Match.com

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Has anyone tried Match (http://www.match.com).com? Or know anyone who has? Or heard good or bad things about it?

Yes, I’m considering it. $50 for three month membership. Sounds steep, but if you think of it like an online game... heh.

I’ve heard many good things, one of which being that busy career gals who don’t have time to meet men use it to find dates. One gal I know has been dating exclusively from it. Thoughts?

[Edited on 6-9-2005 by Backlash]

[Showal]

I know a kid who got married off of it. I'm of the belief that internet dating sites are not the jokes they once were. So good luck with it. I've heard good things about it.

[xtc]

Have you tried finding a nice girl at The Socialist Party of America?

http://www.sp-usa.org/

Seriously though, never tried internet dating.

[hectomaner]

go for AFF (http://www.adultfriendfinder.com)

this way you know you'll get some action

[Soulpieced]

I've got a match.com horror story for you.

One of my girlfriend's good friends (and roommate) found some guy on match.com. Lots of stuff in common, he had a good job, cool personality. They talked on the phone plenty, and everything was solid. So they finally actually get together and meet up. The guy is good looking, etc. He, however, failed to mention at any point of conversation that he is lacking a right hand. Nub, stump, whatever you want to call it. They went the whole night, and he never even said anything about it. Needless to say, they didn't go out on another date. So much for stumpy.

True story.

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Originally posted by xtc
Have you tried finding a nice girl at The Socialist Party of America?

http://www.sp-usa.org/

Seriously though, never tried internet dating.

One of the questions they ask is political affiliation. There is no choice for communist, anarchist, expatriot or dissident. Just “Some Other Viewpoint.” Bwahaha :P

[Praefection]

A friend of mine's mom signed her up for a year. The guy she's dating right now was found from that particular site. He's not a bad person and I don't think she'd have met him otherwise so I'm a bit iffy about it. Too many weirdos out there.

[Nakiro]

Soulpieced your story is horrible. I'd atleast give a handicapped person a try before never seeing them again. It might've been awkward but you know you can always atleast try to talk about things.

[Miss X]

Hmm, I just went through all the questions and stuff to see what it was like, seems ok. I'm far too tight to pay for anything like that though but I guess the good thing is, you know if someone is paying they must be serious about it.

Give it a shot hon, you have nothing to lose. :)

[Miss X]

And yeah, Nakiro is right about your story SP. Perhaps this guy just didn't see his disability as part of his identity? Talk about 100% shallow...

Bahahaha.

Dude, are you serious?

[Delirium]

Originally posted by Miss X
And yeah, Nakiro is right about your story SP. Perhaps this guy just didn't see his disability as part of his identity? Talk about 100% shallow...

I dunno if i agree it is shallow. Looking for a stable relationship id want my potential mate to be upfront about that sort of thing. What other possible things would they not see as part of their identity. Std's weight or addiction. I mean trust is a big thing.

[Soulpieced]

Way for both of you to not think like a female. If a guy you go out on a date with someone who hides something as "insignificant" as missing a limb/body part, then there is no way you could have any confidence that the person would not hide other things from you in the future.

[Edited on 6-9-2005 by Soulpieced]

[Soulpieced]

I am glad Delirium's mangina is fully functional.

[hectomaner]

Originally posted by Soulpieced
I've got a match.com horror story for you.

One of my girlfriend's good friends (and roommate) found some guy on match.com. Lots of stuff in common, he had a good job, cool personality. They talked on the phone plenty, and everything was solid. So they finally actually get together and meet up. The guy is good looking, etc. He, however, failed to mention at any point of conversation that he is lacking a right hand. Nub, stump, whatever you want to call it. They went the whole night, and he never even said anything about it. Needless to say, they didn't go out on another date. So much for stumpy.

True story.

shit, you'd think she'd be happy about it, instead of only going palm deep, this guy could hit mid forearm

[Sean of the Thread]

Originally posted by hectomaner

Originally posted by Soulpieced
I've got a match.com horror story for you.

