A 29 year old dating a 19 year old is...

[Jorddyn]

Just wondering ...

Jorddyn, not dating a 19 year old

[Fallen]

Meh, its legal. That is why they have such a thing as the age of consent.

[DeV]

Fulfilling to some degree. Depends on what either are looking for in a partner. Depends on what type of partner each desires. As long as they both are legal I don't see the problem.

[Skirmisher]

Unless there are some sort of good reasons why they shouldn't or other reasons particular to that situation I don't see the problem.

[fiendwish]

As long as they're happy, whatever. 10 years difference is about max for a satisfying long-term relationship, though. There may be exceptions, but there are hard realities that'll make for some big, potentially very painful sacrifices on someone's part.

[Sean of the Thread]

WOOT.

[Bobmuhthol]

Hulk Hogan's daughter went on a date with a 22-year-old and she's 16.

[ElanthianSiren]

My ex was 10 years older than I was. I don't have a problem with the relationship, as long as everyone's happy. The 29 year old, however, has to realize that their 19 year old partner isn't fully developed emotionally.

-M

[Bobmuhthol]

<<The 29 year old, however, has to realize that their 19 year old partner isn't fully developed emotionally.>>

But the 29 year old is?

[Lookkin]

That's kinda screwed up. If I was hanging around a 19 year old and I was 29 - what the hell would we be talking about. I guess that's the point eh? Nothing..just knocking boots..

I donno - I don't / wouldn't get it.

Lookkin

[Jorddyn]

Originally posted by Bobmuhthol
<<The 29 year old, however, has to realize that their 19 year old partner isn't fully developed emotionally.>>

But the 29 year old is?

Actually, I agree with Bob for once :) In this case, the 19 year old might have an edge...

Jorddyn

[Sean]

Originally posted by Bobmuhthol
Hulk Hogan's daughter went on a date with a 22-year-old and she's 16.

Hulk also spent the night tracking them with LoJack requiring like hourly callins and subjected him to an extremely awkward interogation.

[ElanthianSiren]

Originally posted by Jorddyn

Originally posted by Bobmuhthol
<<The 29 year old, however, has to realize that their 19 year old partner isn't fully developed emotionally.>>

But the 29 year old is?

Actually, I agree with Bob for once :) In this case, the 19 year old might have an edge...

Jorddyn

It depends IMO. Quite possibly not, yet in general, they still will have experienced more than a 19 year old. Personally, I'd find it very selfish to take the early 20s relationship experiences (hah!) from two people by dating a 19 year old (if I was 29), but selfish wasn't one of the choices, so I chose hoping they were happy.

-M

[Miss X]

Both legal, no problem in my eyes. I like older men anyway! :)

[Chadj]

Originally posted by Tijay

Originally posted by Bobmuhthol
Hulk Hogan's daughter went on a date with a 22-year-old and she's 16.

Hulk also spent the night tracking them with LoJack requiring like hourly callins and subjected him to an extremely awkward interogation.

wtf...
You've caught my attention.
This seems amusing.

[Leetahkin]

I don't find a problem with it either
... though I don't think I personally would date that young. My current cut-off is around 24ish :whistle:

[Apotheosis]

when I was 19, I dated a 29 year old. She was a professional marketing agent of some sort for an auto supplier. She was fucking hot. I didn't mind the age difference, but it ended up just being a sex thing.

:D

[Kainen]

If they are of age it's no big deal (says the 35 yr old that is dating a 21 yr old)

[Skeeter]

I Just can't imagine having a relationship with someone 10 years younger than me. although the sex would be fun, I agree, wtf would you talk about? The OC? Where that kickass frat party was going to be?

[Tsunami]

My husband is six years older than I am. Not a big deal to us, but we still laugh about stuff like when he was 18 and heading into the Marines, I was just leaving elementary school. :lol:

[Brattt8525]

I was 19 when I got married and my husband was 39, I didn't have a problem with it but apparently he did. I was not allowed to go out at all unless he was with me couldn't work nor was I allowed to have any friends except one person who I showed horses with.

In the end after 12 years being married like that I threw dirt and ran. He wasn't so bad in the beginning but the older he got the more jealous and possive he became.

[Kainen]

Originally posted by Skeeter
I Just can't imagine having a relationship with someone 10 years younger than me. although the sex would be fun, I agree, wtf would you talk about? The OC? Where that kickass frat party was going to be?

Speaking for me and Jeff only.. we have similar tastes in music, we both like the same kinds of movies and books, we like to do a lot of the same things, and we both play GS. We have plenty to talk about.

[Apotheosis]

Some people are mature (or immature) for their age.

