What about you has changed the most?

[Edaarin]

I was having dinner with my roommate from my first year in college, and he asked me a very interesting question.

What do you think has changed the most about yourself since then?

For me, it was that I've accepted the fact that I'm a nerd. His reply? I look more comfortable in my skin now.

[Keller]

When I went to college I was an evangelical Christian.

When I left college I didn't believe there was a god.

[Kainen]

I know people are gonna laugh, but I am a lot less combative, more forgiving, and not so touchy as I used to be. Also the urge to exterminate every human being within a 20 mile radius is gone :)

I'm less clicky.

[Alarke]

The thing that's probably changed most is my level of confidence has risen significantly.

[Caiylania]

I'm more willing to try new things and take more risks. A lot more outgoing with people.

[Ravenstorm]

Damn, that was a long time ago. But there's only one possible answer: I'm perfectly okay with being gay now. If only I had been back then...

Raven

[Snapp]

Originally posted by Ravenstorm
Damn, that was a long time ago. But there's only one possible answer: I'm perfectly okay with being gay now. If only I had been back then...

Raven
Same here. I got a lot more confidence and had a bunch of physical changes too.

[Asha]

I accept I'm not going to be a rockstar.

[Shari]

I pay more attention to reading the fine print.

Knowing that when I first started college would have had me graduate in 5 years instead of 6 and a half.

I think I'm also a lot more sure of what I want out of life.

[Solkern]

I don't try to impress anyone anymore, I've accepted, I am who i am, if you don't like it? blow me

Well, I've changed alot physicalls. I'm not as lanky and my body is much more porportionate then it was in hs. ( I was 6'4 160). My confidence has risen exponentially and I've found focus and direction whereas before I had none.

As a junior in HS I didn't think I'd make it past 18 and if I did I'd be in jail or just another bum. I'm gonna be a junior in College soon and I feel like I got the whole world open to me.

I'm a totally and completely different person than I was 4-5 years ago.

[ElanthianSiren]

When I entered my first year of college, I had a very live and let live attitude toward others.

I recognize now that life is a power struggle and someone is always struggling. I don't want to be the one struggling, so I don't take shit from those around me ie; I am much more willing to just let go of people and things. I guess you might say that my ex taught me a lot about what to NOT tolerate in humans in college, and I now apply that to my practical life.

-Melissa

[Warriorbird]

I'm married.

[AnticorRifling]

What Warriorbird said only add I'm also miserable.

[Asha]

Also , if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you might miss something.

I foud that was very very true.

[DeV]

Originally posted by Snapp

Originally posted by Ravenstorm
Damn, that was a long time ago. But there's only one possible answer: I'm perfectly okay with being gay now. If only I had been back then...

Raven
Same here. I got a lot more confidence and had a bunch of physical changes too. Thirded. My confidence has increased considerably as I've become much more comfortable and assertive than before.

[Czeska]

I'm married...again. I have a child. And I've finally become completely comfortable with my spirituality. Can't tell you how much of a comfort that is, in and of itself.

[StrayRogue]

I can cook. And I have long hair.

[AnticorRifling]

Did I mention I was dead inside?

[Wezas]

Originally posted by DeV

Originally posted by Snapp

Originally posted by Ravenstorm
Damn, that was a long time ago. But there's only one possible answer: I'm perfectly okay with being gay now. If only I had been back then...

Raven
Same here. I got a lot more confidence and had a bunch of physical changes too. Thirded. My confidence has increased considerably as I've become much more comfortable and assertive than before.

Man, glad I left college after two semesters. Seems to have a high rate of conversion.

Changes? I can no longer eat everything in sight and be a beanpole & I have bills for things other then just a credit card.

[HarmNone]

Sheesh! You're asking for ancient history here. :D

I suppose I've gained confidence and assertiveness. I've also learned to more easily sort out which life events are actually important and which are simply window dressing.

[Kuyuk]

<I can cook. And I have long hair. > Stray.


I can cook better than stray and have cooler hair too.


K.


I have a kid now, and now I dont want to be old :cry:

K.

[StrayRogue]

Longer hair is cooler. K. Thx.

[Vixen]

I'm married, with a baby on the way. And I am a lot less pessimistic than I used to be.