One of my girlfriend's good friends (and roommate) found some guy on match.com. Lots of stuff in common, he had a good job, cool personality. They talked on the phone plenty, and everything was solid. So they finally actually get together and meet up. The guy is good looking, etc. He, however, failed to mention at any point of conversation that he is lacking a right hand. Nub, stump, whatever you want to call it. They went the whole night, and he never even said anything about it. Needless to say, they didn't go out on another date. So much for stumpy.

True story.

shit, you'd think she'd be happy about it, instead of only going palm deep, this guy could hit mid forearm

Stole my glory and beat me to it.. bastard.

[Nakiro]

Originally posted by Soulpieced
Way for both of you to not think like a female. If a guy you go out on a date with someone who hides something as "insignificant" as missing a limb/body part, then there is no way you could have any confidence that the person would not hide other things from you in the future.

[Edited on 6-9-2005 by Soulpieced]

People aren't going to expouse everything about themselves on a first date, but just because you have a physical handicap doesn't mean you should wear it around like a nametag.

He might've just been a guy who had gotten gangreen and had to have an amputation. But you know if you never ask there is no way to tell.

Also, its not like he was trying to "hide" his handicap. He probably didn't try to pretend his hand was in his pocket the entire time.

EDIT: Calling it a horror story is also dispicable.

[Edited on 6-9-2005 by Nakiro]

[Soulpieced]

I'm sorry, I still have to disagree. That is the sort of thing that you are obliged to tell someone, or at least MENTION it in conversation during a date.

It's not the fact that it isn't traditional...

It's the psycho-factor that acts as a deterrent.

Yeah, they might run into lowlifes like you.

[Sean of the Thread]

Who knows.. mebbe science will enable him to grown a new one in a couple years.

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Luke Skywalker was missing a hand and he still got his sister. Theres still hope for you guys.

[Soulpieced]

Luke Skywalker was missing a hand and he still got his sister. Theres still hope for you guys.

.

.... for me.. to poop on.

[Edaarin]

If it were me I woulda just said, "Ahrrrrrrrrr!" and left the person with the tab.

What about extra appendages? Six fingers? Is that really as creepy as its made about to be? Six toes? I think I remember some Friends or Seinfeld episode and there was a bunch of unnecessary stigma surrounding the issue. Bad juju.

[Nakiro]

Originally posted by Soulpieced
I'm sorry, I still have to disagree. That is the sort of thing that you are obliged to tell someone, or at least MENTION it in conversation during a date.

You made all these implications that he was a healthy trustworthy human being. I mean, you said you talked on the phone, had a good relationship, he cared about his apperance and was good looking, and he had an education and a good job. But you dehumanize him by discriminating against him soley on the basis of his hand. Its as if everything else about him that indicated he was a good guy sudden didn't matter. The fact that he had a physical handicap and didn't find it necessary to point that out early on makes all of his other credentials worthless.

If your friend was talking to him on the phone, and he mentioned it, would it have been a big deal? I don't know, but I don't see how that is much different than sitting at a table with his amputated wrist on the table and just showing it to you. Apparently, and probably towards his own betterment, he refused to cause his handicap to become a strong part of his own identity and didn't find it necessary to present it to people as such. Good for him. I know if I sure as hell had a missing hand I wouldn't introduce myself to people as Erik the stump man.

What if he didn't specify his ethnicity and wasn't caucasion, or had burn scarring?

I just don't see how after everything else you mentioned about him that you could have a trust issue based on the fact that he was handicapped. Call it what you want but it seems most clearly to me to be a case of obvious discrimination, which is okay to some extent because its your dating and personal life, but to hide behind it as being a trust issue is just horrible.

Call me shallow but I wouldn't date a chick without a hand. For some people it is hard to find a person with a deformity attractive.

How many armless people have you dated Nakiro?

