Hibachi...

[Widgets]

...So basically, I love Hibachi...But the stuff can get expensive as hell and so I'm torn.

My predicament is this...

Do I either,

A) Take out this girl to Hibachi, then grab a movie and bring it back to the house to watch.

B) Take her out to a more casual and cheaper dinner place, and still get the movie stuff afterwards..

The female I'm taking out, is one I've rather just met not too long ago, roughly a week ago and well...I'll be seeing her daily in the Summer as she and I are both on the staff at my workplace.

We've both expressed attraction to one another, however she is enjoying being single and just wants to have fun but is open to whatever goes down...While I just want someone to spend time with over the summer and see what comes of it, since after Summer I'm heading back to school so I'm not specifically looking for anything Relationship wise.

But if it happens, it happens. This girl thus far is amazing, and I'm pretty sure is interested in seeing what happens between us.

So, is the Hibachi a good call? Or should I go with something more inexpensive given the circumstances?

[Revalos]

I love your avatar! That shit happened to me right with a crawlspace trapdoor before I bought this house.

Anyway, being a chivalrous sort, I vote for plan A. Always go for the gusto.

You never know where things are going to go, maybe this is the start of something you never expected, or maybe it is just short term stuff.

Besides, the US economy needs more people to go out and get expensive meals.

[Hips]

Bringing her to the movies would be an extra what, $20 or $30? I say you do both.

[Revalos]

Ahh, but Michiko, then he would not have the girl at his place while watching the movies. I believe Widgets has unstated goals if you catch my drift.

[Hips]

I guess if he wants a chick who puts out on the first date, yeah, he could try that. :shrug:

[Lucas]

The age of the female and you matters most because this is a general indicator for seriousness factor. If not that serious, just take her out casually... Red Robin or Dennys and a movie with small popcorn and drinks. If serious shell out for the big bucks... you don't want her to get away. And nowadays I have found most American girls are whores or close to it. Generally, they would put out around the 4-7th date and yes I've been counting keeping track and even making statisitcal analysis of the whole thing.

But anyhow, I'm fairly well to do so I usually splurge on really nice restaurants even taking women out to GENUINE Chinese/Japanese food which can go for 100 fucks a plate.
This may contribute to me making faster progress on women. Also, I'm unsually smart beyond the normal populace and being that women are generally less smart then men this can make for easier prey. But anyhow to each their own.

[Peanut Butter Jelly Time]

If you want to get some, pay as much as physically possible if she rubs you as the slutty sort. (which may entail her actually rubbing you)

If she's not a giant skank, she'd be fine with the casual dinner, but you need to go out of your way to impress her, since the setting/food likely wont do much of the same.

[Tsa`ah]

Depends on two things ....

1. Does she share your appreciation or even understand that it's not the corner <insert ethnic food> dive?

2. As asked ... is this just to get into her pants.

If you're going to blow cash to impress her, well it's better that she's impressed rather than the sentiment missed.

[Widgets]

We've opted to hit up the Hibachi Establishment, which of course isn't a Franchise/Chain place since a normal chicken hibachi is going to run around 18 dollars. And while I'm not made of money, I want this first dinner to be nice...Because we're gonna have plenty of other craptastic ones with work I'm sure.

We are not going to see a Movie out Michiko, since she wanted to instead stay in and rent one at the house here. (Which I'm totally down for in case some snuggling ensues)

As for her being a slut, I highly doubt she is or at least hope not entirely. She's very mature and has alot of direction in life, right now she's substituting at Elementary Schools and working with me this summer. She's a Media Studies major at Providence.

Right now, I think we're just looking at each other as if prospective Summer flings with no strings really attached as a normal "Relationship" would entail, but afterwards I think we both have no idea what would happen since we will be in different states. And well, I personally hate long term stuff.

Normally, I'm pretty good with the ladies so I don't need much help with what to do, and figured this route would be good since it's our first "Outing" so to speak with just her and I. The other day it was us, along with 3 other people after a day of Painting at a local Italian eatery, so this technically I guess you could say, is our first date.