[Gan]

Confidence has increased.
I can see the forest now instead of just the trees.
I'm married to a wonderful wife, have a great job with a terrific company, and have a wonderful little boy - which means I'm ready for the next step (post grad work - still not ready for a mini-van yet though).
I appreciate my life for what it is - no need to seek an escape.
More open minded to what others think and do (not the homophobic person I used to be).

[Latrinsorm]

I learned the difference between existence and life.

[Leetahkin]

I'm learning that life is too short to be serious all the time.
That it's okay to have fun.

[Sweets]

Wayyyyyy more confidence in myself. I no longer believe in astrology or numerology. I am happy about where I am in life.:yes:

[Drinin]

Most of my changes were physical. Since I graduated high school I put on 40lbs, which is ton considering I was 6' and 120lbs at graduation, heh. Still a skinny fuck, but I'm working on it. I dyed my hair black and let it grow out as well. Clothing got less trendy or whatever. I tried to wear the abercrombie and bitch shit or whatever in high school because that's what everyone else was wearing. Now I just throw on some torn up jeans and a t-shirt and don't care. Well, except for when I have presentations or interviews, damn jobs. Going to have to get a hair cut in order to get that nice co-op job in the fall /whine.

[Artha]

I'm not a freshman in college, but since 9th grade...

I'm in way better shape now, thanks to tennis.
Beginning of freshman year = long blue hair. Now = shaved head.
More comfortable with myself and people in general.
More outgoing, even though I'm pretty sure I'll always be an introvert.
More open minded, especially about music type stuff.
Better at more or less everything, which I guess can be expected.

[peam]

I think I started doing what I thought was best, rather than what my Dad considered best. I quit my pursuit of an information systems degree, and I picked up a profession that is not only completely awesome, but it pays well and doesn't bore me to tears.

I'm finally living fully on my own too. Neither of my parents support or provide for me in any way. It's super sweet.

[Suppa Hobbit Mage]

Originally posted by Snapp

Originally posted by Ravenstorm
Damn, that was a long time ago. But there's only one possible answer: I'm perfectly okay with being gay now. If only I had been back then...

Raven

Same here. I got a lot more confidence and had a bunch of physical changes too.

I wouldn't say this is what has changed the most about me...

But I'm perfectly ok with you being gay now, too -- Back then, I don't know how I felt, but it was less visible (at least to me) and I'll admit a certain amount of homophobia. I like to think now I've matured and that I know and like people for who they are, not their sexual orientation. I'd even say this board here has opened my eyes a bit to that in particular, mostly some of your well thought out posts Ravenstorm.

[Jolena]

Hmm..damn that was a bit ago.

I've learned that the small things in life mean a lot and not to let them just pass you by due to being busy.

I've learned that family truly is what sticks by your side and to cherish those people in your life.

I've become more forgiving, more understanding and more responsible. Having three kids, going through divorce, and getting cancer does that to ya.

I realized that in order to leave my mark on the world, I can do that through just making someone else smile, like my kiddos.

[Ravenstorm]

Originally posted by Suppa Hobbit Mage
I'd even say this board here has opened my eyes a bit to that in particular, mostly some of your well thought out posts Ravenstorm.

That's very nice to hear. Thank you for saying so.

Raven

[Killer Kitten]

I've learned that everybody has something to teach me, if I STFU long enough to learn it. Nobody is a complete waste of space.

I've learned that shutting somebody up with a snappy put-down says a lot more about me than the other person, and that what it's saying to the world isn't so hot.

I've learned that how much other people shine has very little to do with how much I shine. It really is OK to praise a co-worker for their contributions and doing so will not lessen my own.

I've learned what unconditional love really is and I've learned to hold it sacred and never treat it for granted or take advantage of it.

I've learned what responsibility is and why people distust somebody who habitually drops the ball.

I've learned that loving always strengthens me, even loving somebody that is never going to love me back. Love isn't a commodity where we have to get an even or greater return for what we invest.

I've learned that physical beauty fades, and that I am much more than long legs, clear skin and great cheekbones.

I've learned to mind my own business and not presume to judge other people. No matter what awful thing another person has done it could easily have been me doing it, had I been born into their circumstances and lived their life.

I've learned that God exists and that, while he loves me, he won't hesitate to use me in whatever way he needs to further His plans. I have to trust that he is looking at a much larger picture than I am.

[Edited on 5-5-2005 by Killer Kitten]

[HarmNone]

Originally posted by Killer Kitten
I've learned that everybody has something to teach me, if I STFU long enough to learn it. Nobody is a complete waste of space.

