What should I do?

[macgyver]

My nephew is a 31 y/o who just had a baby. He is what we call a "stay at home dad". Apparently, this is OK and "a thing" especially for lazy ::cough:: sorry, "progressive" millennials now-a-days. His wife is some director for a bunch of hospitals in LA and makes a whopping 300k+ a year, she is apparently OK with this arrangement(and I suspect domesticated my nephew into his current role).Now, I'm not OK with this and ever since his dad died I took on the mantle as some kind of paternal sherpa for Mark. So, I feel like I have some skin in this relationship.

Long story short, whenever I drive down to Venice to their little glass and marble office building they call a home I get this uneasy vibe from my nephew's relationship with his wife. I'm seeing a husband and wife role being completely turned upside down. I sit down in their living room and Mark's serving me drinks and food; she's sitting across from me chatting me up. It was surreal. I see my nephew hunched over on his knees serving mini sausages and she's got this cobra strike eye lock on me like the cunt is sizing me up. I mean I can read her mind, "it's been fun fucking your nephew, wonder how it'll feel when my cocks in you old man."

Anyhow, I really don't know what to say to him. My gut says this kind of relationship can't last; it's unnatural. I wouldn't care too much but they have this boy and it's going to destroy me if he doesn't grow up proper. What can I do? What can I say? Any suggestions?

[RichardCranium]

Stay out of their business, for starters.

[Wrathbringer]

My nephew is a 31 y/o who just had a baby. He is what we call a "stay at home dad". Apparently, this is OK and "a thing" especially for lazy ::cough:: sorry, "progressive" millennials now-a-days. His wife is some director for a bunch of hospitals in LA and makes a whopping 300k+ a year, she is apparently OK with this arrangement(and I suspect domesticated my nephew into his current role).Now, I'm not OK with this and ever since his dad died I took on the mantle as some kind of paternal sherpa for Mark. So, I feel like I have some skin in this relationship.

Long story short, whenever I drive down to Venice to their little glass and marble office building they call a home I get this uneasy vibe from my nephew's relationship with his wife. I'm seeing a husband and wife role being completely turned upside down. I sit down in their living room and Mark's serving me drinks and food; she's sitting across from me chatting me up. It was surreal. I see my nephew hunched over on his knees serving mini sausages and she's got this cobra strike eye lock on me like the cunt is sizing me up. I mean I can read her mind, "it's been fun fucking your nephew, wonder how it'll feel when my cocks in you old man."

Anyhow, I really don't know what to say to him. My gut says this kind of relationship can't last; it's unnatural. I wouldn't care too much but they have this boy and it's going to destroy me if he doesn't grow up proper. What can I do? What can I say? Any suggestions?

Pretty sure you should stfu and stop posting.

[Allereli]

I'll repeat my comment about coming off as a total weirdo. You sound sick.

[Tisket]

My nephew is a 31 y/o who just had a baby. He is what we call a "stay at home dad". Apparently, this is OK and "a thing" especially for lazy ::cough:: sorry, "progressive" millennials now-a-days. His wife is some director for a bunch of hospitals in LA and makes a whopping 300k+ a year, she is apparently OK with this arrangement(and I suspect domesticated my nephew into his current role).Now, I'm not OK with this and ever since his dad died I took on the mantle as some kind of paternal sherpa for Mark. So, I feel like I have some skin in this relationship.

Long story short, whenever I drive down to Venice to their little glass and marble office building they call a home I get this uneasy vibe from my nephew's relationship with his wife. I'm seeing a husband and wife role being completely turned upside down. I sit down in their living room and Mark's serving me drinks and food; she's sitting across from me chatting me up. It was surreal. I see my nephew hunched over on his knees serving mini sausages and she's got this cobra strike eye lock on me like the cunt is sizing me up. I mean I can read her mind, "it's been fun fucking your nephew, wonder how it'll feel when my cocks in you old man."

Anyhow, I really don't know what to say to him. My gut says this kind of relationship can't last; it's unnatural. I wouldn't care too much but they have this boy and it's going to destroy me if he doesn't grow up proper. What can I do? What can I say? Any suggestions?