[Miss X]

Originally posted by Dave
Call me shallow but I wouldn't date a chick without a hand. For some people it is hard to find a person with a deformity attractive.

How many armless people have you dated Nakiro?

You're shallow.

I guess I am, I just dont find things like that physicaly attractive.

How about Miss X how many armless people have you dated?

[Miss X]

Originally posted by Dave
I guess I am, I just dont find things like that physicaly attractive.

How about Miss X how many armless people have you dated?

I've never met any armless people, so none. I definitely wouldn't disregard a guy just because he had one arm though.

I'm not trying to judge you though Dave, a while ago I said something very hurtful to a disabled friend of mine. It took a long while for me to realise how disgusting that kind of comment was and how much of an impact what I said but I learnt from it and I'm a better person for it. :)

[Soulpieced]

When you are trying to meet someone online, you are relying 100% on THEIR word. By not coming clean and saying something like I am missing an appendage, you are flat out lying to that person. Talk to someone online for months and finally have the courage to meet up with the person, and OOPS, I forgot to mention that I am deaf. Minor detail? Sure you could work it out, but the fact that the person didn't mention it..... shitty.

[Nakiro]

Originally posted by Dave
Call me shallow but I wouldn't date a chick without a hand. For some people it is hard to find a person with a deformity attractive.

How many armless people have you dated Nakiro?

Two. I am going to marry the second person. My first was a Jewish girl (though I was young so I really don't consider it a relationship on the same level as my current ones).

Would I date a girl without a hand? Well, I wouldn't exclude her for not having a hand, so yes. But really if you don't think you would that is one thing. Its completely different to not do it and THEN have the audicity to claim its a "trust issue" because they weren't foreright in identifying their handicap.

[Nakiro]

Originally posted by Soulpieced
When you are trying to meet someone online, you are relying 100% on THEIR word. By not coming clean and saying something like I am missing an appendage, you are flat out lying to that person. Talk to someone online for months and finally have the courage to meet up with the person, and OOPS, I forgot to mention that I am deaf. Minor detail? Sure you could work it out, but the fact that the person didn't mention it..... shitty.

I'll conceede. It is shitty. But it shouldn't be that much of a trust fracture; or at least it wouldn't be for me.

[Soulpieced]

Again, that goes back to my *girl* comment. Women/girls *do* think exactly like my second post in which I explained the trust issue. Anyone who tells you otherwise is full of shit.

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Originally posted by Soulpieced
When you are trying to meet someone online, you are relying 100% on THEIR word.

And thats why you set up the meet in a public place.

Originally posted by Nakiro

Originally posted by Dave
Call me shallow but I wouldn't date a chick without a hand. For some people it is hard to find a person with a deformity attractive.

How many armless people have you dated Nakiro?

Two. I am going to marry the second person. My first was a Jewish girl (though I was young so I really don't consider it a relationship on the same level as my current ones).

Would I date a girl without a hand? Well, I wouldn't exclude her for not having a hand, so yes. But really if you don't think you would that is one thing. Its completely different to not do it and THEN have the audicity to claim its a "trust issue" because they weren't foreright in identifying their handicap.

let me get this right, you have dated two women without arms, but are talking about not excluding somebody for missing a hand... peculiar

[Miss X]

I really don't see it that way, and I am a woman and most certainly not full of shit.

Imagine you are someone with only one arm... When you meet people in reality, your identity is 'a one armed person'. Just like if you are in a wheelchair, the first thing people notice about you is the chair. Not many people want to be judged based on their disability, or physical appearance but we can't help doing it.

The internet gives people a chance to escape that initial judgement. It's a chance for that person, who is constantly judged because he has only one arm, to let people get to know him purely for who he is as a person. I can understand why he, and many others, would want to do that.

[DeV]

Originally posted by Soulpieced
Way for both of you to not think like a female. ^ :rolleyes:

I agree with SP on this one. Trust was broken from the start. Knowing he had a disability would be a significant reason to make sure everything is up front from the start. He screwed himself.

