Best Way to Salvage a relationship after you cheat

[Hassassin]

Yeah, I did it. I cheated on my girlfriend with some ho-bag of a girl. I didn't want it to happen, but I was going through a bunch of relationship problems with my girl... and she was there. My girlfriend and I were broken up, and I sle[pt with some other girl. How can I go about fixing this? I didn't care about this girl... It's just hard not to say 'No' when you're going through problems, and another girl won't leave you alone. Now I've messed up everything. Any idea on what I can say or do to fix this? Pardon me, if I shouldn't even be posting this... I'm just bored, drunk, alone, and I have no idea what to do. So I might as well get some advice... any ideas? Anyone ever fucked up this bad before? Am I a terrible person? I'd like to hear any input.

[Apotheosis]

best way to fix that problem is to contact redelement12 on AIM and tell her "robeeeen = georgi's housewife"

but in all seriousness, it's probably better to move on, cause it means you didn't eally want her in the first place.

[SpunGirl]

If you guys were broken up at the time, it doesn't count as cheating.

Also, does she KNOW you slept with this other girl? No need to confess anything just yet.

People do silly things when they're confused sometimes. Don't beat yourself up over it.

-K

You were not together, her fault for not seeing what a great guy she had.

Dont tell her.

[MrFeature]

You could try killing both of them, and the kids.

[Skirmisher]

The first thing that comes to mind is that you may wish to stop trying to diminish your guilt by calling this other girl a ho bag or whatever.

Insulting her doesn't make you less or more guilty.

If you were broken up, then I am not sure what the problem is though.

Perhaps posting when you arent drunk will make things a bit more clear.

[Hassassin]

There's no denying it now. This mistress of mine told my girlfriend EVERYTHING. She even saved the phone messages I left her. I think I hurt girl B's feelings a lot. She told me she loved me, wanted to have my babies, etc. And then I just dumped her like that to go back with girl A (girlfriend). Has anyone ever had someone they loved screw someone else? At that point, is it even salveagable or will my girl always harbor resentment towards me and bang someone else? I guess my point is... is it better to just let go, or even try to fix it?

dump her, find another, there are tons

[Gigantuous]

That relationship is done for. Even if you manage to "mend" it, she'll still have a hard time trusting you at best, and call you a liar about everything at worst.

I'd say move on.

[SpunGirl]

Well.... Chris Rock wisely said that if you stay with a girl after you get some on the side (whatever the circumstances), then you've essentially given HER carte blanche to get some on the side, and you don't know who, and you don't know when.

Of course, if you really love her and want to stay with her, you can try to work it out. It sounds to me like Girl B is jealous that you don't want to continue things with her, so make her understand that you'd like to work it out with Girl A. Be prepared to do a lot of ass-kissing if you want to patch things up with Girl A.

-K

[Nieninque]

Originally posted by Skirmisher
The first thing that comes to mind is that you may wish to stop trying to diminish your guilt by calling this other girl a ho bag or whatever.

Insulting her doesn't make you less or more guilty.


:yeahthat:


Yeah, I did it. I cheated on my girlfriend with some ho-bag of a girl. I didn't want it to happen, but...

I didnt want to do it...She made me!!!!11111

Stupidest shit..

[Edited on 18-7-05 by Nieninque]

[Drew]

Originally posted by Nieninque

Originally posted by Skirmisher
The first thing that comes to mind is that you may wish to stop trying to diminish your guilt by calling this other girl a ho bag or whatever.

Insulting her doesn't make you less or more guilty.


:yeahthat:


Well she might just be a ho-bag. It's not like those don't exist (in droves even).

[Nieninque]

Originally posted by Drew
Well she might just be a ho-bag. It's not like those don't exist (in droves even).

Yeah, and it might just be that he willingly entered into a consensual relationship with a woman because he wanted to.

Im guessing that my scenario is more likely, given the fact that he made telephone calls to her.

Hardly the actions of someone duped into something he didnt want to take part in.

[Miss X]

Yeah, I mean even if she is a 'ho-bag' it seems to me like she's free and single and therefore able to enter into a sexual relationship without guilt. You were in a relationship already and still decided to sleep with another woman, that makes you the 'ho-bag' I'm afraid.

