How bad can I be with dating?

[Revalos]

Sorry I haven't been keeping folks up to date with my amazing social life stories like I was before I went to Iraq, but this one merits an update.

So I meet this girl through my most favorite/most hated dating service, It's Just Lunch (yes, I am still doing that ridiculous thing, but I haven't paid another dime for it since the initial buy-in, so I figured why not keep my options open). We go out on a kind of awkward date to a Jazz club in DC (of course since these are all blind dates they usually are awkward). It wasn't really bad or good either way, but we both have some things in common and think seeing each other again would be cool, so we keep in touch.

We meet again for dinner at one of my favorite restaurants in DC and it was awesome. Perfect weather, margaritas, and great conversation. This feels better than the other dates I've done, I could see this going places.

But of course, this is all leading up to the ultimate let down...

I invite her to a Nats game which she tells me is a great idea and can't wait since she's never been to one, but then she sends me an e-mail Monday saying that she's underwater at work, which I can empathize with, and suggests instead we plan for something on the weekend.

So I suggest maybe seeing a DC United game then or if she's really burnt out from work, we can just hang out in Georgetown instead. She counters yesterday evening with the fact that she's been kind of feeling sick this week and might just want to do a movie instead. Early this morning, I send an e-mail saying that works for me, and that I'd take a look at what was playing unless she had a preference and we could set it up.

Boom, then she sends an e-mail around noon that says the following:

I am not sure if I can make it out this weekend. I am actually starting to get exclusive with one guy and think I am going to see where it goes. I have enjoyed getting to know you and think you are a really great guy! Best of luck in your search.

WTF?

I mean, kudos to her for being honest and not stringing me along in case this guy doesn't work out, but that first sentence is kind of weird. Why even say that? Then throw that overused bullshit statement at the end. I mean, I realize it is only the third date, but did I fuck something up during this process that just made her uninterested? Should I have just been berating her since the first date about how awesome she is and how we should totally start going out immediately instead of just playing it cool and scheduling stuff?

Is it expected that we are supposed to be fucking by the 3rd date or talking about baby names? What the hell happened to getting to know someone, or is chemistry all about first impressions? If she was getting serious with somebody, why join a dating service anyway? If she's just flat lying and found some other guy last night and fucked his brains out and that is why she doesn't think we need to go out anymore, wow...am I missing something or just overanalyzing this like I tend to do?

Just to keep you apprised on the dating service score since I got back from Iraq in August:

-12 dates
-5 exchanged phone numbers, 2 didn't merit it, 5 got mine but didn't give me theirs (and never called me obviously)
-2 second dates (including this one, the other girl was really boring and we both didn't see a reason to see each other again, the other three I called and never called me back)
-1 stalker who I had to callblock after the first date, she's a doozy

W00t, I'm awesome at this!

[StrayRogue]

Women = cunts.

[Endlin]

Chicks in this area are... Man I dunno what they are... If I could figure it out I'd tell you.

Edit: Her loss on the Dc United game... Them is fun. Barra Brava and shit.

[Methais]

What the hell happened to getting to know someone, or is chemistry all about first impressions?

Sounds like she started getting to know that other guy (probably from the same dating service) before she started to get to know you.

Not sure what all the flipping out is about. Other than the general fact that women = cunts like SR indicated.

My advice:
http://i216.photobucket.com/albums/cc278/hunkydoryinoc_2007/vintage%20funny/0185.jpg

[Allereli]

Knowing your history you'll probably get H1N1 from one of them.

[Danical]

1. Single
2. Sexy
3. Sane

Pick 2.

[Revalos]

I wouldn't have flipped out except for the timeline being:

Last night - wants to see movie on the weekend
This morning - getting serious with other guy, bye

That must have been one hell of a night.

[Methais]

http://smosapparel.com.au/images/products/description/17.jpg

[Methais]

I wouldn't have flipped out except for the timeline being:

Last night - wants to see movie on the weekend
This morning - getting serious with other guy, bye

That must have been one hell of a night.

She probably liked the guy a lot, the guy played his cards right by not calling her for a while, then when he finally did call she was like OMFG I THOUGHT I LOST U FOREVAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111111111 and melted.

Or maybe she found out she has AIDS. Never know.

[Revalos]

She probably liked the guy a lot, the guy played his cards right by not calling her for a while, then when he finally did call she was like OMFG I THOUGHT I LOST U FOREVAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111111111 and melted.

Huh, I'll have to remember that one. Maybe I'll try it on stalker chick if she tries to strip and jump on me again.

[Methais]

Huh, I'll have to remember that one. Maybe I'll try it on stalker chick if she tries to strip and jump on me again.

So stalker chick strips her clothes off and jumps on you...

...and you did what?

[Revalos]

...and you did what?

her.

The problem was that she got VERY WEIRD afterwards. Like Baptist religious nutjobby weird. Crazy sex is good sex though...but crazy is not fun for a relationship.

[Methais]

Oh ok. I thought you were all like WTF R U DOING PUT UR CLOTHES BACK ON NOWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!

In which case I would have had to:
http://www.demotivateus.com/posters/slap-bitch-demotivational-poster.jpg

I require more details on this baptist religious nutjob weirdness. Sounds like good entertainment.

[The Ponzzz]

Sounds like that dating service doesn't support the women that would be easily interested in you. I don't think this girl flipped the switch. I think she was looking to buy time, but you were persistent in calling her. I think during the time she was "sick" and "flooded with work" she was finding someone else.

[Revalos]

I require more details on this baptist religious nutjob weirdness. Sounds like good entertainment.

