What Would You Have Said?

[TheRoseLady]

Tonight, I had my in game husband and myself in Pinefar opening boxes. I had just moved him outside for a parchment rep and his character's former wife came through...this is the log of that interaction. The relevent bits of info here. Our characters have been married for 3.5 years and we've known one another for 4.5 years. I had honestly forgotten even who she was, but after she jogged my memory - it was like de ja vu only a few years earlier that she reappeared from a hiatus and basically said the same sort of things to my character...the you have nothing to fear stuff...

I, nor my character are intimidated by this person, nor is there any insecurity about the RP between my character and her husband - I was just awestruck by her audacity. I can understand having a connection with a character and all that, but to assume that she was so important that she once again had to reassure the wife that she wasn't a threat almost had me speechless. I struggled for something to say. I asked my character's husband how long they had been married, and he said a year if that.

So girls, and guys (if you are inclined) what do you think? How would you have responded?


>go door
[Pinefar Trading Post, Porch]
The porch is floored with wide, wooden planks, swept clean of snow and painted a wishful shade of green. All down the length of it, rocking chairs sit in a row, silent in the winter hush. This far north, the snow is a constant presence, transforming the row of pristine, green and white rockers into a wonderful winter folly. Generous, albeit short, double doors lead into the building. You also see a wooden barrel and a flight of stone steps.
Obvious paths: none
Husband followed.
>
Your disk arrives, following you dutifully.
>
Lady XXX just came through a pair of wide double doors.
>
The scintillating light fades from Husband's hands.
>
XXX pokes Husband in the ribs.
>
XXX hugs Husband.
>
XXX smiles at you.
>
XXX melodically says, "Hello."
>prep 205
You trace a sign while petitioning the spirits to bestow their aid with the Light spell...
Your spell is ready.
>cast
You gesture.
The area becomes brighter.
Cast Roundtime 3 Seconds.
>
You feel more refreshed.
>'hello?
You ask, "Hello?"
>
XXX melodically says, "I just wanted to say hello to Husband."
>nod XXX
You nod to XXX.
>
XXX melodically says, "I haven't seen him in... a long time."
>
XXX melodically says, "I am XXX."
>'I'm Wife
You say, "I'm Wife."
>
XXX melodically says, "You've nothing to fear from me."
>
XXX grins.
>'excuse me?
You ask, "Excuse me?"
>
XXX melodically says, "I'm his ex wife."
>
>'Let's see
You say, "Let's see."
>
>'I've been married to him now for 3 and a half years
You say, "I've been married to him now for 3 and a half years."
>
You feel more refreshed.
>smile
You smile.
>
XXX melodically says, "I just didn't want you to worry I'd try and take him back or anything like that. I consider him a good friend but nothing more."
>
You feel at full magical power again.
>
XXX smiles at you.
>'so I didn't fear you.
You say, "So I didn't fear you."
>
XXX melodically says, "But I do want to remain friends."
>'didn't remember you to be honest
You say, "Didn't remember you to be honest."
>
XXX nods to you.
>'I'll tell him that you said hello.
>
You say, "I'll tell him that you said hello."
>
XXX melodically says, "That's fine. I just wanted to say so out front to clear the air."
>
A pained expression crosses XXX's face.
>
XXX melodically asks, "Sleepwalking, eh?"
>'well he's resting
You say, "Well he's resting."
>l
[Pinefar Trading Post, Porch]
The porch is floored with wide, wooden planks, swept clean of snow and painted a wishful shade of green. All down the length of it, rocking chairs sit in a row, silent in the winter hush. This far north, the snow is a constant presence, transforming the row of pristine, green and white rockers into a wonderful winter folly. Generous, albeit short, double doors lead into the building. You also see the Wife disk, a wooden barrel and a flight of stone steps.
Also here: Lady XXX , Husband
Obvious paths: none
>nod XXX
You nod to XXX.
>'well, as I said..
You say, "Well, as I said.."
>'been married now for a long time.
You say, "Been married now for a long time."
>smile
You smile.
>
You feel more refreshed.
>
XXX smiles at you.
>
XXX melodically says, "Good."
>
XXX melodically says, "He's a good man and a good husband. I certainly wish you both well."
>'thank you
You say, "Thank you."

