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[Revalos]

OK, it has been a while since I posted on the wonderful subject of my impending finalized divorce, but I can't resist this particular gem.

I am meeting with the guy who fucked my wife next weekend.

No lawyers. No agendas. No weapons.

I plan to talk about the hearing that's coming up in a few weeks, and advise him of his rights as a subpoenaed participant.

But I want to hear what others would say/do in this situation.

I was going to write a bunch more details, but you know what? I really am so over this entire process that I've become completely detached. I'm more interested in the philosophical discussion of what others think.

[Itachi]

Is your wife hot? If so, give him a high five. It's never a guys fault for fucking a married women, he's just trying to get some play. If you beat anyone it should be your wife (if you are angry about it)

[War Angel]

Maybe I'm missing something here ...
Why are you meeting him? If I found out my spouse was cheating on me, and we divorced due to that fact, the last thing on my mind would be chit chatting with the straw that broke the camels back. Nothing you can say to this guy will make the infidelity any less hurtful. Nothing he has to say to you can fix what was your marriage. I myself would be stepping back and letting a lawyer handle the small details, instead of walking into what will most likely be an emotionally draining meeting. Why do that to yourself?

[Itachi]

the last thing on my mind would be chit chatting with the straw that broke the camels back.



Much funnier than you intended.

[Stanley Burrell]

No lawyers. No agendas. No weapons.

You better hope Monks are released in '04 so that the unarmed combat system lets you wonder if GemStone is gay, and maybe girls like it in the ass.


Shit.

[Peanut Butter Jelly Time]

With any luck: the dude will be gay and he didn't really bone your wife.

Drawback: He didn't really bone your wife, and she simply used him in Reno:911! fashion to end a drawn out divorce that should've happened months, if not years ago.

[BigWorm]

I don't know if talking about future proceedings ex parte is a good idea, but I'm not even a lawyer wannabe so I dunno.

[Sylvan Dreams]

OK, it has been a while since I posted on the wonderful subject of my impending finalized divorce, but I can't resist this particular gem.

I am meeting with the guy who fucked my wife next weekend.

No lawyers. No agendas. No weapons.

I plan to talk about the hearing that's coming up in a few weeks, and advise him of his rights as a subpoenaed participant.

But I want to hear what others would say/do in this situation.

I was going to write a bunch more details, but you know what? I really am so over this entire process that I've become completely detached. I'm more interested in the philosophical discussion of what others think.

You are not a lawyer. Your 'helpful legal advice' could come back to bite you in the ass.

[Revalos]

I may not be a lawyer, but I have the advice of one, and his advice was to do this meeting without him, on a "personal" basis. I have to serve the subpoena regardless that says the same thing as I plan on telling him in person.

I kind of want to talk to this guy and see what makes him tick, so that I can be prepared at trial.

[Peanut Butter Jelly Time]

You saying something stupid can very well = you being taken for every penny you have. Be careful big guy, don't go all John Wayne on him.

[longshot]

I may not be a lawyer, but I have the advice of one, and his advice was to do this meeting without him, on a "personal" basis. I have to serve the subpoena regardless that says the same thing as I plan on telling him in person.

I kind of want to talk to this guy and see what makes him tick, so that I can be prepared at trial.

Get a better lawyer.

There's no reason for you to interact with this person.

You can practice in the mirror for hours about what you're going to say, but in the end it counts for very little. I honestly can't think of anything good that's going to come of this.

Just my opinion.

[Sean of the Thread]

Agreed with longshot

[Back]

Yeah. Unless there is some legal reason why you have to serve the subpeana it does not seem at all neccessary. In fact, it sounds like a horrible idea.

Unless of course you want to beat his face. That may make you feel better but you’ll get royally screwed legally.

[Methais]

OK, it has been a while since I posted on the wonderful subject of my impending finalized divorce, but I can't resist this particular gem.

I am meeting with the guy who fucked my wife next weekend.

No lawyers. No agendas. No weapons.

I plan to talk about the hearing that's coming up in a few weeks, and advise him of his rights as a subpoenaed participant.

But I want to hear what others would say/do in this situation.

I was going to write a bunch more details, but you know what? I really am so over this entire process that I've become completely detached. I'm more interested in the philosophical discussion of what others think.

