Were you spanked as a child?

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[Bobmuhthol]

I'm going to assume that no one is capable of making this plan before, say, 5. This kid would need to get spanked literally every day.

[Jahira]

Wow, but I still think spanking has it place child development. It teaches a child that their malfeasance (is this the proper time to use that?) has consequences.

[LMingrone]

A lot of parents are more moronic than their children. I got a light whooping as a kid when I did stupid shit that I knew was wrong, and I deserved it. It was justified.

Until we hear more about this case, there's no way to tell if this kid was abused, just naturally crazy, justified, or just F'd in the head. Either way it's the parent's fault for not realizing a problem. Not trying to say what the kid did was right.

[Bobmuhthol]

Maybe he was using base 2 or something and only took 8 spankings before snapping.

[Jahira]

Maybe he was using base 2 or something and only took 8 spankings before snapping.

HAHAHAHA. I laughed out loud. I am in the middle of watching a movie with my girlfriend and she is looking at me funny. This is one of those situations where if you try to explain it, it just doesn't work.

[Proxy]

I'll admit I was. Mostly by the nuns at the school I went to. Twards the end of my stay I would get in trouble just so they would. :> Those nuns were hot.

[Gan]

I'm willing to bet there's more to this story than what the OP article points out. As in there's something mentally wrong with the child accused.

I had an abusive step-father and yet I never followed through with my wishes to see him dead.

[Tea & Strumpets]

I was spanked a few times as a kid. I only remember my dad hitting me once, and that was for lying to him, and I think that was a slap in the face (my sister threw a party while my parents were on vacation, got caught by the housesitter, and I told my sister not to worry about it because I would just say that there was no party and it would be our 2 words against the housesitters--I swear it seemed foolproof at the time!).

And if there's anything that these boards are for, it's playing amateur psychiatrist that doesn't know what the fuck he's talking about, so here's my analysis. It sounds like the dad had some power issues (incidents at work, local bars) and was taking it out on the kid so he could feel like he was finally the boss and in charge. I've seen other parents that are complete tyrants with their children, and sometimes it seems that the only reason they act that way is to hear their own voice yelling orders.

Also, the kid sounds nuts, but I can't really see an 8 year old making an informed decision about anything (unless it's choosing between a peanut butter & jelly sandwich or a grilled cheese sandwich). I would be more sympathetic and assume the kid had just cause, but I'm afraid the government is reading this and will send him to live with me.

[Baelog]

Too bad you left GS. You were hilarious, especially when you attacked Foxs right before you left.

Got logs? I rather enjoy seeing Foxs kicked around

[diethx]

I wasn't spanked too often as a kid, and I believe in spanking in moderation. Spanking though, as in with a hand, not a belt or stick they have to go forage for themselves (or any other sort of object).

[War Angel]

I was spanked here and there as a child. When my grandparents spanked us we did have to go outside and pick our own switch. My parents used a belt when they spanked us.
This usually came about when we had done incredibly stupid things, such as climbing on the roof, and jumping off into the pool, or having rock throwing wars with the neighbor kids, ending in someone getting hit in the head. (Those pantyhose eggs were the best to load mud into, as they exploded when they hit the neighbor kid.) Ding-dong ditching the neighborhood, or cooking bacon in a pan, in the neighbors back yard, over a "campfire" that spread to the surrounding brush.
I dont believe delivering an open hand swat to the butt of a 2 - 4 year old is harmful, but past that age, it becomes ridiculous and other methods should be used.

[diethx]

When my grandparents spanked us we did have to go outside and pick our own switch.

Ha, my J's parents used to make him do that. He said he learned real quick to always get the fatter ones cuz they sting less.

[War Angel]

The dead brittle ones were great, one or two smacks, and it was broken! :)

[onurb]

I was spanked with a paddle, a shoe, and several kinds of belts. Most of the time I probably did something wrong and deserved it, but not always. Also, there was a time a bar of soap was shoved in my mouth when I used inappropriate language.

I disagree with any type of physical punishment. I still cuss to this day when I deem it necessary. Nothing that they did effected how I am now other than teaching me violence.

Physical punishment only produces results in the short term, such as terrorist interrogations. But when using physical punishment to change someones long term behavior, it is anti-productive.

[Sweets]

A little swat on the butt, I see nothing wrong with. Some people have no limits though.

And how the heck did an 8 year old get his hands on a gun? That whole situation seemed seedy to me. If you have a gun in the house, make sure the kids can't get at it. Is it only me this sounds logical to?

[Nieninque]

I support spanking only between consenting adults.

Enforced upon someone else?
That's abusive, IMO.

[Methais]

I dont believe delivering an open hand swat to the butt of a 2 - 4 year old is harmful, but past that age, it becomes ridiculous and other methods should be used.

I agree. After 4 years old it's time to move on to powerbombs and roundhouses.