[Leetahkin]

I tried Match.com. Didn't do anything for me.
I refused to shell out that amount of money in the hopes of meeting someone decent.
It works for some, not for others. Ya got a 50/50 shot.

[Soulpieced]

It's a chance for that person, who is constantly judged because he has only one arm, to let people get to know him purely for who he is as a person. I can understand why he, and many others, would want to do that.

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So you're saying you wouldn't be mad if you setup a date with Mr. Perfect on the Internet, everything he told you about himself is awesome. You've talked on the phone with him for weeks. You finally get to meet him and he shows up and is in a wheelchair. He failed to mention this *small* detail in your months worth of conversations. You go the whole date, and not ONCE does he mention that anything is wrong with him, other than your obvious recognition that he is a parapalegic. And you are telling us that you would not judge him or consider going out on another date with him just because that's shallow?! I'm sorry, but that doesn't fly.

[Miss X]

Originally posted by Soulpieced
It's a chance for that person, who is constantly judged because he has only one arm, to let people get to know him purely for who he is as a person. I can understand why he, and many others, would want to do that.

.

So you're saying you wouldn't be mad if you setup a date with Mr. Perfect on the Internet, everything he told you about himself is awesome. You've talked on the phone with him for weeks. You finally get to meet him and he shows up and is in a wheelchair. He failed to mention this *small* detail in your months worth of conversations. You go the whole date, and not ONCE does he mention that anything is wrong with him, other than your obvious recognition that he is a parapalegic. And you are telling us that you would not judge him or consider going out on another date with him just because that's shallow?! I'm sorry, but that doesn't fly.

I'm saying I'd give that person a chance. I'm sorry that we don't all conform to what you consider to be a normal response.

[Skirmisher]

I agree with Miss X here.

A missing arm would not be an automatic end of the date for me either.

It just is not such a huge deal to me as long as the person was otherwise acceptable in my experiences up to that point.

[Latrinsorm]

Originally posted by Soulpieced
That is the sort of thing that you are obliged to tell someone, or at least MENTION it in conversation during a date. I have a bad hamstring. Am I obliged to tell people this the moment I meet them? "Hi I'm LatrinI HAVE A BAD HAMSTRING!!!!" (Yes, I go by Latrinsorm in real life.) I also don't react well to heights. Am I obliged to mention that?

Soulpieced, you make it sound like this fellow actually did lie. While I am not the friend in your story, I am willing to bet she didn't ask "how many hands do you have?" before meeting the fellow. As a quick exercise, how many of your failings do you list when/before you meet someone, Soulpieced?

Good luck, Backlash. Hopefully you won't run into Soulpieced's friend.

[DeV]

Originally posted by Latrinsorm
While I am not the friend in your story, I am willing to bet she didn't ask "how many hands do you have?" before meeting the fellow. She probably expected him to have them both.

Edited to ask where the responsibility should rest when you are dating someone from the internet?



[Edited on 6-10-2005 by DeV]

[Soulpieced]

A "failing" is not the same as a significant physical handicap, which might otherwise preclude someone from dating someone they have never seen in person. This again goes back to misleading people with an online persona.

[Edited on 6-10-2005 by Soulpieced]

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Originally posted by DeV
Edited to ask where the responsibility should rest when you are dating someone from the internet?

For myself, I always take the responsibility. Like, if, I met some crazy axe-wielder, it’d be my fault if they actually got a strike in.

Luckily, I’m much more crafty than that.

Like I never tell people I have a speech impediment

Originally posted by RangerD1
Like I never tell people I have a speech impediment
You're on your way to becoming a first Sergeant at least if you stay in then.

Nope, 5 months and I'm gone.

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Hey, I met RD1 and we both walked away unharmed.

Originally posted by RangerD1
Nope, 5 months and I'm gone.
how long are they going to keep you here once you get back?