I have always been friends with people that are older than me.

[DeV]

Originally posted by Yswithe
when I was 19, I dated a 29 year old. She was a professional marketing agent of some sort for an auto supplier. She was fucking hot. I didn't mind the age difference, but it ended up just being a sex thing.

:D Heh, I was 19 and she was 33 and showed me things that I would never have imagined with someone my age. I didn't mind the difference either as she was as smart as she was sexy and she intrigued the hell out of me. She worked for the Pentagon (still does) and was successful in life as she was with anything she put her energy into, including me. It was fun and exciting but somewhat heartbreaking toward the end. It didn't help that she was my first but I came away with a knowledge that you can't learn from a book.

These types of relationships are not for everyone as they have advantages as well as disadvantages. It's up to the person to decide which side of the scale they choose to deal with or use to their advantage in the long run.

[xtc]

......is hot (sorry to quote Paris Hilton).

A 29 year old guy dating a 19 year old girl is hot for the obvious reason, and a 19 year old guy dating a 29 year old girl is hot because the girl is only dating the guy for sex i.e. the guy is laid 24/7 with no bullshit. Of course I am seeing this entirely from the guy's perspective.

[Edited on 8-29-2005 by xtc]

[AnticorRifling]

Yeah but when you're 73 she'll be 83 and that's just weird.

[DeV]

When you hit 73, old is old. There is no use in trying to differentiate the gap at that point.

[Killer Kitten]

I once lived with a guy 12 years older than me.

He was incredibly charming and good looking. He was also immature, selfish,
alcoholic and couldn't keep it in his pants.

Mike is 13 months older than I am. He is unfailingly kind and calm, he is responsible, and he is faithful.

Age doesn't matter, compatibility and maturity do.

[Jonty]

I really don't care, so long as theyre happy(And so long as the female is not a member of my family.).

[Snapp]

I don't see any problems with it. My boyfriend is 11 years older than me and we have plenty in common.

[Viridian]

Agreed Age doesn't really matter to me, I've dated someone younger (by a few years) and a man older...by about 11 years, what killer kitten said its about maturity and compatibility.

[Wezas]

Originally posted by Snapp
My boyfriend is 11 years older than me and we have plenty in common.

So many inappropriate things I could say you have in common. But I'll refrain. :saint:

[Kyra]

21 year age difference with my SO. Been together for almost 13 years now. :D

K.

[Shari]

This is hard for me to decide on. A friend of mine is in this very situation at the moment. She's 19, he's 29. He also has three kids (with two more on the way).

For her age, I consider her to be more mature then myself. She is fully aware of what she is getting into and she never wants to let herself get between he and his kids. I know the guy pretty well and he is a very nice guy.

Personally? I wouldn't do it, especially if he's already got kids, makes me feel like I'm already missing out on a big part of his life, as I'd want to have children and he likely wouldn't want anymore at that point.

Iish, talk about complicated.

[Jolena]

Welp, my ex husband is 10 years my senior. We were married for seven years and together for nine. He and I had a great deal in common, but it just didn't end up being the right thing for us. He turned to alcohol instead of to me, I guess is what it boils down to. We have 2 children together.

I've dated many men that were older, younger and about the same age as myself. Basically what was said before is true, it's maturity and compatibility that matters, not age.

Right now, I'm living with and have been dating Stunseed's player for about 2 years or so. He's going to be 24 this year and I just turned 32. Despite the fact that I kid him a LOT about the fact that I graduated when he was in elementary, we have a great deal of fun together. He's very mature when it's needed, financially responsible, takes great pleasure in my children and eventually wants to adopt them. We have a lot in common as well-- similar literature interests, similar tastes in comedy, food, music and we both play GS. Of course, we have our differences but every couple does. I'm completely happy and wouldn't change a thing, not even if I could change his age. :heart:

[Versus]

My mother and step father are 20 years apart. 42/62. So, I don't care. If they're happy - Good for them.

[Shari]

As you get older, the age difference isn't such a big deal. I know I have changed A LOT from when I was 17 to 24 now. The fact that Scott has adapted to how I've changed is very fortunate and I consider myself lucky.

I think that's why I have a hard time just saying "good deal!" to anyone who isn't mid-20's dating someone significantly older than them. You go through a lot of change in between your teens to your twenties, and hopefully the person you're with changes to accept it with you. :D

[Warriorbird]

My grandparents had a 15 year difference and their marriage was great... until my grandmother started having strokes. Then it was very very hard on my grandfather.

There are some disadvantages, but they are massively outweighed by the potential for love if the two people are really compatible.

My wife and I have only about a year in age difference. It still was an issue when I graduated before she did.