As for how to salvage it, it is going to depend entirely on how she feels about the situation. You need to sit down and talk to her about it. If she tells you there is no chance, you can place your bets that there really is no chance. Chalk it up to experience and move on. She'll find someone who can be faithful and you will just have to deal.

If she is unsure, then you have an opportunity to get back in there. You have to be patient though and not too full on. I doubt she will want to sleep with you for a while, and don't call her every day etc. Give her some time to think things through and then try to start the relationship from scratch. If you are both 100% honest from now on, it could even make your relationship stronger.

Good luck though, I guess you're gonna need it. If I were in her shoes, you're clothes would currently be on fire in the back yard and all of your possessions would now belong to a charity shop. Some people are more forgiving than I though.

[Farquar]

Originally posted by Hassassin
My girlfriend and I were broken up, and I sle[pt with some other girl...

The above statement is incorrect. You can't use the clause "broken up with your girlfriend" because its a technical misnomer. One second after the breakup, you don't have a girfriend, only an ex-girlfriend.

Now that I've cleared up the semantics, I'll cover the substantive law. Once a breakup has been effectuated and recognized by both parties (or the breakee has made reasonable efforts to communicate the breakup and acts with the reasonable belief that he or she is broken up), all the "contractual" obligations under the relationship are discharged. Some jurisdictions advocate a sort of "grace period" post-breakup during which both parties (or at least the breaker-upper) abstain from pursuing other suitors to show good faith and an absence of ulterior motives, but there is no controlling precedent. At least not in my jurisdiction.

Sure, it would feel wrong to sleep with another girl ten minutes after you break up with your (ex)girlfriend, but technically you did nothing wrong.

[HarmNone]

Talk it out with your girl and see if there's a chance that the relationship can be saved, if that's what you really want to do. It's going to take some hard work on your part to get by this, but it can be done...if both parties are really interested in making the relationship work.

[Tsa`ah]

As it has been stated, you didn't cheat.

However, it looks like you've got your own intimacy issues when it comes to selecting women and how you view them overall.

First is the ho-bag statement. If you can't get over the fact that women like sex as much as men and probably partake in it as often as men, then you're not mature enough to really involve yourself in a relationship.

Second is your selection process. You seem to involve yourself with overly dramatic and immature women. Either your standards are too low, or you own a Camaro that sports blocks under the frame rather than actual wheels. Be a bit pickier in who you decide to partner with, pickier as in beyond tits and ass. While you're at it, check into your own short comings and work on those as well ... starting with putting tires on that Camaro and selling it.

Third is your desire to amend a broken relationship. Why do guys, and women for that matter, even consider doing this? Time passes and you start aching for that other person that you broke up with, or they broke up with you ... you reminisce about the good times ... WAKE THE FUCK UP AND START REMEMBERING WHY THE DAMNED THING DIDN'T WORK OUT ... ei; the bad times.

Originally posted by Nieninque

Originally posted by Drew
Well she might just be a ho-bag. It's not like those don't exist (in droves even).

Yeah, and it might just be that he willingly entered into a consensual relationship with a woman because he wanted to.

Im guessing that my scenario is more likely, given the fact that he made telephone calls to her.

Hardly the actions of someone duped into something he didnt want to take part in.

So in other words, no woman should feel betrayed when they just get fucked by a guy. Ever. Because they obviously wanted the dick or else they wouldn't have been sucking it.

[Amber]

Originally posted by RangerD1

Originally posted by Nieninque

Originally posted by Drew
Well she might just be a ho-bag. It's not like those don't exist (in droves even).

Yeah, and it might just be that he willingly entered into a consensual relationship with a woman because he wanted to.

Im guessing that my scenario is more likely, given the fact that he made telephone calls to her.

Hardly the actions of someone duped into something he didnt want to take part in.

So in other words, no woman should feel betrayed when they just get fucked by a guy. Ever. Because they obviously wanted the dick or else they wouldn't have been sucking it.

I don't get where that came from from the posts you quoted?

[ElanthianSiren]

I don't see how you can say that you cared about the girlfriend if you slept with someone else. It doesn't sound like you were broken up very long; if that's the case, I apologize for coming off as harsh.

Either way, lies get you in deep in relationships. Best advice posted here is forget them both.