Stop inflicting your hangups on them. If they are happy, what the fuck business is it of yours.

You are such a douche.

[Tisket]

Jesus, they invite you into their home and you sit there and judge their arrangement? Seriously, what kind of asshole does that?

[Taernath]

Stay out of their business, for starters.

+1

[Maerit]

Legitimate advice here:

1. Stop asking for advice from complete strangers on a video game forum.
2. Start asking for advice from either accredited counselors, or people who actually have some context to this (or any) situation you're needing advice. If you have family friends that are closer to the actual situation, and have opinions, it's better to have that uncomfortable conversation than to try and pick the brains of complete strangers who are just going to rip you to shreds for your narrow-minded perception of what is probably a working household.

[Archigeek]

Mind your own business.

Let's assume for a moment (and this is a big stretch), that you tell him what you think. If you're wrong you're a douche, if you're right, you're still a douche. You have no business telling two people how to run their marriage. Keep your pie hole shut unless you just don't ever want to see your nephew again.

[Whirlin]

The best option is to steal your nephew, change your name, and move to another country.

And always listen to the internet.

[time4fun]

Wait until he finds out she can vote now too.

[Mogonis]

You're trapped in gender roles. Let people live their lives.

[Fallen]

If she is pulling down 300k+ then she should be wearing the pants in the family. Tell your nephew, "Good pull, old boy!" and be happy for him.

[Enuch]

This is definitely a clash of generational ideals. What you grew up with and the dynamics of a family structure are not what they are now.

That you don't like it doesn't mean it's wrong. And that you think being a stay at home dad is being lazy is laughable. Let's assume he is doing all the same roles of a stay at home mom, that is a tiring day that doesn't end. You don't punch a clock with that job. Single parents have to play these roles all the time and I doubt a single dad or mom is anything but lazy.

The same goes for two income houses. While in your genereTion was probably not a thing, this is now common place or depending on locations a necessity. Worry less about their family structure and worry more about why you think this is wrong.

[mgoddess]

Stay out of their business, for starters.


Pretty sure you should stfu and stop posting.


Stop inflicting your hangups on them. If they are happy, what the fuck business is it of yours.


Jesus, they invite you into their home and you sit there and judge their arrangement? Seriously, what kind of asshole does that?


Mind your own business.

Let's assume for a moment (and this is a big stretch), that you tell him what you think. If you're wrong you're a douche, if you're right, you're still a douche. You have no business telling two people how to run their marriage. Keep your pie hole shut unless you just don't ever want to see your nephew again.


You're trapped in gender roles. Let people live their lives.


If she is pulling down 300k+ then she should be wearing the pants in the family. Tell your nephew, "Good pull, old boy!" and be happy for him.


This is definitely a clash of generational ideals. What you grew up with and the dynamics of a family structure are not what they are now.

That you don't like it doesn't mean it's wrong. And that you think being a stay at home dad is being lazy is laughable. Let's assume he is doing all the same roles of a stay at home mom, that is a tiring day that doesn't end. You don't punch a clock with that job. Single parents have to play these roles all the time and I doubt a single dad or mom is anything but lazy.

The same goes for two income houses. While in your generation was probably not a thing, this is now common place or depending on locations a necessity. Worry less about their family structure and worry more about why you think this is wrong.

.

[Enuch]

Legitimate advice here:

1. Stop asking for advice from complete strangers on a video game forum.
2. Start asking for advice from either accredited counselors, or people who actually have some context to this (or any) situation you're needing advice. If you have family friends that are closer to the actual situation, and have opinions, it's better to have that uncomfortable conversation than to try and pick the brains of complete strangers who are just going to rip you to shreds for your narrow-minded perception of what is probably a working household.

its much easier to be judged negatively by strangers than to bring his antiquated ideals to his peers or family and be judged negatively. Harder to shake that judgement than to be judged by the myself or if tacos judged him.

[Mogonis]

In conclusion, do nothing because you don't get to decide that something is wrong.

[tacos]

I see my nephew hunched over on his knees serving mini sausages

How very sad he didn't serve tacos

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[jumbodog]

What should you do? Be supportive. All of the things you feel about him, he is wrestling with. And trust me. Its hard for him, too.