I'm sure we are going to enjoy the company of each other, and right now I want to establish a foundation for the time to come since we will be pretty close every week soon. And here's the lucky lady, soon to be spoiled :)

http://img209.imageshack.us/img209/2825/meagtr4.jpg

[Peanut Butter Jelly Time]

She's a Media Studies major at Providence.


Say no more. She's a slut.

[Stanley Burrell]

That blonde chick was too slow to hide her face from the camera behind the open cabinet draw. Good effort, though.

[Widgets]

That blonde chick was too slow to hide her face from the camera behind the open cabinet draw. Good effort, though.

rofl yea...That or she was lookin' for more food..

[Peanut Butter Jelly Time]

Fatty.

[longshot]

...So basically, I love Hibachi...But the stuff can get expensive as hell and so I'm torn.

My predicament is this...

Do I either,

A) Take out this girl to Hibachi, then grab a movie and bring it back to the house to watch.

B) Take her out to a more casual and cheaper dinner place, and still get the movie stuff afterwards..

The female I'm taking out, is one I've rather just met not too long ago, roughly a week ago and well...I'll be seeing her daily in the Summer as she and I are both on the staff at my workplace.



Can't you guys just use your employee discount at Chuck E. Cheese's?

How fucking cheap are you? Seriously...

[Widgets]

Can't you guys just use your employee discount at Chuck E. Cheese's?

How fucking cheap are you? Seriously...

I didn't think Chuck E. Cheese's had a Sports Director position, so I didn't bother applying there for the Summer, sorry.

Not to mention, it's practically our first "Date" if you want to call it that, since we really aren't looking for relationships right away, I'm not about to shell out a boat load for someone I may not even be with.

[Back]

Not to mention, it's practically our first "Date" if you want to call it that, since we really aren't looking for relationships right away, I'm not about to shell out a boat load for someone I may not even be with.

I think you’ve got it right. Don’t just start throwing diamonds at her feet if she has not proved to you that she is worth it. Plus it sets a bar for future expectations. Move in increments based on how well its going for you.

Enjoy the dinner and movie. As an aside, when healthy, straight, single men and women are together alone at one or the other’s place its the greenlight for go time.

[Widgets]

I think you’ve got it right. Don’t just start throwing diamonds at her feet if she has not proved to you that she is worth it. Plus it sets a bar for future expectations. Move in increments based on how well its going for you.

Enjoy the dinner and movie. As an aside, when healthy, straight, single men and women are together alone at one or the other’s place its the greenlight for go time.

haha Hell, even if other people were in this house..It's so damn big that it wouldn't matter, you can practically get lost in it since my one friend refers to it as the "Hotel"

But aye, I agree. Don't wanna set the bar too high in case things progress, but also not too low so that they possibly DO progress.

[The Ponzzz]

Hibachi is like what, $50 for two? Is that expensive?

[longshot]

I think you’ve got it right. Don’t just start throwing diamonds at her feet if she has not proved to you that she is worth it. Plus it sets a bar for future expectations. Move in increments based on how well its going for you.

Enjoy the dinner and movie. As an aside, when healthy, straight, single men and women are together alone at one or the other’s place its the greenlight for go time.

Widgets, this is THE guy that you want to listen to for advice on women. I think everyone here on the board can agree... nobody knocks them on their backs like the Backlash does.

On a serious note...

If she's not going to be your girlfriend, then don't pay for her. Split it. This isn't meant to sound callous... but, your paying raises her expectations of what you're going to do for her in the future.

Lower expectations. Over-deliver.

This is the best advice I can give. The result of anything you do will have drastically different outcomes based on the other person's expectations going in.

On a not so serious note...

Good luck as sports director. You should feel proud to have been given the awesome responsibility to lock the dodgeballs in the shed at night.

[Widgets]

Widgets, this is THE guy that you want to listen to for advice on women. I think everyone here on the board can agree... nobody knocks them on their backs like the Backlash does.

On a serious note...

If she's not going to be your girlfriend, then don't pay for her. Split it. This isn't meant to sound callous... but, your paying raises her expectations of what you're going to do for her in the future.

Lower expectations. Over-deliver.

This is the best advice I can give. The result of anything you do will have drastically different outcomes based on the other person's expectations going in.