-M

[Souzy]

Originally posted by Hassassin
Has anyone ever had someone they loved screw someone else?

Yes and the relationship is done. How long was you with your GF anyway? Just out of curiousity. You should move on, obviously you wasn't that satisfied if you was looking for booty elsewhere. Even if you did try again, you realize she's going to throw this shit back in your face when you argue right? Your ex is pissed and the other girl is prolly pissed off cos you dismissed her like she was nothing to you.

[Apotheosis]

way to go on treating women though, it will guarantee you lots of sex, and no having to put up with female insanity.

[SayGoodbye]

Just ask yourself how you would honestly feel if she'd been the one fucking around with some nasty dude.

Would your relationship ever be the same?

[Coach Hayden Foxx]

Ease up there little trooper, don't be so hard on yourself.


I cheated on my girlfriend...

You didn't cheat on her, because...


My girlfriend and I were broken up

...she wasn't your girlfriend at the time.

What you need is a good game of football to cheer you up. Have you ever thought about becoming a Minnesota Screaming Eagle? If not, now is the time. Not only will you get to play in front of thousands of screaming fans, but you'll get to bang any cheerleader you want, and they'll love you for it, even if they know you're banging the other cheerleaders too. Sometimes you'll get to nail multiple cheerleaders at once. Why? Because you're a Minnesota Screaming Eagle! And around here that makes you a god. Don't wait any longer, become a SCREAMING EAGLE today! NOW GO GET EM!

[Edited on 7-18-2005 by Coach Hayden Foxx]

[Kainen]

It was cheating if you KNEW that you and your girlfriend were getting back together. If you can't keep your dick in your pants for the time you weren't together maybe you didn't really want to be back with her. People cheat for various reasons and NONE of them are right. The only thing I can tell you is suck it up and go talk to her. You might consider ending it permantly with your girlfriend if you have THAT many problems.

[Delirium]

If your girlfriend considers it cheating and you want to be with her it really doesnt matter if it was cheating or not. The consequences are the same.

I think the only real thing you can do if you want to be with her is sit down and discuss it. Get ready to get your ass handed to you too. The more she gets out now the less it will keep popping up in the future so dont interupt and contradict every statement. Make sure she knows you feel lower than scum for being such a dirtball and listen very closely. And lastly, make sure nothing like this EVER happens again.

[Hassassin]

I was with girl A for 4 years... We had been having a lot of bad fights for a month and a half. It pretty much ended with her dad trying to get in a brawl with me AFTER he kicked the mirrors off of my car. (not because I deserved to have my ass kicked, he just has a chemical imbalance. He's one of those nascar watching, george bush loving, budweiser drinking types). So he charged me, and I pretty much tackled him and knocked him out in 1 punch, and the cops came and almost arrested me till they saw the damage he did to my car, and had witnesses saying it was him who attacked me. So after that, I thought there was zero percent chance of working things out.

I wasn't out on the prowl or trying to hook up with other girls while girlfriend and I were broken up. Girl B was a friend of a friend, and she had known me for awhile. She saw all this crap happening to me, and took advantage of it. She tried to move in on my life, take my girlfriend's place, but I just told her it wasn't going to work out, because I love girl A. So after I ended things with girl B, she told girl A everything. Meanwhile, Girl A had her dad apologize to me, fix my car, and she was trying to patch things up with me while all this was going on.

It was just one big messed up situation. But I mean, come on, usually when you and your girl's dad get in a fist fight, it's safe to assume it's over, but I guess it really wasn't. I know it's technically not cheating what I did, but girl A is treating it like cheating. After everything, she still wants to be with me, but she is going to hold this over my head. She's already said she doesn't want revenge, or to be with anyone else. She is just really hurt by the fact that even though we weren't together that I did stuff with someone else. She thought I loved her more than that, after all we've been through.

Should I just drop it and move on?

[Anebriated]

george bush loving

enough said, something isnt right with that man.

On a serious note did this happen before you tried to patch things up and her dad fixed his damage or was it after/during?

[Brattt8525]

>>>She is just really hurt by the fact that even though we weren't together that I did stuff with someone else. She thought I loved her more than that, after all we've been through.

Should I just drop it and move on?<<<<

She is hurt? because you slept with someone else when you two were no longer together? okie dokie. How long were you broke up before you slept with this other girl, and WTF is girl B talking about having your babies for?