In due time, in due time. I must partake in the wonders of alcohol momentarily to get me out of this funk. Which reminds me, we haven't done a DC drink-a-thon recently. We should correct that.


Sounds like that dating service doesn't support the women that would be easily interested in you. I don't think this girl flipped the switch. I think she was looking to buy time, but you were persistent in calling her. I think during the time she was "sick" and "flooded with work" she was finding someone else.

That is always a possibility, I am not exactly Casanova here. But I can't see that I was being overly persistent with her. I called her once two days after going out, when we set up the second date which was like a week later, then called a few days later to set up the Nats game thing, which was this week. If that is pestering, wow. If she really wasn't that interested, why even go out on the second date at all?

[Methais]

Maybe you should try some E-HARMONY. If it's anything like the commercials, you'll be married to the female equivalent of you in 3 months.

[Dwarven Empath]

I say keep trying. WTF have you to lose? Maybe the next one will be the... or maybe not.

What is so bad about dating? Keep trying.

Someone out there will like you.

[AnticorRifling]

You're trying to hard and like fear it can be smelled. It will happens when it happens.

[TheEschaton]

Women like being ignored. I've been ignoring this girl I love for nigh on 6 years. It's gonna happen soon, one of these days. I'm thinking at her wedding.

Yeah, I have no idea.

-TheE-

[4a6c1]

Women = cunts.

What he is trying to say is women are too much trouble. Try a 13 year old.

[Methais]

What he is trying to say is women are too much trouble. Try a 13 year old.

You can even rape them, as long as it's not RAPE rape.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NX_D0Bv9M0

[Skeeter]

you're probably being too nice. Women love to be treated like shit. Odd but true.

When I learned this little tidbit I went from massive dry spells to full-on poon hound.

[Drew]

1. Single
2. Sexy
3. Sane

Pick 2.

1. Good looking
2. Emotionally stable
3. Intelligent

pick any two.

[Shari]

You're trying to hard and like fear it can be smelled. It will happens when it happens.

God help me, but he is so right about this.

[diethx]

Sounds like she started getting to know that other guy (probably from the same dating service) before she started to get to know you.

That.

Also, I thought you went to Iraq for some chick that you were with? WTF happened to that?

[iJin]

Your first problem is that you're paying to date.

[Archigeek]

Tried e-Harmony for a while. Not bad, but when you know all the statistical stuff about someone, you still don't know if the chemistry is there. All you have is kind of a cardboard cut out of a person.

It's kind of like the difference between farm raised salmon and fresh caught wild salmon, you know what I mean? The latter tastes great. The other? Not so much.

I may give e-Harmony another shot though. I think you can find someone right through them, and I think it's a little better than a lot of the other services. At least you'll have SOME things in common, but don't expect to hit it off imediately.

[AnticorRifling]

God help me, but he is so right about this. Like I'm ever wrong. :)

[ElvenFury]

wow...am I missing something or just overanalyzing this like I tend to do?

You're missing the part where she wants you to park outside her home and watch her through a set of binoculars for a couple weeks.

Other ways to win over a woman:
- Steal her mail. It helps reduce her stress (no one likes bills anyway), and if you read it, it will help you connect to her on a deeper level.
- Write her several love letters a day and leave them in fun places for her to find (e.g. her favorite bathroom stall in her workplace, or her kid's backpack).
- Sign all correspondence with "I'm watching you". This will let her know you are concerned about her. All women want a caring and attentive man.
- Contact as many of her friends and associates as you can, and introduce yourself as her fiance. This will help break the ice before the inevitable dinner dates and such that you'll be doing as groups, and it will also give you an opportunity to dig for more info about your true love.
- Finally; Never give in! Women like persistence. It's proven by evolution... or something. The point is that if you never give up, then you've never really lost!

[4a6c1]

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[Atlanteax]

You're missing the part where she wants you to park outside her home and watch her through a set of binoculars for a couple weeks.

Other ways to win over a woman:
- Steal her mail. It helps reduce her stress (no one likes bills anyway), and if you read it, it will help you connect to her on a deeper level.
- Write her several love letters a day and leave them in fun places for her to find (e.g. her favorite bathroom stall in her workplace, or her kid's backpack).
- Sign all correspondence with "I'm watching you". This will let her know you are concerned about her. All women want a caring and attentive man.
- Contact as many of her friends and associates as you can, and introduce yourself as her fiance. This will help break the ice before the inevitable dinner dates and such that you'll be doing as groups, and it will also give you an opportunity to dig for more info about your true love.
- Finally; Never give in! Women like persistence. It's proven by evolution... or something. The point is that if you never give up, then you've never really lost!

Epic Lawl

[Martaigne]

You're missing the part where she wants you to park outside her home and watch her through a set of binoculars for a couple weeks.

Other ways to win over a woman:
- Steal her mail. It helps reduce her stress (no one likes bills anyway), and if you read it, it will help you connect to her on a deeper level.
- Write her several love letters a day and leave them in fun places for her to find (e.g. her favorite bathroom stall in her workplace, or her kid's backpack).
- Sign all correspondence with "I'm watching you". This will let her know you are concerned about her. All women want a caring and attentive man.
- Contact as many of her friends and associates as you can, and introduce yourself as her fiance. This will help break the ice before the inevitable dinner dates and such that you'll be doing as groups, and it will also give you an opportunity to dig for more info about your true love.
- Finally; Never give in! Women like persistence. It's proven by evolution... or something. The point is that if you never give up, then you've never really lost!

This is awesome on whole new levels of awesome that haven't even been discovered yet!