>smile XXX
You smile at XXX.

XXX ponders.
>
* Illumiada just bit the dust!
>
XXX melodically says, "I'll mainly be in Sol. It's really been taking a beating lately."
>'so I have heard
You say, "So I have heard."
>
You feel more refreshed.
>'we stay in the rift most of the time
>
You say, "We stay in the rift most of the time."
>l
[Pinefar Trading Post, Porch]
The porch is floored with wide, wooden planks, swept clean of snow and painted a wishful shade of green. All down the length of it, rocking chairs sit in a row, silent in the winter hush. This far north, the snow is a constant presence, transforming the row of pristine, green and white rockers into a wonderful winter folly. Generous, albeit short, double doors lead into the building. You also see the Wife disk, a wooden barrel and a flight of stone steps.
Also here: Lady , Husband
Obvious paths: none
>
XXX melodically says, "If either of you want to come down we could certainly use the help."
>
XXX melodically says, "He's probably changed in the years I've been away."
>
XXX ponders.
>'in what way?
You ask, "In what way?"
>
XXX melodically asks, "Do you have a problem with us remaining friends?"
>'why would I?
You ask, "Why would I?"
>
The dim aura fades from around you.
>smile
>
You smile.
>
chuckles.
>
Your breathing becomes more shallow.
>
You feel less confident.
>'like I said, we've been married for a long time really.
You say, "Like I said, we've been married for a long time really."
>
The brilliant aura fades away from you.
>
The opalescent aura fades from around you.
>
XXX melodically says, "I don't know. This isn't exacty a situation I'm used to."
>
XXX grins.
>'longer than you were married, I thought.
>
Your sense of faith and conviction wanes. You are less sure of yourself.
>
You say, "Longer than you were married, I thought."
>
You suddenly feel less protected.
>smile
You smile.
>
* Amannda just bit the dust!
>
XXX melodically says, "We were married a good few years."
>
XXX smiles.
>
XXX melodically says, "Good years."
>
>nod XXX
You nod to XXX.
>
XXX melodically says, "Well, since he's not awake no need for me to stick around. I just came up hoping to chat for awhile."
>
XXX melodically says, "If scaleyboy attacks I need to be south to man my Tower with the rest of my sisters."
>nod ney
You nod to XXX.
>
XXX melodically says, "It was nice meeting you."
>
XXX smiles at you.
>'well I will tell him that you came to say hello.
You say, "Well I will tell him that you came to say hello."
>
melodically says, "Take care of him, eh? I only wish him the best."
>'nice to see you again
You say, "Nice to see you again."
>
XXX melodically says, "I know it's a bit late to say so but still."
>
XXX grins.
>'I'm taking very good care of him, just look at him.
You say, "I'm taking very good care of him, just look at him."
>smile
You smile.

XXX melodically says, "Oh I am."
>
XXX giggles.
>
XXX melodically asks, "A bald spot?"
>'I keep him well clothed
You say, "I keep him well clothed."
>'in good gear and very happy
>
You say, "In good gear and very happy."
>
XXX nods to you.
>
XXX melodically says, "That's all I want for him."
>'be safe down there in Solhaven
You say, "Be safe down there in Solhaven."
>
XXX melodically says, "I'm having fun flirting with the boys down in Sol and driving Morvule crazy."
>
XXX grins.
>'when he awakens from his daydream I'll tell him you were here.
>
You say, "When he awakens from his daydream I'll tell him you were here."
>
XXX melodically says, "Aye. Take care and come south sometime when you can? I'd like to catch up when possible."
>nod XXX
You nod to XXX.
>'okay
You say, "Okay."
>
XXX melodically says, "Thanks."
>
XXX waves.
>
Lady XXX just went through a pair of wide double doors.
>

720 XXX

'FUCKING PWNED!

- Arkans

[peam]

I probably wouldn't have cared because it's a text-based online RPG.