Car bashing attacking father....girl who wants to hang this over your head because she is hurt and the other one ready with a U-Haul? Throw dirt and run big guy.....

[SpunGirl]

Maybe she needs to realize that sleeping with people isn't always about love. It doesn't mean you didn't "love her enough" to abstain from screwing around with someone else when it was convenient. It means that you made a mistake, had a lapse in judgement, whatever. I think everyone will agree that sex with someone you love is nothing like sex with someone you just want to fuck at the moment.

Everyone, including Girl A, has some sex they regret. If she wants to work it out, she should understand that your episode with Girl B is not about love or lack of love.

-K, thinks people get way too worked up over sex.

[Hassassin]

We were broken up for two weeks before I did it with girl B. I think one of the reasons Girl A is so hurt is because I was her one and only. She's never been with anyone else, she lost her virginity to me. I only slept with girl B maybe 3 times over a month period, during that period girl A's dad fixed my car, apologized, girl A apologized, and then I broke it off with girl B, and girl A got back together and then went to hawaii together for 11 days. I didn't tell girl A all that happened between girl B and I, but when we got back from Hawaii the shit hit the fan.

[DeV]

Originally posted by Souzy

Originally posted by Hassassin
Has anyone ever had someone they loved screw someone else?

Yes and the relationship is done. How long was you with your GF anyway? Just out of curiousity. You should move on, obviously you wasn't that satisfied if you was looking for booty elsewhere. Even if you did try again, you realize she's going to throw this shit back in your face when you argue right? Your ex is pissed and the other girl is prolly pissed off cos you dismissed her like she was nothing to you. So damn true.

I think you should take this opportunity to move on and re-evaluate exactly what you want in a relationship and find it with someone new.

[SpunGirl]

Yeah, I can see her being pissed about your omission. I mean, if you had told her yourself instead of letting her find out from Girl B, it might not be as nuclear.

Still, she should understand the difference between a loving relationship and the intimacies that occur there and convenient sex. Especially since it wasn't technically cheating. Make sure she knows you love her... and considering her dad went nuts on you and you STILL came back, that should clue her in a little.

-K

[Hassassin]

Oh yeah, and I figured out girl B is a nutjob. Hence why I called her a ho-bag. She is like an oppurtunistic infection or something. She saw the problems I was having with girl A, and swooped on me. I tried to ignore her at first, but it's hard when a hot chick keeps coming on to you to say no, especially when she hangs out with all your friends who you drink with. I am only human. But yes, she was insane. So don't get all venomous with me for calling her a ho bag. She is such a scandalous bitch that while we were having sex (of course using no protection b/c she is supposedly on the pill and I know she's clean) I was about to cum, and I tried to pull out and she literally pulled me in with her legs so I'd let off in her. In hind sight, that chick is one of the dumbest things I ever did. Thank god she didn't get knocked up. But yes, she was in-fact a ho-bag.

[SpunGirl]

Wow, that was graphic.

Anyway, like Souzy said, she might throw this all back in your face (Girl A, that is) whenever you argue. Which is why she needs to either forgive you and you guys can start over, or ... sad but true... you've gotta just move on.

I guess you have to evaluate if Girl A can really get over it or not.

-K

[ElanthianSiren]

Wow Wow Wow.

That is pretty damn scandalous with someone you just hooked up with. Maybe she'd been into you for years and just wanted to feel you cum in her? I dunno. Her behavoir is certainly creepy and makes me cringe.

At the same time though, nobody is inherently evil IMO. She had her reasons, as you had yours.

From the sound of it though, there is some real contention too between Girl A's dad and yourself. Trust me when I say that having a relationship that is already rocky is 800000000000000 times harder when you're going up against the parents and the problems you already have.

I stand by my previous statement... I think you may need to move on.

-M

[Edited on Mon, July th, 2005 by ElanthianSiren]

[Hassassin]

Sorry if that was graphic, I didnt mean to offend. I was just trying to get my point across and didnt know how to explain it any other way.

[Drew]

Originally posted by Tsa`ah
First is the ho-bag statement. If you can't get over the fact that women like sex as much as men and probably partake in it as often as men, then you're not mature enough to really involve yourself in a relationship.