[xtc]

Originally posted by Dave
Call me shallow but I wouldn't date a chick without a hand. For some people it is hard to find a person with a deformity attractive.

How many armless people have you dated Nakiro?

You are looking at this all wrong. People who loose their sight develop incredible hearing and a sixth sense. People who loose their hearing develop incredible sight and a sixth sense.

NOW

Imagine a woman, who has lost one hand, she has had to compensate. Her one other hand has had to do the work of two hands. She also has probably had to develop her feet and mouth beyond normal capability as well. Not to mention the sixth sense.

Imagine the hand job this woman could give you, or foot job, or mouth (blow) job. Plus she has developed a sixth sense. She will know by sense, Dave wants it faster, slower, harder, softer.

Dave you are so short sighted. I may be superficial but I see all the possibilities.

hrmmm, everything in that post was Kosher until "foot job"

I understand, but still could not bring myself to do it.

[xtc]

Originally posted by Dave
hrmmm, everything in that post was Kosher until "foot job"

I understand, but still could not bring myself to do it.

If the girl has sexy feet, a foot job is hot.

(sorry if that sounds too Paris Hilton)

To each their own Paris. :wink:

[xtc]

Originally posted by Dave
To each their own Paris. :wink:

Hey are you saying I am?


http://www.geocities.com/ianfca/Beef.jpg

I like this Paris:


http://www.geocities.com/ianfca/parish.jpg


Not this Paris:


http://www.geocities.com/ianfca/Latsis.jpg

no but foot sex?

[Latrinsorm]

Originally posted by DeV
Edited to ask where the responsibility should rest when you are dating someone from the internet?I expect an honest answer to any question I ask (or none at all if I overstep my bounds). I do not expect an answer to any question I do not ask. It is not possible for someone to read my mind even with nonverbal cues, let alone over the internet.
Originally posted by Soulpieced
This again goes back to misleading people with an online persona. It's only misleading if he says "I have two hands". I suppose your friend provided some sort of medical proof she had no STDs before the meeting was arranged, right? Her only excuse that I can think of would be never having heard of nor conceived of a person with a physical handicap. "Cripples are gross" is not an excuse to end a relationship, it's a damning personal indictment.

[xtc]

Originally posted by Dave
no but foot sex?

Yeah just make sure the feet look like these:


http://www.geocities.com/ianfca/sexyfeet.jpg

not these:


http://www.geocities.com/ianfca/uglytoe.jpg

To each their own.

[hectomaner]

that is the grossest foot ever

i didn't really read this now and am Kind of too tired to be, but I did see the word foot so I am going to post this link for the sheer factor of grossing peoples: http://forum.gsplayers.com/viewthread.php?tid=14082

I would put that shit on my dating site.

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Why are all people who use an X on their name annoying?

[xtc]

Originally posted by Backlash
Why are all people who use an X on their name annoying?

You just don't get my humour

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hu·mour P Pronunciation Key (hymr)
n. & v. Chiefly British
Variant of humor.

Main Entry: hu·mor
Variant: or chiefly British hu·mour /'hyü-m&r, 'yü-/
Function: noun
1 a : a normal functioning bodily semifluid or fluid (as the blood or lymph) b : a secretion (as a hormone) that is an excitant of activity
2 in ancient and medieval physiology : a fluid or juice of an animal or plant; specifically : one of the four fluids that were believed to enter into the constitution of the body and to determine by their relative proportions a person's health and temperament —see BLACK BILE, BLOOD 3, PHLEGM 1, YELLOW BILE


No, I don't get it.

[xtc]

Originally posted by Backlash
hu·mour P Pronunciation Key (hymr)
n. & v. Chiefly British
Variant of humor.