[Mistomeer]

How do you feel about threesomes?
/sarcasm

[TheRoseLady]

Originally posted by Mistomeer
How do you feel about threesomes?
/sarcasm

:lol: Two guys? Sure!

[Suppa Hobbit Mage]

People take themselves too seriously sometimes.

I do like the 720 XXX though :)

[Artha]

say HI THIS IS MY BATTLE AXE.
act 's battle axe says, "HI NICE TO MEET YOU, XXX's FACE.
crypwn xxx

[Divinity]

From an ooc standpoint - I think it's weird, but whatever.

From an rp standpoint (my character's view if that were to happen) - Most likely blown away by her blunt ego. Depending on the character I was playing. One would have been death, the others would have just stared at her and asked if she was done yet. Heh.

lol, women are fucking evil, specially with their subtle pwns as demonstrated by that log.

[4a6c1]

I would've laughed out loud (and so would Jihna). Then next time I saw her I would have laughed in her face again. Drama is funny and I tend to amuse easily when faced with the shiny disco ball drama scene that is Elanthia.


XXX melodically says, "I just didn't want you to worry I'd try and take him back or anything like that. I consider him a good friend but nothing more."

gawk XXX

laugh roar

grin XXX

inspect XXX

snicker

say "Your serious?"

laugh roar

RINSE REPEAT UPON DISCO DRAMA SIGHTING

[DCSL]

You came out on top, really, with gentle protestations of your marriage's perfections and smiling politeness. Let her have her delusions.

Lady XXX just came through a pair of wide double doors.

>'I am much better than XXX and don't you forget it you little manwhore.

proceeded by...

>act has been grinding Husband's pork for at least 3 and a half years!

>blush

> say ::XXX Oh deary me!

[Tsa`ah]

Women are so catty.

[Caramia]

I didn't really see the big deal, but it's certainly apparent that despite your claim you weren't threatened by her, you sure needed to remind her with almost every comment that he's your property now!

It would have been more interesting and juicy if she'd been whispering sweet nothings to him while talking to you.

[Tsa`ah]

Or had they busted out in a bra and panties whipped cream wrestling match!

[Shalla]

XXX is a liar, she is so trying to get him back.. Did you see the way she was speaking melodically the whole time?.. that's practically flirting! :yes:

[MrFeature]

The correct response is, "Shut the fuck up and die" Although that would have gotten you a warning...

[Nakiro]

Yah there was nothing weird about that conversation. She was just stoping in and saying hi.

[Kainen]

Actually you handled it just fine.. I would have acted the same way.

[StrayRogue]

You seemed to be on the defensive right from the beginning. I'm sure she left with exactly the same feelings of audacity that you were feeling.

[HarmNone]

I'd probably have headed the whole thing off by whispering to her (when she hugged him) that I was playing the character at the moment, but would let him know that she'd sent her "regards" when next he was in-game.

[Toxicvixen]

Just Stopped in, From Sol Haven to Pinefar. Quite a trek just to say hi. :lol: Sounds like she was hoping to see him alone.

[Allycat]

I don't deal with women that are catty very well. I tend to cut them off before they have a chance to feel superior in the situation. I would have been polite, yet short. Perhaps I would have whispered to her that I was in his body, I would tell him that she stopped by to say Hello. Then smiled and said "Nice to have met you.. I'm sure we'll see you again soon, take care". Her whole "I'm not gonna try and steal him back" gig, was uncalled for. Obviously, she's trying to make you feel inferior. (as if)

-Ally

[CrystalTears]

I don't see where she was defensive at all. XXX walked in, hugged him and said not to fear her since she's the ex. I would have been apprehensive about such an introduction, but TRL handled it very well.

Then again I've never been a fan of women with power trips over men they used to have a relationship with. Let's repeat that.. USED to. I don't know what makes them think that they're so grand that they could take any man away from their wife, but whatever, it's her fantasy world.