I stayed at home for the first two years of my son's life. It was tough. And let me clear something up right the hell now: I'm not some "lazy millennial". I'm 33 years old. I'm a medically retired U.S. Navy veteran. I have an excellent resume, three degrees, over 10 years of outstanding technical work experience in both electronics and software. I currently have a good job (not 300k a year good, but "raise a family comfortably" good).

But I stayed at home for the first two years with my son before going back to work roughly a year ago. We're expecting another kid. My wife is active duty. I'll be leaving work to stay at home with the next kid for at least the first year again.

When I was at home I struggled with exactly the feelings you're talking about. Every. Single. Day. I would go out to the grocery store with my son and get looks from the people at work. I had a lot of judgement thrown my way. Being in the military we're already enveloped in a censervative culture, so its the same things you're talking about. "The relationship won't last because its unnatural," or "I would never be able to do that. What kind of a man doesn't provide for his family?" Or whatever else you can imagine. That was my inner monologue. That was what I thought people were saying and thinking about me. The first year was really tough on me. I had to change my definition of masculinity. It didn't matter how much I could squat or bench because my wife "wore the pants."

And its damn lonely. I can't just go spend the day with the "stay at home wives," because what sort of man spends all day hanging out with another man's wife? Regardless of my intentions there, the perception would always be that I'm up to no good. So I stayed out of that.

So what should you do? Probably what I did. Learn that its okay for a man to be kind. Its okay for a man to tell his kids that he loves them. My dad got a bit misty eyed when he first saw me with my kid, because he grew up in a world where men just weren't affectionate. He saw the way I acted around my kid, and the regret of his rigidness covered his eyes. My dad is a very good man. But the only two emotions I learned from him were happiness and anger. And hugs were always awkward growing up. But in watching me, he was set free from a lifetime of what things "should" be.

What I learned about my marriage was even more important. My wife has the utmost respect for me for raising my son. It brought us together once we got over how things "should" be. At first it was hard. The plan was always that she would stay home and I would stay active duty. Life doesn't go the way we plan. We still struggle with what our roles should be sometimes, but what relationship doesn't? And one more thing I learned once I got comfortable with what I was doing. I got a lot of positive feedback from the women I came in contact with regularly. They would all tell me how much they wished their husbands would interact with their kids the way I do. They tell me how lucky my son is. And remember, military culture, so very conservative folks here. And my son is damn lucky. He has two parents that he knows think the world of him. He is bristling with confidence.

But your nephew knows what you're thinking. And it drives him nuts. So talk to him about it. Ask him how HE is doing with it. Because he's learning a new definition of manliness. And its a tough balancing act between the strong father figure, but still needing to be the gentle parent of a toddler/infant. And its a f***ing brutal experience to go through. Once I came to grips with it though, life was good. Life is good. And now I can't wait to leave my job and stay home with the next one, because playing with a baby is the s**t.

And no, his wife isn't some crazy pants wearing girl power feminist. They just made a practical financial decision to determine who would stay home. And it breaks my wife's heart because she feels like a failure in that regard. She struggles with the fact that she "should" be staying at home. But she has a damn good career in front of her. It is far more likely that the look that your nephew's wife is giving you is fear out of what you're thinking of her because she understand's that you don't view their arrangement as "natural."

So if it makes you uncomfortable, talk about it. Because it sure as shit makes them uncomfortable too.

[Stumplicker]

So, I feel like I have some skin in this relationship.


You don't.


What can I do? What can I say? Any suggestions?

Stop.

[Velfi]

http://i.imgur.com/i82LtMV.gif

[macgyver]

Hm, didn't expect the responses that I did. The main reason I posted this here was that you guys probably tend toward the younger side; and age and time is practically the same as distance, I might as well be living in Antartica. One plus from their relationship is the enormous financial security they have, and which I'm envious of (because I didn't have this during his age). Honestly, in my time we could reasonably expect a house and two cars on a single salary coming from someone with a H.S. degree, this doesn't apply to our current society. So, yeah, maybe I'm out of touch.