Main Entry: hu·mor
Variant: or chiefly British hu·mour /'hyü-m&r, 'yü-/
Function: noun
1 a : a normal functioning bodily semifluid or fluid (as the blood or lymph) b : a secretion (as a hormone) that is an excitant of activity
2 in ancient and medieval physiology : a fluid or juice of an animal or plant; specifically : one of the four fluids that were believed to enter into the constitution of the body and to determine by their relative proportions a person's health and temperament —see BLACK BILE, BLOOD 3, PHLEGM 1, YELLOW BILE


No, I don't get it.

You missed the first definition:

noun 1 the quality of being amusing or comic. 2 a state of mind: her good humour vanished

I dunno, I might be gone by thanksgiving. Hopefully or they might try and keep me 90 days (god forbid)

Originally posted by RangerD1
I dunno, I might be gone by thanksgiving. Hopefully or they might try and keep me 90 days (god forbid)

shit you had a question for me and I fogot to get you an answer... remind me what that was.

I know with 3rd Bde they all got stuck for 90 days before the guys getting out were allowed to.

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Originally posted by xtc
You missed the first definition:

noun 1 the quality of being amusing or comic. 2 a state of mind: her good humour vanished

3 Confused about nationality. Noncommittal. Repeating old tired propaganda. Not on one fence or the other. Wishy-washy.

www.bangme.net (http://www.bangme.net)

:)

[longshot]

Fucking horrible.

I wanted to hear about match.com, and Nakiro the hick has to shit on it.

Soulpieced is far too kind, in my opinion.

This has NOTHING to do with being attracted to someone with deformities. ZERO.

As he clearly pointed out, it was a horror story because of the lack of disclosure.

END OF STORY. Anyone that want's to bring up "everyone should be judged on the inside" needs to go to another thread. Honestly, I'd prefer you impale yourself in the ass with a firehydrant first for being so stupid...

The person can make a decision to know the inner you if you are honest and upfront about that kind of thing in the first place.

Some of you people are really fucking dumb. It's almost depressing...

I want to hear more online dating stories.

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Working on it. You want the horror stories too?

That was the answer to my question Dave. Which means I'll prolly be there till new years

It might be different for you guys though, who knows.

[longshot]

Originally posted by Backlash
Working on it. You want the horror stories too?

Absolutely.

I'm curious about the online dating thing myself .

I feel like I'm 500 years too old for myspace.

I live in Detroit, so there's like 500 half-retarded skanks for every decent girl. I work long hours, and just don't really have time for, or care about the bar scene very much.

When I first came back from Japan, I was up at college again and it was easy to meet girls. But, now that I'm working... being out of the country for two years, my friends are still my friends... but their new friends are not my friends. Does this make sense?

I want to hear the horror stories, the success stories, and know which sites are decent. I don't know if this is something I'd try for certain, but I'm curious.


edited to include the quote from Backlash

[Edited on 6-10-2005 by longshot]

Hey longshot whats your myspace name. It's super lame and I need friends.

[crazymage]

I feel like I should respond to this thread with something clever, but nothings coming to mind!

Originally posted by crazymage
I feel like I should respond to this thread with something clever, but nothings coming to mind!

What else is new? :lol:

- Arkans

[crazymage]

[June 10 11:19AM] CrazyMage87: unless you insult like 20 cripples!
[June 10 11:20AM] Vicky: hahaha
[June 10 11:20AM] Vicky: PER DAY
[June 10 11:20AM] CrazyMage87: OMG POSTING
[June 10 11:20AM] Vicky: got to get my daily qouta of cripple abuse in

[Miss X]

I hate you!!

[crazymage]

CRIPPLE H8ER

[Shalla]

Just where do you find girls or boys to date anyway that you can only find by going out? Like the club? bars? come on. They almost never ever work out. Everybody's busy now a days.. when people hook up, it's usually through a friend.. from school, from work.. even from church. Going out to meet people is so over-rated, it doesn't necessarily mean you're going to meet someone much less for them to be the love of your life.

