]

Originally posted by Galleazzo
Anyone catch the results last week of the survey that showed that teenagers who took an abstinence pledge got STDs and got pregnant at the same rates as teens who didn't take the pledge?

ROFL!

I respect anyones choice. Promiscuous or not. Just as long as you're not a cunt, I don't care what choices you make. Oh, and know the out come of what you choose. So if you choose to have sex and you should catch anything or get pregnant, it's your own damn fault.

[Lord Deprav]

I dumped a girl because she was getting in the way of school for me and decided not to get any until I can get my grades up and deal with destractions in my life. I also told several of my friends to their face that I cannot talk to them for a while because they are a distraction. Of course, I am fucked up.

Deprav

[Satira]

And your name is Deprav so that basically makes sense.

[Snapp]

I don't see it as a big deal... whatever floats your boat really. Would I date someone who was celibate? Sure, if I liked them enough. Sex is such a small part of a relationship (or should be anyway). Would I choose to be celibate? Hell no.

[Satira]

Yeah, honestly, I wouldn't make it dating someone who was celibate. I would try doing it sure, but after a while if I really cared about them I would want to be with them physically.

[Galleazzo]

The take of the researchers on that survey was that while teens taking the pledge weren't having as much sex, they didn't have protection on hand if they did.

[Zeyrin]

You forgot the one about having celibacy bestowed up on you.

Anywho, if you choose celibacy, more power to you. If you choose to date someone for the challenge of breaking their celebacy, you're a sad individual.

[longshot]

Originally posted by Suppa Hobbit Mage
I dated the same women through most of college, and probably on our second date she told me she was waiting for marriage, to have sex.

We dated for 4 years and admitedly some things progressed to oral sex, we did not have intercourse. It was one of the best relationships emotionally and intellectually I've ever been in. I was most comfortable around her, and we talked about everything and anything.

I don't regret us breaking up, and we are still great friends today (albeit we don't talk as much). I think it was a life saver for me, to meet and date such a person in college -- I respected her then and I respect her today for doing what many do not.

I'm glad it worked out for you... but you have to admit, experience wise, there is an incredibly high "opportunity cost" of remaining celibate through college.

[Warriorbird]

Hey. It's a personal choice for some folks. I certainly wasn't looking to make it, but I can respect some folks choosing that.

[Myshel]

I'm sorry but I don't think "doing everything but intercourse" is celibacy. I had a g/f who said her and her bf didn't have intercourse because they were waiting for marriage, but had oral sex, mutual masturbation and regular orgasms. I said, ummm so whats the difference?

[Warriorbird]

It's Bill Clinton celibacy.

[Miss X]

Originally posted by Myshel
I'm sorry but I don't think "doing everything but intercourse" is celibacy. I had a g/f who said her and her bf didn't have intercourse because they were waiting for marriage, but had oral sex, mutual masturbation and regular orgasms. I said, ummm so whats the difference?

I couldn't agree more. For me, if someone is celibate they are having no sexual contact at all.
If someone is doing everything but intercorse then they are not even close to celibacy, its a personal choice but if I felt the need to wait till I was married to have sex that would include oral sex, mutual masturbation etc. Guess it depends on what we personally class as sex/sexual contact though.