Heh. You are such a dear! Oddly enough, though, I've learned that there are some people who are, indeed, a waste of space.:P

[Sean of the Thread]

Originally posted by Kainen
I know people are gonna laugh, but I am a lot less combative, more forgiving, and not so touchy as I used to be. Also the urge to exterminate every human being within a 20 mile radius is gone :)

Me also. TESTESosterone was great when banging down 19 year chicks to a nub but I also had to get into about 3 fights a week.

I'm also not as sensitive as I used to be. Alot of things I just don't care about and thus am much more easy going.

[Kainen]

Originally posted by Xyelin

Originally posted by Kainen
I know people are gonna laugh, but I am a lot less combative, more forgiving, and not so touchy as I used to be. Also the urge to exterminate every human being within a 20 mile radius is gone :)

Me also. TESTESosterone was great when banging down 19 year chicks to a nub but I also had to get into about 3 fights a week.

I'm also not as sensitive as I used to be. Alot of things I just don't care about and thus am much more easy going.

Ok but JUST to make it clear.. I am female :)

[Jadewolff]

Originally posted by HarmNone

Originally posted by Killer Kitten
I've learned that everybody has something to teach me, if I STFU long enough to learn it. Nobody is a complete waste of space.

Heh. You are such a dear! Oddly enough, though, I've learned that there are some people who are, indeed, a waste of space.:P


ditto

Much more arrogant and conservative.

A lot more outgoing and friendly.

Lost a ton of weight.

No longer a greasy hippy.

- Arkans

[Miss X]

I react to problems with logic rather than emotion, most of the time now.

Improved mental stability due to faith in my ability to do anything I put my mind to.

I care more about humanity and less about my own wants.

I'm not skinny anymore. :(

[Parker]

[i]

I'm not skinny anymore. :(

Well, define skinny?

Women were born to have curves, none of this emaciated skin-and-bones stuff please!

[Jennaen]

I've learned that shutting somebody up with a snappy put-down says a lot more about me than the other person, and that what it's saying to the world isn't so hot.


What we say and do is far more WHO we are than the things we have.. big factor in growing up, to realize that.


The biggest change for me was figuring out that people treat me as I allow them to, and that as an adult, if I don't like how someone treats me, I can demand change, or walk away.

The prime example being, a bad relationship with my mother, whose biggest ambition in life has been to find snide remarks to make to me; to find ways to try to put me down. The last straw was at my bridal shower, and snotty comments she made on my weight that embarrassed a houseful of women. I finally told her that behaviour was unacceptable, and if she wished to continue our relationship, she should bite her tongue.

Amazingly, the woman who'd behaved toward me as a spiteful sister for 28 years, now acts a bit more like an adult and parent. I don't believe we'll ever have a healthy parent/child relationship, but at least the boundaries are clear now, and I can better withstand spending time with her.

[Harlock]

Since college to now? Married and have a family. Changed my entire life, and really, for the better.

[Divinity]

I have to say that I'm still learning to change the way I was. It's a really slow change, but I think it's working out for the better.

I'm beginning to appreciate what is important to me.

I can't say that my self esteem is better, but I'm learning to accept who and what I am a bit more each day.

I can say that I have changed in one aspect. I don't put up a front and many barriers like I used to. Someone said a long time ago that even though I kept up this facade to keep out the bad, I'm also keeping the good away too. I would like to think that has changed, but I'm still growing up and have many more years to go.

[Skeeter]

I learned that getting arrested sucks. Jail is a place I have no desire to be.

With this knowledge I learned to be a shitload more responsible.

[Eviltwinpsu]

i started college as a 5'10" 175 lb geek...now im a 6'6" 235 lb (used to be 270 when 2 years ago) asshole/dork.....

im a lot more open and willing to talk to people
i make friends very easily
I now know what love is/and i know what heartbreak is(a few times)
still too shy to go up to random girls and hit on them
have a good job and a good future although i'm currently looking for a new job.

i know what it is to make a mistake (ran my car into a house while drunk) and how to learn from that.

I was a frat boy....ive seen and done alot of things since i was in highschool and i know that all the little things ive said and done have made me what and who i am today...

also, i started college quitting gs and now im back into it LOL and i go to gatherings and not quite as ashamed of playing dork games as i was when i went to college