If you don't have time to go out, to god knows where to meet men and women, odds are, you don't have time to make it work for them either. There is absolutely nothing wrong with internet dating, but that itself has it's own complications. When you talk to people online, talk to them as friends.. get to know them without the expectation that you will one day have a date.

You can get to know someone just about anywhere online, it doesn't necessarily have to be at a Match.com, although it does categorize what you're looking for, and simply do a search.

[Atlanteax]

Originally posted by longshot
Fucking horrible.

I wanted to hear about match.com, and Nakiro the hick has to shit on it.

Soulpieced is far too kind, in my opinion.

This has NOTHING to do with being attracted to someone with deformities. ZERO.

As he clearly pointed out, it was a horror story because of the lack of disclosure.

END OF STORY. Anyone that want's to bring up "everyone should be judged on the inside" needs to go to another thread. Honestly, I'd prefer you impale yourself in the ass with a firehydrant first for being so stupid...

The person can make a decision to know the inner you if you are honest and upfront about that kind of thing in the first place.

Some of you people are really fucking dumb. It's almost depressing...

I want to hear more online dating stories.

I've met some fantastic girls from online, but wasn't through Match.dom ... they IMed me out of the blue because of my AOL profile.

One was a drop gorgeous blonde, but unknown to me, she was still seeing someone else when we met up, and ended up moving with him to Florida. She and I keep in touch, but apparently she has some major issues that was not so apparent when I was hanging out with her but became known as I continued to talk with her since. So in a way, I was fortunate that I didn't have to deal with that kind of headache, even though she was a hot blonde (won't forget how she looked when she was swimming in my pool) who was into tennis, basketball, and pool.

Another one I met up with at the Starbucks where she worked. She turned out to be more attractive than her pictures suggested. I then went to some of her school's (college) plays that she sang/performed in. Also met her family briefly. But for one reason or another, we didn't "click" and about 6 months after we had our falling out (I wanted to go "steady" she didn't) she IMs me one day and says that she got engaged... apparently she changed her mind regarding one of her ex's (she was telling me before that he wouldn't leave her alone despite her telling him that it was over) after he proposed to her. Women :?:

.

I also met a few others... I'd say about 80% of the time, they ended up being appreciably attractive and not "gah, I'm going to have to ditch her." One just wanted to use me for my connections (I knew people who could get her into the career she wanted as a captioner). Another had a belly that suggested she failed to mention something ( :weird: ). One was really cute but dislike leaving her house (not even for dinner). Yet another was way too clingly for my preferences and was basically ready to put out the second time I met up with her (alarm bells for me).

So from all of that, it can seem like online dating for me has been nothing but a disaster. Though, I'd say that the reasons why most of them didn't work out, would be similiar or "normal" when considering whatever issues you may have by randomly meeting a "match" through other "normal" means (such as bar, school, friends, etc).

[DeV]

Originally posted by Latrinsorm

Originally posted by DeV
Edited to ask where the responsibility should rest when you are dating someone from the internet?I expect an honest answer to any question I ask (or none at all if I overstep my bounds). I do not expect an answer to any question I do not ask. It is not possible for someone to read my mind even with nonverbal cues, let alone over the internet. I can understand why you would feel that way and I'll chalk it up to inexperience.

It has nothing to do with being "grossed out" by dating someone with a handicap or disability. Nothing at all to do with that. It has everything to do with disclosing something that may or may not have a significant impact on a relationship.

That's like saying, if you met some woman on the internet and was under the impression she didn't have children simply because you never asked, everything should still be peachy because ... you never asked and she never felt the need to disclose!

[Wezas]

Originally posted by Atlanteax
I've met some fantastic girls from online, but wasn't through Match.dom ... they IMed me out of the blue because of my AOL profile.


http://members.cox.net/legendwezas/grandeurg.jpg

[Atlanteax]

Bah, that's not my profile!

Nevermind I don't use AIM.

Good photoshoping though.

[Soulpieced]

LMAO , Wezas is going after my photoshop title.