On a not so serious note...

Good luck as sports director. You should feel proud to have been given the awesome responsibility to lock the dodgeballs in the shed at night.

ROFL...Ironic thing is, that's likely one thing I'll have to do. I took the job though since it mainly relates to my College Major as Kinesiology...I figured any experience not related to tossing burgers, delivering pizza etc is better.

Plus working with the kids is gonna be great and come in handy as well.

As for listening to Back, I tend to think I have highly good skill in that field as well.

As for splitting the bill and so forth..Whether or not she's my girlfriend, I still have much respect for the ladies and enjoy doing this sort of thing for the more deserving ones..So paying for her, as Mario mentioned ~$40-50 bill, that's not that expensive at all. However cheaper methods could easily be obtained like going to a stupid Chain Steak Restaurant like Texas Roadhouse, even if they have great bread!

[Tisket]

...So basically, I love Hibachi...But the stuff can get expensive as hell and so I'm torn.


I'm confused.

I thought Hibachi was a method of cooking over a portable brazier, much like barbeque? You can get ingredients pretty cheaply if this is the case. And bonus, she gets to see you being domestic and cooking for her.

Or is there an actual restaurant called "Hibachi" you are referring to in your post?

[Widgets]

I'm confused.

I thought Hibachi was a method of cooking over a portable brazier, much like barbeque? You can get ingredients pretty cheaply if this is the case. And bonus, she gets to see you being domestic and cooking for her.

Or is there an actual restaurant called "Hibachi" you are referring to in your post?

Hibachi is a form of Japanese cooking I'd presume. Alot of Japanese Steakhouses sell it, and cook it in front of you etc, put on a little show as well for an experience.

While I COULD cook for her...By golly, we aren't even dating yet I'd say, so that is out of the question. If things get more serious, I'll whip out more smooth stuff

[Tisket]

I would have so put out on the first date had my husband cooked for me. Just sayin.

[Widgets]

I would have so put out on the first date had my husband cooked for me. Just sayin.

I don't really consider this a date though exclusively. More so of a, Let's go out you and I and see what happens.

Don't forget too, afterwards we are getting a movie and bringing it back to the house. She had no hesitation at all when she said she wanted to rent a movie and come back here either :)

[Peanut Butter Jelly Time]

Am I the only one who sees past this coy, akward charade? He says they aren't looking for a relationship, but they're going to go out for dinner. He says he doesn't want to overpay for what is an otherwise casual dinner, and that she would rather go to his place, than a movie.

Why am I the only one who realizes this is just a pair of friends with benefits beginning their akward journey into nothingness? They'll call each other up, bang each other's lights out, then two months from now, they'll pray to not so much as ever see each others' face.

Long story short, the answers have been provided. 1) if I am right, and she's just looking for a "good time"... either flaunt the cash or do something else to wow her where it counts. 2) if I'm wrong, like I never am (ok, sometimes am...)(ok, always am.) then take her out to a nice dinner, call her redheaded friend to figure out her favorite movie, and watch that with her in your arms, on le couch.

NOTE: If I am, in fact, wrong... Don't fuck it up. You may not be looking for a relationship, and she may say she isn't, but you both are. A large majority of the human race NEEDS companionship, and regardless of whether they admit it or not, it's hard to discount the force a relationship has on your mind, and if all goes well, your body.

[Parkbandit]

I'm confused.

I thought Hibachi was a method of cooking over a portable brazier, much like barbeque? You can get ingredients pretty cheaply if this is the case. And bonus, she gets to see you being domestic and cooking for her.

Or is there an actual restaurant called "Hibachi" you are referring to in your post?


Same here. Back in my day, a Hibachi was a cheap cast "iron" portable outdoor BBQ grill that you brought to tailgate with.. because it was a 1 or 2 use item only.

Here is the 'deluxe' model.. DOUBLE the size!

http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e6/belike53/sc_habachi.jpg

[Tisket]

Am I the only one who sees past this coy, akward charade? He says they aren't looking for a relationship, but they're going to go out for dinner. He says he doesn't want to overpay for what is an otherwise casual dinner, and that she would rather go to his place, than a movie.