[Velfi]

Hm, didn't expect the responses that I did. The main reason I posted this here was that you guys probably tend toward the younger side; and age and time is practically the same as distance, I might as well be living in Antartica. One plus from their relationship is the enormous financial security they have, and which I'm envious of (because I didn't have this during his age). Honestly, in my time we could reasonably expect a house and two cars on a single salary coming from someone with a H.S. degree, this doesn't apply to our current society. So, yeah, maybe I'm out of touch.

http://i.imgur.com/DDD9AnG.gif

[Mogonis]

No maybe about it, but at least you took pause and asked about it before you did something irreparable.

[Warriorbird]

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[Androidpk]

My nephew is a 31 y/o who just had a baby. He is what we call a "stay at home dad". Apparently, this is OK and "a thing" especially for lazy ::cough:: sorry, "progressive" millennials now-a-days. His wife is some director for a bunch of hospitals in LA and makes a whopping 300k+ a year, she is apparently OK with this arrangement(and I suspect domesticated my nephew into his current role).Now, I'm not OK with this and ever since his dad died I took on the mantle as some kind of paternal sherpa for Mark. So, I feel like I have some skin in this relationship.

Long story short, whenever I drive down to Venice to their little glass and marble office building they call a home I get this uneasy vibe from my nephew's relationship with his wife. I'm seeing a husband and wife role being completely turned upside down. I sit down in their living room and Mark's serving me drinks and food; she's sitting across from me chatting me up. It was surreal. I see my nephew hunched over on his knees serving mini sausages and she's got this cobra strike eye lock on me like the cunt is sizing me up. I mean I can read her mind, "it's been fun fucking your nephew, wonder how it'll feel when my cocks in you old man."

Anyhow, I really don't know what to say to him. My gut says this kind of relationship can't last; it's unnatural. I wouldn't care too much but they have this boy and it's going to destroy me if he doesn't grow up proper. What can I do? What can I say? Any suggestions?

Go see a fucking shrink for your own problems and mind your own business?

[Taernath]

>tfw you're mid thirties with a family and career but someone still thinks you're an entitled millenial

[Suppa Hobbit Mage]

Does the wife have big tits? That makes all the difference in my advice.

[Stanley Burrell]

This'd be a pretty decent thread for Methais to post Wikipedia's entire shebang about clocks. I miss that man.

[Stanley Burrell]

^

Miss the clock spam, not a man. Maybe a man though.

[Ososis]

Your nephew lives in a 300k household where his only job is to hang out with his kid, make food for his family and (maybe) clean his own house. he skipped straight to retirement! Those grapes aren't sour, they just aren't your grapes.

[Geijon Khyree]

I bet he loved it. Long as hes getting laid and they got money you cant complain. I did lol at some of these comments in the OP that make total sense too.

[cholodeamor]

I don't know it's kind of fun to paint an entire generation in broad strokes.

Fucking baby boomers ruined the environment and the economy and are living on social security paid for by underemployed millinials that will likely never benefit from it.

Am I doing it right?


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[cholodeamor]

At least they are both the same color, phew. Could be a lot worse.


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[cholodeamor]

No but honestly it's great that you recognize how you feel is not objective. It's pretty rare to change position and especially on the internet. I think we've all learned a valuable lesson here.


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[BriarFox]

This post reads like troll-bait. Regardless, Jumbo's got a hell of a good post there. To dumb it down, just flip the situation around. Would you have any problem with it if your nephew reversed roles with his wife? No? Then it's your prejudice, so fuck off out of their business.

Kind regards.

[Jeril]

This post reads like troll-bait. Regardless, Jumbo's got a hell of a good post there. To dumb it down, just flip the situation around. Would you have any problem with it if your nephew reversed roles with his wife? No? Then it's your prejudice, so fuck off out of their business.

Kind regards.

I like how you say Jumbo had a good post then say to do the exact opposite of what he advised.

While I am all for foul language I don't think it has any real place in an adult discussion, it is hard to take anyone seriously when they are talking like a child or a teenager at best. And no this isn't just directed at you Briar but anyone else doing the same.