Not exactly true, I just read a study about this recently and it would basically work out that most women did not have sex with many different partners and there were a few who had sex with a whole lot of them.


IE:
Woman 1 had sex with 4 different partners

Woman 2 had sex with 7 different partners

Woman 3 had sex with 5 different partners

Woman 4 had sex with 38 different partners

And for guys it would be like

Man 1 had sex with 12 different partners

Man 2 had sex with 15 different partners

Man 3 had sex with 8 different partners

Man 1 had sex with 10 different partners




So guess who was putting in the overtime to get those guys averages up?

[theotherjohn]

Originally posted by Hassassin
Yeah, I did it. I cheated on my girlfriend

Why would you want to salvage a relationship with someone that you dont even care enough about to not cheat on?

[SpunGirl]

Nah, Hassassin, you didn't offend me. I was just a little bit like.... wow.... yeah. My virgin sensibilities and all.

-K

[Kainen]

Originally posted by Hassassin
Oh yeah, and I figured out girl B is a nutjob. Hence why I called her a ho-bag. She is like an oppurtunistic infection or something. She saw the problems I was having with girl A, and swooped on me. I tried to ignore her at first, but it's hard when a hot chick keeps coming on to you to say no, especially when she hangs out with all your friends who you drink with. I am only human. But yes, she was insane. So don't get all venomous with me for calling her a ho bag. She is such a scandalous bitch that while we were having sex (of course using no protection b/c she is supposedly on the pill and I know she's clean) I was about to cum, and I tried to pull out and she literally pulled me in with her legs so I'd let off in her. In hind sight, that chick is one of the dumbest things I ever did. Thank god she didn't get knocked up. But yes, she was in-fact a ho-bag.

You know how stupid you sound??? She's a ho-bag but you didnt use protection, and you "KNOW" she's clean?? Sounds like YOU are the ho-bag.. and stupid to boot. If girlfriend is smart she'll kick your ass to the curb where you belong.

[4a6c1]

Originally posted by Dave
dump her, find another, there are tons

:yeahthat:

[CrystalTears]

OMG is Hassassin actually Ross? Cause all I could hear while reading this was, "WE WERE ON A BREAK!"

If you were broken up, and you're calling the girl you cheated with a ho-bag, why would you even want to try and salvage it? Move on and find someone else. You obviously don't care enough about her to stay faithful, even though you were technically ON A BREAK. :D

[Hassassin]

Sounds to me like some of you have had partners who banged someone else. Lay off the venom, Kainen, please. Like your mommy said, if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it all. I've known girl B for quite some time. I know she's clean. She doesn't sleep with a bunch of people.

[Hassassin]

And for all those people who say "Oh you didn't care about her enough to cheat on her". Cut it out with the idealistic crap. Of course I love her, I am only a human though. Plus, we were seperated for the time being. How many men would turn down a beautiful woman wanting to sleep with them? Under ANY circumstances. It's not like I was out on the prowl, this girl chased after me.

[4a6c1]

We like Kainens venom. Your getting the opinions you asked for silly. Stop the whining.

[Amber]

If she doesn't sleep with a bunch of people, she can't be a ho-bag, now can she? Psycho perhaps, but not a ho-bag. I think you should move on and find someone else somewhere down the road. I don't think you showed, or are currently showing, much respect for either of these women.

[CrystalTears]

Originally posted by Hassassin
And for all those people who say "Oh you didn't care about her enough to cheat on her". Cut it out with the idealistic crap. Of course I love her, I am only a human though. Plus, we were seperated for the time being. How many men would turn down a beautiful woman wanting to sleep with them? Under ANY circumstances. It's not like I was out on the prowl, this girl chased after me.

Hmm. Let me think. Oh I don't know. The guys who don't want to risk losing their loved one over a piece of ass?

I don't know why you're getting bent out of shape. Look at how you portrayed girl B and how girl A and you were on the outs. How exactly did you expect, this group of all people, to come here and tell you lies and give you what you want to hear?

Real advice? Tell girl A the truth. No bullshit, no lies, no flowery crap. The truth. Let her decide if you're meant to be. If she is okay with it, then there you go. If not, then tuck your tail between your legs and move on. We can't make a decision for you, only the two of you can.