[Jolena]

I had a situation similar to this once with Stunseed about a year ago or so. There was a woman whom he had been in an in game relationship with who disappeared for a while and she came back. Of course, we were together and had been for some time in game and she didn't wanna accept it. Basically she showed up and started being all smiley etc. but in whispers was very much trying to be 'more then friends' and finally after some time started to be very catty with Jolena openly as well. Basically, Jo laughed at her and took no mind of it. Eventually she just went away again. I've found that the best way to handle those things and get the person to give it up is just to take it with a grain of salt and chuckle.

[Czeska]

I didnt see it as a big deal. A lot of women will automatically assume that their guy's ex is trying to move back in, so to speak. Women can be ridiculously competitive. Maybe she actually meant what she said. Either way, as long as she's not stalking him, I'd just blow it off.

[YancyDC]

Since you were playing the husband at the time, have him kill her instead. I find that's always a good way of making clear where ex's stand with me. IRL, of course, but I'm sure it could apply here, too.

[DeV]

Tell her to fuck off if she comes around again. She's nothing but trouble.

[Kainen]

Better than killing her.. ignore her. Act distracted, don't respond. Eventually she will leave you alone.

[Shari]

This...I why I RAAARELY bother with in-game relationships.

I don't think it was really necessary for you to repeat that you were married for so long. I would have been curt, and polite. I would have told her I'll relay the message and been done with that. If she had kept talking I would have probably ignored her.


Women are psycho.

[Skeeter]

This just reinforces that women are crazy and uber-jealous when compared to men.

She was polite, you were a bit defensive. I'll never understand why the fuck 2 women can't be friends. People say guys are competitive. Women are 100x more competitive, to the point where they can't even be friends with each other.

If you see 2 women in game being nice to each other assume 1 or both is a man.

:crazy:

[Shari]

Originally posted by Skeeter

If you see 2 women in game being nice to each other assume 1 or both is a man.

:crazy:


ROFL

[TheRoseLady]

Originally posted by HarmNone
I'd probably have headed the whole thing off by whispering to her (when she hugged him) that I was playing the character at the moment, but would let him know that she'd sent her "regards" when next he was in-game.

He told me when he logged on later that he had a few waiting IMs from her, so she knew he wasn't there. But I sure could have done that and maybe next time (let's hope not ever) just say, gotta run! Cya!

[HarmNone]

Originally posted by TheRoseLady

Originally posted by HarmNone
I'd probably have headed the whole thing off by whispering to her (when she hugged him) that I was playing the character at the moment, but would let him know that she'd sent her "regards" when next he was in-game.

He told me when he logged on later that he had a few waiting IMs from her, so she knew he wasn't there. But I sure could have done that and maybe next time (let's hope not ever) just say, gotta run! Cya!

Heh. If she shows up again, just tell her you have an emergency. Your cat needs flossing. :D

[peam]

'Cat needs flossing'

That's plain vulgar.

[HarmNone]

:saint:

[SpunGirl]

Ew... I don't like the way she came off in that log. I agree with CT, there's something weird about women who like to assert their now-defunct position regarding men they used to be with. I also love how her account and your IG-husband's account of how long they were married differ.

From an RP standpoint, it was rude of her to introduce herself as "wife" after addressing him as "husband." She clearly knew he was married, and had that been my girl she would have thrown a fit. In cold tones and cutting words, of course.

-K

[Kainen]

Thats when you yawn and announce that you and Hubby are neaded to go take a nap.. together :lol:

[Vesi]

I'm not big on in-game relationships however, once one of my characters met a guy that had been sort of hanging out with another female character. He got to know my character and they started spending more and more time together. He was never engaged or anything to this other female character. I suppose she was hoping it would go that way. Anyway, after it was obvious that he and my character were a couple, I start getting private thoughts from her that it was ok (like I needed her permission) that he and my character were together because she played another roleplaying game and in that game she was married to a really nice guy. wtf?? Can you say... NEED TO SEPARATE OOG AND IG? I mean, why she was having to tell me all about how she had to be all that (or something) because she was married in a different roleplaying game was just weird. My psycho antenna went up. Then she rerolls her character and announces on the amulet (this is no lie) that she used to be soandso but was now this character due to 'romantic circumstances'. The guy that my character was with was one of those really nice guys that women just liked. I use to tease him in IMs about her. I think she must have had major problems. It was sort of sad. (but not sad enough for me to not make fun of it) :P

This situation seems mild to me. The best way to avoid having to deal with it on your own is simple. Don't MA.

