For once, something serious

[Edaarin]

I just came back from a service for a girl who went to my high school. She died from a brain aneurism this past week at 19. It's been on my mind, obviously, pretty much 24/7. She was the third person my age who's died in the last year and a half.

I know it sounds corny, but I made sure to tell everyone close to me that I love them; they can be taken away in the blink of an eye. I haven't been able to stop going through memories I have of her, or of the other two people that died recently. I spent a few hours last night browsing my DeadAIM logs, and I couldn't stop thinking about the fact that I'd never talk to them again. I still have them all on my Buddy List, and I haven't been able to bring myself to delete them from my cell phone.

I'm not sure what the purpose of this thread was exactly, I just needed a place to put my thoughts.

[Solkern]

I know how you feel man, I've had 4 good friends die in 4 years straight, one year for every year I was in highschool, wasn't the best time of my life.

[Czeska]

It's so hard to lose people that should have 50 good years ahead of them...
Last year I lost a friend i'd known since 2nd grade. She cocained herself to death.

[Weedmage Princess]

Really sorry for your losses, Edaarin. Try not to worry too much and enjoy your life, and everyone/thing in it while they're here..rather than be miserable worrying about what may or may not happen.

[Camri]

I'm sorry you've had to feel so much loss.

We all grieve in different ways. Enjoy your memories. Take your time, and delete those names when you're ready. There's no time table saying when you have to be ready to move on. You'll know when you're ready.

Best wishes to you.

[HarmNone]

The loss of a young soul is always the hardest to bear. To lose three in a year and a half really tests one's coping skills. Yours, my friend Edaarin, are meeting the test admirably. :)

HarmNone

[JustMe]

I know how it feels. Since I was in 10th grade, I've had 3 of my friends commit suicide, 4 die in alcohol related crashes (2 were killed by drunk drivers, 1 was killed because he was drunk, 1 was killed because the driver was drunk). I've had one of my friends get raped and murdered. Three died, at the same time, when they hit an ice patch and plunged over a bridge on the way home from a baseball game. Two died, at the same time, when they lost control of the jeep they were in and it flipped four times. The paramedics think they burnt to death in it. I had another friend die from choking on his own vomit when he had alcohol poisoning and then his younger brother over dosed his first time ever trying drugs.

These were all people that I was close with. I grew up with them, went to high school with them, partied with them. Everything... I miss them all dearly.

[Zeyrin]

When I first got my medic license at 19, the first wreck with death I worked involved four friends, two of which were DOA. What was hardest was telling the sister and mother of one of my dead friends.

I've had to do this a few times and I have found that it has made me stronger. Edaarin, this will make you stronger but don't let it devour you. You will always have your memories so your friend will never truly be gone unless you forget him or her.

[Kurili]

I am so sorry. It is very hard, I know.

AK

[Betheny]

Since my dad died, I make sure that everyone I know and care for knows how I feel about them. EVERY time I talk to them.

It's just a good, safe policy.

[Jenisi]

I know this might sound a bit hurtful and/or harsh to anyone that reads this. But it kinda upsets me that he's upset with something like this. A few months ago, Edaarin and I were really close, and for some reason, he stoped talking to me altogether, with no reason at all. I could not.. for the life of me.. figure out what the heck I did to him. And he even posted once in here "jenisi and I aren't on the best of terms" I asked friends of his to ask him and he wouldn't even tell them.. Anyway's Edaarin, just so you know that hurt me alot.

[Xcalibur]

To jenisi: Internet... expectations.. hmm


I consider no one as a friend until i drink a beer with them, personnaly

To asian guy: My condolence, or simply a «be strong» man

[Edited on 18-12-03 by Xcalibur]

[Ilvane]

Yep, now that my dad has passed, I make sure to say I love you to my mom and sister every night, just to make sure the last words I say to them are something nice.

I'm sorry for your loss, Edaarin.

-A

[Sean]

Originally posted by Xcalibur
Internet... expectations.. hmm


I consider no one as a friend until i drink a beer with them, personnaly

My condolence, or simply a «be strong» man

it wasn't an internet friend it was a friend from high shcool if you read the 1st post. he just happened to also talk ot her online.

[Xcalibur]

I was speaking of jenisi's relation with him, as she saids she was disapointed about all this.