[theotherjohn]

Originally posted by Hassassin
And for all those people who say "Oh you didn't care about her enough to cheat on her". Cut it out with the idealistic crap. Of course I love her, I am only a human though. Plus, we were seperated for the time being. How many men would turn down a beautiful woman wanting to sleep with them? Under ANY circumstances. It's not like I was out on the prowl, this girl chased after me.

Idealistic crap??

It is the way it is suppose to be. Love does not mean you love when it is convient for you

I would turn down any woman because I LOVE my wife.

[SpunGirl]

I think the fact that he THOUGHT the relationship was over (after her Dad's shitfit) is a mitigating circumstance. However...

he should have been honest about his dalliance as soon as they got back together.

-K

[Kainen]

Originally posted by Hassassin
Sounds to me like some of you have had partners who banged someone else. Lay off the venom, Kainen, please. Like your mommy said, if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it all. I've known girl B for quite some time. I know she's clean. She doesn't sleep with a bunch of people.

No, actually very few of my ex-boy or girlfriends ever cheated on me. if you don't KNOW the meaning of ho-bag why say it? I mean.. isn't the word hoe used to denote a woman that sleeps around? If you want a place where everyone is going to pat you back, say "everything is going to be ok" and give you a lollipop then you SOOO picked the wrong place. Also, you sleeping with another woman, while you were on a "break" without protection IS stupid. Finally.. you obviously DON'T know her that well if you were surprised by her behaviour.

[Brattt8525]

>>I've known girl B for quite some time. I know she's clean. She doesn't sleep with a bunch of people.<<<

Umm so if you know her so well then you should have known she was a nutcase. Secondly if she does not sleep around with a bunch of people why are you calling her a ho?

[Nieninque]

Originally posted by Hassassin
Oh yeah, and I figured out girl B is a nutjob. Hence why I called her a ho-bag. She is like an oppurtunistic infection or something. She saw the problems I was having with girl A, and swooped on me. I tried to ignore her at first, but it's hard when a hot chick keeps coming on to you to say no, especially when she hangs out with all your friends who you drink with. I am only human. But yes, she was insane. So don't get all venomous with me for calling her a ho bag. She is such a scandalous bitch ..... In hind sight, that chick is one of the dumbest things I ever did. Thank god she didn't get knocked up. But yes, she was in-fact a ho-bag.

Im calling BS on this.
She came after you and wouldnt leave you alone, and you gave in like some poor defenseless victim that had no other options...yet you said girl B saved some of the calls you made to her phone, so that sounds like you were doing a bit of the running.

You sound like a 6 year old who is trying to pass off the blame for their bad behaviour on their brother/sister by saying "S/he made me do it"

My advice is go read some comics or something and leave the sex and relationships until you are mature enough to take responsibility for your part in them when they go wrong.

[Brattt8525]

I have to add that avatar makes me laugh.

[longshot]

Hassassin,

Please understand that the word "ho-bag" is derived from the word "ho". You've heard this word, yes?

So, when you repeatedly call her a ho-bag, it does conjure up the image of a slut. Especially when you go into graphic details that help us flesh out the ho-bag image.

I'm thinking you should probably go with a more subtle, yet precise term. How about "Psycho bitch"? Seriously... calling this girl a "ho-bag", and then saying she's clean forces me to seriously question your intelligence.

I don't know what is dumber... you going bareback with some psycho chick... or you completely forgetting all the shit that made you break off a four year relationship in less than a month's time... or you expecting her not to find out about your trist with "ho-bag"... or you being stupid enough to think that it will work out and she will trust you again and not seek revenge at your weakest moment... or the fact that her dad tried to remove parts of your face with his bare hands...

I'm feeling a lot of dumb from you.

Sorry if these aren't the responses you were looking for, but you asked.

It might be painful, but the truth often is.

[Edaarin]

Originally posted by Hassassin
How many men would turn down a beautiful woman wanting to sleep with them? Under ANY circumstances.

If I was in a relationship, I would. I may not be a lot of things, but I treat girls that I go out with the utmost respect.

I'd rethink your whole approach given that particular sentence. What's to say you're not going to cheat again if a beautiful woman comes along?

[SpunGirl]

So dish, Hassassin, how did it all turn out?

-K

[Hulkein]

This thread was ruined by chicks with attitudes out to lecture him because he called her a ho-bag.