Laugh at him and make some shit up about what he's in for, and how you're thankful to him for taking the load off your chest. Even if it's all bullshit, say it anyway.

[DCSL]

Yeah. Don't do it, man.

As to what I'd do... Well, I'm a real grudge-holding champion most of the time. I'd probably lose my temper, do something really stupid and get taken to the cleaners in court.

But no matter what kind of temperment you have, meeting him is a baaaaaad idea. ESPECIALLY without lawyers present. I'm shocked that your lawyer would advise you to do this. Is he in your ex's pay or what? It's almost like he's setting you up to screw yourself.

[Deza]

I gotta say, I can't think of a real reason why you'd need to talk to him, either. When I left my husband, it was because he'd cheated on me with some military whorebot. And while I had her phone number (cause his dumbass left his phone at home) and a lot of incriminating shit against them both, I just wanted it over and done with.

If you're as detached as you say, just let your lawyers handle this and don't get involved on a "personal" basis.

If my ex had been stupid enough to bring that bitch around me, I would have destroyed her career (along with his) in the military, no matter how "cool" I played it.

Underneath my calm demeanor, I wanted them to pay. ;) I'm glad I avoided that. Karma's hit him in the face since then and all without my help.

Good luck, though. :( Nothing about a divorce is fun and I'm sorry you have to go through it.

[Parkbandit]

Laugh at him and make some shit up about what he's in for, and how you're thankful to him for taking the load off your chest. Even if it's all bullshit, say it anyway.

Exactly.

"I just wanted to meet you face to face and say THANK YOU for helping me end the worst time of my life. You saved me man!"

[Mighty Nikkisaurus]

Yeah. Don't do it, man.

As to what I'd do... Well, I'm a real grudge-holding champion most of the time. I'd probably lose my temper, do something really stupid and get taken to the cleaners in court.

But no matter what kind of temperment you have, meeting him is a baaaaaad idea. ESPECIALLY without lawyers present. I'm shocked that your lawyer would advise you to do this. Is he in your ex's pay or what? It's almost like he's setting you up to screw yourself.

Yeah, I'm not one to hold grudges or irrationally hate someone/let it make me become violent or overly-mean.. but even I would never do this.

IMO, once you've agreed to get a divorce and are no longer living together, for the most part your lawyers need to be the ones who handle all the details. And not you, not your soon-to-be-ex, not the new guy who fucked her. Honestly, there's no reason to form any sort of personal connection, even if it's just meeting and chatting with this guy. And you don't owe him, your soon-to-be ex or anyone else giving this guy a "personal" meeting.

I think this is terrible legal advice and it's obvious you aren't comfortable with it. It does come across almost like he's trying to screw you over, especially because him talking to this guy instead of you would actually make him more money and would make the process less prone to hit a serious snag because you make a mistake.

[Tisket]

I am meeting with the guy who fucked my wife next weekend.

Unless "meeting" means hiding in the backseat of his car with a garrote then what the fuck are you thinking.

Worst idea ever.

[DCSL]

I like Tisket's definition of "meeting". I could do that.

[The Ponzzz]

Yea seriously. Don't let him know how to defend himself or tip him off in any way. I assume you're getting your divorce on adultry? But yea, if you're not going there to kick ass and take names, don't bother.

[Revalos]

My lawyer's argument is that if he showed up, then everyone would lawyer up and this would take at least six months to finalize, and I'd probably lose my house and my car at least if not a percentage of my IRA. If I go alone and show "good faith" about the process this could be done in under a month and I could end up with 100% of what I want out of the deal. A few signed and notarized documents later and I'm a free man again.

And I want to thank him for showing me what a hosebeast my wife was now, rather than five or six years from now with kids and all that other horseshit involved.

[Clove]

I plan to talk about the hearing that's coming up in a few weeks, and advise him of his rights as a subpoenaed participant.I'd let him find his own counsel. That's what lawyers are for.

I can think of very little benefit in any interaction with him, but I can imagine a plethora of hassles that could result. It's human nature to play with fire. Don't.

[Clove]

Unless "meeting" means hiding in the backseat of his car with a garrote then what the fuck are you thinking.

Worst idea ever.Tisket is my kind of kinky.