Why am I the only one who realizes this is just a pair of friends with benefits beginning their akward journey into nothingness? They'll call each other up, bang each other's lights out, then two months from now, they'll pray to not so much as ever see each others' face.

Long story short, the answers have been provided. 1) if I am right, and she's just looking for a "good time"... either flaunt the cash or do something else to wow her where it counts. 2) if I'm wrong, like I never am (ok, sometimes am...)(ok, always am.) then take her out to a nice dinner, call her redheaded friend to figure out her favorite movie, and watch that with her in your arms, on le couch.

NOTE: If I am, in fact, wrong... Don't fuck it up. You may not be looking for a relationship, and she may say she isn't, but you both are. A large majority of the human race NEEDS companionship, and regardless of whether they admit it or not, it's hard to discount the force a relationship has on your mind, and if all goes well, your body.

This is the most pointless post I have ever read. Good job.

[Parkbandit]

This is the most pointless post I have ever read. Good job.

:rofl: at you taking the time to read it.

[Tisket]

:rofl: at you taking the time to read it.

I did unfortunately. I kept hoping it would have a point.

[Peanut Butter Jelly Time]

I did unfortunately. I kept hoping it would have a point.

Lawl, you rock Tisket. <3

[Mighty Nikkisaurus]

Same here. Back in my day, a Hibachi was a cheap cast "iron" portable outdoor BBQ grill that you brought to tailgate with.. because it was a 1 or 2 use item only.

Here is the 'deluxe' model.. DOUBLE the size!

http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e6/belike53/sc_habachi.jpg


I have a hibachi that's about as big as a coke can that I use to roast marshmallows for s'mores :rofl: Reading this thread made me think of someone hanging a steak on a skewer over the little flame and screaming COOK DAMN YOU!

[The Ponzzz]

I'm not reading this whole thread, but I'll just say this. Relationships are expensive. You must treat it like any expense venture. If you aren't financially confident to proceed with it, you shouldn't be in a relationship.

[Daniel]

I didn't think Chuck E. Cheese's had a Sports Director position, so I didn't bother applying there for the Summer, sorry.

Not to mention, it's practically our first "Date" if you want to call it that, since we really aren't looking for relationships right away, I'm not about to shell out a boat load for someone I may not even be with.

Wait.

So you're a sports director..asking if you should wine and dine the intern?

The answer is no you dumb fuck.

[Widgets]

Wait.

So you're a sports director..asking if you should wine and dine the intern?

The answer is no you dumb fuck.

She's not an intern, just a fellow co-worker. I wouldn't need to wine and dine an intern...They are usually like your personal slave and do as you ask.

[Daniel]

She's in college right?

You don't need to wine and dine anyone in college and frankly you shouldn't have to.

[CrystalTears]

Friends eat cheap and hang out to watch movies. Dating couples get wined and dined.

If all you're looking for is a fun time together for the summer, sounds like it's just a friendship thing and I don't advise an expensive anything.

[Skeeter]

You need to move off the friend's ladder.

[Skeeter]

Also what your definition of a hibachi restaurant is sure sounds like benihana to me.

[Mighty Nikkisaurus]

Also what your definition of a hibachi restaurant is sure sounds like benihana to me.

"C'mon, we're going to Asian Hooters!"

[longshot]

As for listening to Back, I tend to think I have highly good skill in that field as well.



!!! NO !!!

I guess my sarcasm didn't get through... you've explained you haven't posted here in awhile, so I'm guessing that's why.

Listen carefully...

You want to take what backlash says and do the opposite. Think of him as some sort of bizarro muse that will tell you everything right to do in life by recommending the wrong path.

Daniel is telling you the right thing. There's no need to spend money on her. Zero.

In much the same line of thinking, if you do start shelling out money, you've established yourself right from the start as the guy who pays for shit.

Don't do it. Go 50/50... this way when and if you do decide to buy her an ice cream or something insignificant, it will mean a lot more, and she'll blow you for the next three hours out of gratitude.

In full disclosure... the longest relationship I've had has been six months... so take my advice for what it's worth.