Vesi

[TheRoseLady]

Originally posted by Vesi
This situation seems mild to me. The best way to avoid having to deal with it on your own is simple. Don't MA.

Vesi


We were in Pinefar for god's sake. We had just walked out to go to a private place to pick, so saying don't MA might sound all PC but that doesn't solve anything. She would have acted exactly the same had he been in his body or not. (She did the same thing several years ago, when he was in his body.)

You're right the situation is mild, but I didn't post it because I thought that this was some psycho out of control situation, I did so because I wanted to see how certain people would have handled it. It's about RPing a strange situation, and gauging if my take on it registers with the opinions of others on here (well some folks anyway :lol: )

[Vesi]

Originally posted by TheRoseLady
[quote]Originally posted by Vesi


We were in Pinefar for god's sake. We had just walked out to go to a private place to pick, so saying don't MA might sound all PC but that doesn't solve anything. She would have acted exactly the same had he been in his body or not. (She did the same thing several years ago, when he was in his body.)

You're right the situation is mild, but I didn't post it because I thought that this was some psycho out of control situation, I did so because I wanted to see how certain people would have handled it. It's about RPing a strange situation, and gauging if my take on it registers with the opinions of others on here (well some folks anyway :lol: )

I'm not trying to go all PC on you... just stating that it would have been up to him to actually roleplay it out instead of you if you hadn't been using his character.

I think you did fine with the situation. You were a tad defensive but I'm not sure I wouldn't have been also if I had been put on the spot like that too.

Vesi

[DeV]

You did the right thing. Believe me, from experience, there is no reason she should be putting herself in a situation to come into any contact with him especially since it's been stated you are now married to him, unless she has ulterior motives.
You never know with women.

[Vesi]

Originally posted by DeV

You never know with women.

We are such sneaky creatures! <grin>

[DeV]

Originally posted by Vesi
We are such sneaky creatures! <grin> :yes: And very naughty when we want to be.

[Vesi]

Originally posted by DeV

Originally posted by Vesi
We are such sneaky creatures! <grin> :yes: And very naughty when we want to be.

Yep yep.

[Toxicvixen]

If this situation ever happened to me, I think I would have done something like this

"OH MY GOD! THANK YOU FOR YOUR APPROVAL! I KNEW SOMETHING WAS MISSING IN OUR MARRIAGE, BUT I COULDN'T FIGURE IT OUT UNTIL YOU SAID IT WAS OKAY! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I AM ALSO GLAD YOU AREN'T GOING TO TRY TO TAKE HIM BACK SINCE YOU ARE SUCH A SMARTER AND BETTER LOOKING WOMAN THEN I! YOUR SO KIND!" and then start kissing her feet and bowing down. I wonder how she would have taken that! :lol:

God I'm AM insane! :spaz:

[Shari]

Hehe.

[Jennaen]

Considering that situation was probably the last thing you expected, in character, or as the mind behind the character.. ya did just fine.

Lady XXX's behavior was distasteful, certainly. Such cattiness might be somewhat acceptable, in character, if their former relationship was a recent event. Not after such a length of time, though. I dunno.. I think some people just have to have drama ingame, no matter how they create it.. even if it's one-sided.

But, hey, it's a giggle for you and your ingame man. A good "as if!" to chuckle over, while sharing a toast to your life together. The joke's on her, for taking her roleplay to such a silly place. There are much better ways to enjoy the game. :)

[OreoElf]

Originally posted by Divinity
From an ooc standpoint - I think it's weird, but whatever.

From an rp standpoint (my character's view if that were to happen) - Most likely blown away by her blunt ego. Depending on the character I was playing. One would have been death, the others would have just stared at her and asked if she was done yet. Heh.

What she said!