If the kid was planning murders by 8 years old, then he probably caused a tremendous amount of shit everyday like that kid from Problem Child, and probably deserved all the spankings he got, and then some.

The problem is the parents didn't step it up to powerbombs and roundhouses after 999 spankings, which would have also forced the kid to create a new ledger and have to start all over.

You know what really pisses me off? Parents on shows like Super Nanny that have no spine.

[Gan]

Physical punishment only produces results in the short term, such as terrorist interrogations. But when using physical punishment to change someones long term behavior, it is anti-productive.

Thats why smart parents usually follow any form of physical punishment up with some sort of cognitive interaction.

That usually requires parents to be smarter than the children though, so its not seen in every circumstance.

[ViridianAsp]

I was spanked....probably more than needed. But in some cases I did deserve it, it kept me in line.

I do support spanking, but in our house it is like the ultimate of ultimate punishments, first privileges are taken away, TV time, Sweets, Toys, Outside time, if he's gone through all of those being taken away, it's time out, if he fails to obey the time out rules, there is a spanking.

I mean my kid has to be an absolute hellion to get a spanking and by that time he definitely deserves it.

[Mighty Nikkisaurus]

Thats why smart parents usually follow any form of physical punishment up with some sort of cognitive interaction.

That usually requires parents to be smarter than the children though, so its not seen in every circumstance.

This.

When parents freak out and use spanking to correct every single behavior, do it while they are angry, and then don't have any interaction afterwards, that it's pretty much futile. Onurb's situation of being spanked for cussing is an example IMO where spanking wasn't really the appropriate punishment/route to correct the behavior.

[Methais]

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[Sean of the Thread]

When my grandparents spanked us we did have to go outside and pick our own switch.

Whenever my Grams made me go out back to pick a switch (willow tree of all trees in teh backyard) I wouldn't come back until they were in bed.

hehe

Then get my ass beat the next day for not coming back.

[Sean of the Thread]

That being said I've smacked my kids ass about 3 times in their lives not that it does any good with my hard heads. I've found timeouts are the best route.

Take away their webkins or just put them in bed for 10-15 minutes for a time out.

Usually they're acting up because they're overtired so they usually pass out in bed for a well needed nap.

I only discipline really when they're beating each other or putting themselves in danger. They know the serious rules that result in punitive action.

I'm afraid to do it anyways. Even if you leave a 5 minute red mark they'll take your kids and farm them here in FL.

[AnticorRifling]

When I was bad I was placed in a burlap sack and beat with reeds. Quite standard really.

[Mighty Nikkisaurus]

When I was bad I was placed in a burlap sack and beat with reeds. Quite standard really.

And when you were 14, did a Zoroastrian named Wilma ritualistically shave your testicles?

[ViridianAsp]

This.

When parents freak out and use spanking to correct every single behavior, do it while they are angry, and then don't have any interaction afterwards, that it's pretty much futile. Onurb's situation of being spanked for cussing is an example IMO where spanking wasn't really the appropriate punishment/route to correct the behavior.

There are times when you do get angry at your child. Usually it's when they aren't following the rules. So, uh..I don't know what you mean by being angry. It's more do you know how to keep yourself calm when angry at your kid.

[Mighty Nikkisaurus]

There are times when you do get angry at your child. Usually it's when they aren't following the rules. So, uh..I don't know what you mean by being angry. It's more do you know how to keep yourself calm when angry at your kid.

I meant angry as in out of control angry -- not calm, screaming, etc. By spanking when angry I'm talking about snapping and grabbing your kid and smacking him right then without being in full control of yourself and your emotions. It isn't such an issue with people like yourself who use it as a last resort and sparingly, but there are some people who react immediately to any anger at their child by spanking them, which I don't agree with.

[Sean of the Thread]

I got f'n soap in my mouth when I swore or took the <insert diety's> name in vain in my Grams house.

Then she got old enough where she started shitting herself so I'd make her sit in her shit diapers for 6 hours and remind her of the soap and fly swatters.

bwhwhahahah


J/K <3 Grams


She did shit herself at a grocery store once however.

[Methais]

And when you were 14, did a Zoroastrian named Wilma ritualistically shave your testicles?

I want you to take a bath with me. In Pepto Bismol. And shave my buttocks.

[Sean of the Thread]

I want you to take a bath with me. In Pepto Bismol. And shave my buttocks.


That much hair down the drain will clog the entire block.

Gotta think of the greater good man.

[Stanley Burrell]

Yes. Then they realized taking my video games away was a better utility at disciplining + shutting me up.

I guess that wouldn't work with a girl toddler. Parents need to make video games way cooler to females so that when I get older I can tap that unspanked ass while playing Donkey Kong.

[Methais]

Parents need to make video games way cooler to females so that when I get older I can tap that unspanked ass while playing Donkey Kong.

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[Stanley Burrell]

Godammit.