[DaMaGe]

Originally posted by Jenisi
I know this might sound a bit hurtful and/or harsh to anyone that reads this. But it kinda upsets me that he's upset with something like this. A few months ago, Edaarin and I were really close, and for some reason, he stoped talking to me altogether, with no reason at all. I could not.. for the life of me.. figure out what the heck I did to him. And he even posted once in here "jenisi and I aren't on the best of terms" I asked friends of his to ask him and he wouldn't even tell them.. Anyway's Edaarin, just so you know that hurt me alot.

What the fuck is wrong with your brain?

He just had a close friend die, and you're wondering why he stopped talking to you? You should learn about this new stuff that came out, it's called 'tact'.


-Adam

[Betheny]

Some people are selfish, Adam.

Just ignore her, there's really no point in arguing. Some people will always hold themselves as more important than anything else.

[HarmNone]

Originally posted by Jenisi
I know this might sound a bit hurtful and/or harsh to anyone that reads this. But it kinda upsets me that he's upset with something like this. A few months ago, Edaarin and I were really close, and for some reason, he stoped talking to me altogether, with no reason at all. I could not.. for the life of me.. figure out what the heck I did to him. And he even posted once in here "jenisi and I aren't on the best of terms" I asked friends of his to ask him and he wouldn't even tell them.. Anyway's Edaarin, just so you know that hurt me alot.

This is probably not the proper thread in which to address this issue, Jenisi. :)

HarmNone

[Edaarin]

It's okay, back off guys, I don't want to turn this into a hate thread. I handled that situation pretty badly.

Angela, U2U me, I'll explain it later tonight when I have some time.

For everyone asking, I knew the girl that died in real life, but I've only been able to talk to her online/on the phone pretty much since I started college. The reason for that whole thing on AIM and my phone.

[DaMaGe]

I know, I know.

I see it alot, too. But it still amazes me that people can actually take this line of reasoning and be SINCERE about it.


-Adam

P.S. - Let me know whenever you're ready for some babies. I'm all over it.

[Overlord]

One of my closest childhood friends passed away last year. He lived back in scotland and we were friends because our parents were friends since their twenties going to motorbike rallys and what not. So when i moved out here i pretty much only talked to him through e-mail, snail mail/packages and the occasional phone call. He was mowed down by an ignorant trucker while crossing a street not 600 yards from his street... Suffice to say i was grief stricken at the news i received from his sobbing mother. Both my grandfathers also passed away the past 3 years, one from cancer the other serious leg problems. The fact that i rarely got to see them after i moved out here just made it worse. All in all we must accept the loss, as hard as it may be and honor the memory of our lost loved ones. My condolences Edaarin.

[Jenisi]

That's kinda sad that i'm selfish about this. I just wanted to let the guy know he hurt me since I wouldn't be able to tell him otherwise considering he blocked me off aim, completely cut me off from anything and stoped talking to me together, at least I knew he'd read this. I just must have something wrong with my brain. And of course this wouldn't be the thread and all considering he's preaching about being close to people because you never know when you'll pass. And I am sorry what happend to you Ed. We've all had losses, I lost my Grandma and a close family friend this year. I helps alot to talk about it, I've always found the more you talk about a painful experience the less it hurts because you find out how much the people that are left with you really do care about you. Wish you the best.

[Jenisi]

I also in my first post didn't mean that I was upset that he was upset with a friend dying, I understand that. He was just preaching about being close to somone and telling them how much you care everyday.. I didn't mean for it to sound selfish, you guys just wouldn't understand our past.

[Xcalibur]

that's why u2u exist, we don't understand because it's not our business.

[Halfsilver]

Originally posted by Jenisi
I didn't mean for it to sound selfish, you guys just wouldn't understand our past.

Well it sure sounded selfish, and didn't edaarin ask you to take it to U2U?

My condolences, Edaarin. A friend of ours just recently died in a car accident.
It's especially hard when they are so young. I still have his number in my cell and sn on my buddy list as well. I understand how you feel.

- D

[Jenisi]

I posted that I didn't think he'd read the U2U. And the second post was for you guy's.

[HarmNone]

I think the point is, Jenisi, that this thread was probably not the best place to approach the subject, hon. We all make mistakes, and this was one of yours. ;)

HarmNone knows Jenisi meant no harm

*Edited to drag a dangling participle back to its jumping-off point*

[Edited on 12-19-2003 by HarmNone]

[Caiylania]

*Hugs* Edaarin.

My Mom's number is still in my cel, her e-mail in my address book, and all of that. I still don't have the heart to delete those.

I hope you can still find some joy in the Holiday season and look forward to the New Year. My heart is with you.