[Skeeter]

Originally posted by Atlanteax
they IMed me out of the blue because of my AOL profile.

apparently she has some major issues

ummm.... no shit?

A chick IM'g people out of the blue looking to hook up has some major fucking issues.

[DeV]

Originally posted by Groldar
Does harry potter use dating services? Good one, fuck off now?

[Latrinsorm]

Originally posted by DeV
That's like saying, if you met some woman on the internet and was under the impression she didn't have children simply because you never asked, everything should still be peachy because ... you never asked and she never felt the need to disclose! She's still the same person. :shrug: There's no doubt that I am inexperienced, but I hope I never think it's fair to be upset with someone because they didn't hear what I didn't say.

[Suppa Hobbit Mage]

I used Match.com when I was in DC. Great for blind dates I suppose.

Women lie. "Athletic" does not equal being able to run to the fridge and get a hoho out in 3.7 seconds.

[Delirium]

Who keeps hoho's in the fridge?

[Sean]

I'd be like the laughing stock of my hometown if I ever used Match.com and got caught.

[Suppa Hobbit Mage]

Why?

[Sean]

Eh my town just likes to bring people down. Sides generally young people are more judgemental than old people... old man.

[Suppa Hobbit Mage]

Heh :p I just don't see anything wrong with it. I worked a lot, so it wasn't a bad thing really. I met probably 10 different women in a year or so.

I don't know if that's worse, or the blind dates friends want to set you up on. At least the match.com adds you get an idea what the person is like (even if they lie!).

[Sean]

Originally posted by Suppa Hobbit Mage
Heh :p I just don't see anything wrong with it. I worked a lot, so it wasn't a bad thing really. I met probably 10 different women in a year or so.

I don't know if that's worse, or the blind dates friends want to set you up on. At least the match.com adds you get an idea what the person is like (even if they lie!).

I don't think it's that bad. Meeting people is meeting people. However, I was going to suggest you think eon's back to when you were a young 20 something and how you think your peers would react to finding out you used an online dating service... but then I remebered they had barely invented the wheel back when you were in school.

Y'know, I'm actually surprised by the amount of people that use the internet for dating. I think it is becoming less and less of a taboo thing. People actually form real relationships out of it and come out happy. It's interesting to see the change in treds.

- Arkans

[DeV]

Originally posted by Latrinsorm
She's still the same person. There is no denying that. I didn't get from SP's post that the girl felt he was a different person. She assumed he had all of his body parts; I'd consider that to be a fair assumption.
There's no doubt that I am inexperienced, but I hope I never think it's fair to be upset with someone because they didn't hear what I didn't say. I hope that never happens to you as well.

[Back]

Originally posted by Arkans
Y'know, I'm actually surprised by the amount of people that use the internet for dating. I think it is becoming less and less of a taboo thing. People actually form real relationships out of it and come out happy. It's interesting to see the change in treds.

- Arkans

Yeah. Hey, I’ve gotten laid off the internet a few times now without any dating service. Its just another way to meet people and its not exclusive to nerds anymore! :lol:

Its like shopping for a gf. Its pretty cool.

PS. Athletic = running to the fridge lol

It's all fun and games til you contract the herps.

[Back]

Ok, this is definately worth the comedic value...

Check out this description from someone who emailed me.


About me and who I'd like to date

I am cheerful and optimistical. I like various kinds of arts and all beauty in general, philosophy, psychology, to study countries and travel, to associate with people, to read the popular scientific literature. I love dance, maybe that why I love music very much too. I like all new - good people, cities, countries, entertainments, food and etc. I adore children and to make homelife coziness.I prefer healthy way of life, go in for sports (fitness, swimming, tennis , bicycle), draw, paint.

[Soulpieced]

go in for sports (fitness, swimming, tennis , bicycle)

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Not quite my idea of "sports".

Yea, I generally don't use the inet for dating because of the haha factor either