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[GSLeloo]

This is just a curious thing..

How do you react to someone buying you something? Tonight my best friends mother bought me a new coach purse and a wallet to match it.. and I'm really bad at how I'm supposed to respond. I feel slightly uncomfortable and like I'm intruding or something. I know to say thank you but it still feel weirds.

So do you feel fine accepting gifts from others or feel uncomfortable?

[Teladro]

"Here, I bought you some cool stuff!"
"Like, OMFG, you shouldn't have. It's beautiful! Thank you so much."
"Do you like it?"
"It's wonderful, thank you!"

and that night, or the next day...

Click Here (http://entertaining.about.com/cs/etiquette/a/thankyou.htm)

If you have the mindset that you are going to send a thank you card, it gets much easier to accept gifts.

[GSLeloo]

That helps! The problem is I'm not sure if that's too formal... I practically live there and she calls me her other daughter. I just worry that I may insult her by being too like... uncasual about gifts, you know what I mean? It's hard for me to know how to act because they make me feel like family but I know that in the end, I'm not family, you know what I mean?

So you'd suggest getting a thank you note?

[Drew]

You can never be too formal. Send a card.

[Hog]

My mom sends cards out all the time. Who wouldn't like getting one?

[Shalla]

Coach purse and wallet. Nice gift. :) I'm iffy about the whole card idea because they treat you like family. I give thank you cards to acquaintances. Since she considers you like a 2nd daugther, I think she would appreciate it more if you be more comfortable with her and not awkward about it. I think she would also like it if you take the time just to ask how her day was and be genuinely interested, and at the same time confide on her about little things. Then out of the blue, give her a potted plant/flower.

Also, use her gift often. And gush about how you like it, and one of your favourites. :P

I can relate to your awkwardness about it.. maybe because I'm a cynic.

[Tisket]

Being gracious when you are the recipient of a thoughtful gift is giving that person a gift in return. A warm thank you is all that is required. Awkwardness is guaranteed to make the other person feel awkward as well.

/Anne Landers

[Alfster]

Happy birthday?

Why else would someones mom give you a present?

[GSLeloo]

It's not my birthday. We were all there and Rachel was planning on getting a purse.. Sharon was getting a purse.. and she asked me what I was getting. And I said I'm not gonna get one and she said "Of course you are, we all have to get new purses." Then she asked Rachel to tell the sales lady which one I liked and they bought it for me and a wallet to match..

I think I'll get her this hand lotion I have that we were searching for but they don't carry at the stores anymore and I'll get her a card as well.

[Miss X]

I'm the same, I feel very uncomfortable accepting gifts or money from others unless its Christmas or my Birthday. Hell, I feel weird when a guy pays for dinner or movie tickets. I don't know if it's the same for you, but for me it stems from a fear that someone might think I'm taking advantage of their good nature.

I've always been a bit overly generous and I used to have a couple of friends (note the past tense..) who totally took advantage of that. It took me a while to recognise it and I dread someone thinking of me in that way I guess.

Most of the time though, people do these things because they are just nice people, or they can afford it and know that you can't. I doubt they want something in return other than a Thank You and a hug or something. Just tell her you really appreciated her generosity and I'm sure that will be enough.

[Czeska]

When I was a child, my dad told me that if a gift seems like "too much", that it's ok to politely refuse the first time it is offered ("It's not necessary, but thank you.") but if they insist, you insult the person by not graciously accepting.

If you feel you need to send a thank you, maybe just a quick note, nothing formal, saying you feel lucky to be thought of so highly by her, and it means a lot. That should be more than enough.

[Bobmuhthol]

<<or they can afford it and know that you can't.>>

????????????

Now *that* would be an insult.

[radamanthys]

Say "WTF are you buying me this for?", spit on it, then kill their dog.

Tried and true.

[Sean of the Thread]

This is just a curious thing..

How do you react to someone buying you something? Tonight my best friends mother bought me a new coach purse and a wallet to match it.. and I'm really bad at how I'm supposed to respond. I feel slightly uncomfortable and like I'm intruding or something. I know to say thank you but it still feel weirds.

So do you feel fine accepting gifts from others or feel uncomfortable?

"WTF this isn't Louis Vuitton!!??!" is a good start. Stop being a pussy.

[Daniel]

Your friends mom wants your boobies.

[GSLeloo]

As always, learn to remember to ignore Xyelin's comments.

The problem is that she loves to spend money on people and has always wanted to take people shopping (Rachel hates to shop) and my parents then are totally against it. They make me feel bad if she treats us to dinner or I go over their house.

[Ebondale]

Just don't be like I did when I got my first "hey this is your computer and yours only" computer.

I opened the box I got for my birthday and looked inside and there was a keyboard. I was like, "You got me a fucking keyboard?"

Sure the presentation of the computer was a little odd but still. :)

[Shari]

Wow nice gift!

I look at it this way, if they can afford to spend that kind of money on you, and enjoy doing so, let them. Be very gracious and thank them for such a surprise. I know someone mentioned in here that if you're uncomfortiable accepting, but they insist, take it. Its more of an insult if you argue with them about not wanting a gift.

So uh yeah...Coach has this really nice new purple suede purse I've got my eye on, so if she's still looking to spend....

:D