:)

[ElanthianSiren]

Originally posted by Drew

Originally posted by Tsa`ah
First is the ho-bag statement. If you can't get over the fact that women like sex as much as men and probably partake in it as often as men, then you're not mature enough to really involve yourself in a relationship.



Not exactly true, I just read a study about this recently and it would basically work out that most women did not have sex with many different partners and there were a few who had sex with a whole lot of them.


IE:
Woman 1 had sex with 4 different partners

Woman 2 had sex with 7 different partners

Woman 3 had sex with 5 different partners

Woman 4 had sex with 38 different partners

And for guys it would be like

Man 1 had sex with 12 different partners

Man 2 had sex with 15 different partners

Man 3 had sex with 8 different partners

Man 1 had sex with 10 different partners




So guess who was putting in the overtime to get those guys averages up?


-Except that women tend to underestimate how many men they've slept with and men tend to overestimate historically. I'm going to go out on a limb and propose that the true numbers are probably about the same.

-M

[Drew]

Originally posted by ElanthianSiren

-Except that women tend to underestimate how many men they've slept with and men tend to overestimate historically. I'm going to go out on a limb and propose that the true numbers are probably about the same.

-M

It followed a certain number of people for five years, it wasn't a survey.

[DeV]

Originally posted by Hulkein
This thread was ruined by chicks with attitudes out to lecture him because he called her a ho-bag.

:) And guys too...

[CrystalTears]

Originally posted by Hulkein
This thread was ruined by chicks with attitudes out to lecture him because he called her a ho-bag.

:)

Cause if you're going to call a girl a ho-bag and then turn around and say that she doesn't sleep around, you need to learn what a ho-bag is. :P

[Tsa`ah]

Heh ... I sort of bypassed this thread after posting.


Originally posted by Drew

Not exactly true, I just read a study about this recently and it would basically work out that most women did not have sex with many different partners and there were a few who had sex with a whole lot of them.


IE:
Woman 1 had sex with 4 different partners

Woman 2 had sex with 7 different partners

Woman 3 had sex with 5 different partners

Woman 4 had sex with 38 different partners

And for guys it would be like

Man 1 had sex with 12 different partners

Man 2 had sex with 15 different partners

Man 3 had sex with 8 different partners

Man 1 had sex with 10 different partners




So guess who was putting in the overtime to get those guys averages up?

The study isn't conclusive by any stretch. It fails to take into account the ratio of turn downs to success.

Of course a woman will ALWAYS have the capability of having more partners. All she has to do is say yes.

Now if t he study showed equal ratios between genders, it would have some validity. However, it only takes into account how many partners, not attempts.

I'm willing to bet women have nearly non-existent attempt rates while men while the men have more attempts resulting in strike outs than one would witness at quadriplegic softball game.

So yes, woman 4 had more partners than 3 of the men combined. How many times did she solicit, and how many times did she just say "sure"? How many times did the guys strike out? How much of a prude could woman 1 be?

If men just had to say sure and women were the gender doing the hunting, men would be up there provided the appetites were not reversed.

A woman with 38 partners may seem slutty, but there are few men who wouldn't like to sport the same score if given the opportunity.

Ability vs desire: Women are able, men desire.

[Warriorbird]

This thread is starting to remind me of 'Clerks.' 37!

[Skeeter]

Best advice you'll ever get to follow:

QUIT FUCKING JERRY SPRINGER CHICKS FROM THE TRAILER PARK

[longshot]

Originally posted by CrystalTears

Cause if you're going to call a girl a ho-bag and then turn around and say that she doesn't sleep around, you need to learn what a ho-bag is. :P

Exactly.

I'm curious how this turned out as well.

You've got be some kind of idiot to bareback the first chick that brushes up against you.

Unless you are married, there's no reason to bareback. Ever.

Shit, even if you are married, there's probably plently of reasons not to.

All it takes is one fuckup, and your dick will be a pussing rod of bubble-wrap.



[Edited on 7-22-2005 by longshot]

[SpunGirl]

Originally posted by longshot
All it takes is one fuckup, and your dick will be a pussing rod of bubble-wrap.


I *love* this. I think it should be a new slogan for safer sex.

-K

Longshot speaks from experience