[Jeril]

My nephew is a 31 y/o who just had a baby. He is what we call a "stay at home dad". Apparently, this is OK and "a thing" especially for lazy ::cough:: sorry, "progressive" millennials now-a-days. His wife is some director for a bunch of hospitals in LA and makes a whopping 300k+ a year, she is apparently OK with this arrangement(and I suspect domesticated my nephew into his current role).Now, I'm not OK with this and ever since his dad died I took on the mantle as some kind of paternal sherpa for Mark. So, I feel like I have some skin in this relationship.

Long story short, whenever I drive down to Venice to their little glass and marble office building they call a home I get this uneasy vibe from my nephew's relationship with his wife. I'm seeing a husband and wife role being completely turned upside down. I sit down in their living room and Mark's serving me drinks and food; she's sitting across from me chatting me up. It was surreal. I see my nephew hunched over on his knees serving mini sausages and she's got this cobra strike eye lock on me like the cunt is sizing me up. I mean I can read her mind, "it's been fun fucking your nephew, wonder how it'll feel when my cocks in you old man."

Anyhow, I really don't know what to say to him. My gut says this kind of relationship can't last; it's unnatural. I wouldn't care too much but they have this boy and it's going to destroy me if he doesn't grow up proper. What can I do? What can I say? Any suggestions?

I agree with Jumbo, talk to him about it. Just leave out the part about her making eyes at you. Plenty of women out there will make eyes and things but won't actually cross any real lines. If things get to the point where she does, shut her down and then talk to him about it.

[BriarFox]

I like how you say Jumbo had a good post then say to do the exact opposite of what he advised.

While I am all for foul language I don't think it has any real place in an adult discussion, it is hard to take anyone seriously when they are talking like a child or a teenager at best. And no this isn't just directed at you Briar but anyone else doing the same.

I think Jumbo's post is great, but I don't think it'll work for the poster. He's obviously not sensitive enough to the issue, thus the second part of my reply. As for profanity, sometimes the only appropriate response is an expletive -- which is the case here.

Also, did Jeril really just chide me for profanity? The bloody fucking world has just turned upside down...

[Jeril]

I think Jumbo's post is great, but I don't think it'll work for the poster. He's obviously not sensitive enough to the issue, thus the second part of my reply. As for profanity, sometimes the only appropriate response is an expletive -- which is the case here.

Also, did Jeril really just chide me for profanity? The bloody fucking world has just turned upside down...

Well the OP didn't just charge in like some rhino, so, I think he is a bit more sensitive than you think.

There were many other ways you could have expressed yourself, especially through a medium like text where you have more then a moment to consider how you respond. For instance you could have told him, "I don't think you are sensitive enough to handle the situation and you should just leave it alone."

And all is likely right with the world you just get too fixated on certain facets of my character and gloss over the rest.

[BriarFox]

Great. Jeril wants to turn the PC into a safe space. My mind continues to be blown this last week.

[jumbodog]

My apologies for the expletives. 8 years active duty and an entire adult life around the military changes a person in the swearing department, I guess. I'll refrain in the future.

[Luftstreitkräfte]

Any suggestions?

Find a cliff.

[Tgo01]

Does the wife have a sister who also makes 300k a year and is looking for a man servant?

I'm asking for a friend.

[Tisket]

I like how you say Jumbo had a good post then say to do the exact opposite of what he advised.

While I am all for foul language I don't think it has any real place in an adult discussion, it is hard to take anyone seriously when they are talking like a child or a teenager at best. And no this isn't just directed at you Briar but anyone else doing the same.

Fuck that. Profanity is useful and necessary. Sometimes an asshole just needs to be called an asshole.

[Tisket]

My apologies for the expletives. 8 years active duty and an entire adult life around the military changes a person in the swearing department, I guess. I'll refrain in the future.

Fuck that. There are no 8 year old children here that need their precious innocence protected. Don't be a pussy...own your words.

[jumbodog]

The way I see it, we're all friends here. We've all been hopelessly addicted to a MUD for decades. We have a sense of camaraderie that few others get in life.

example: meet stranger at bar in Detroit... "oh, you like the Red Wings?! Me Too!" Never speak again. Meet random person at bar, "Wait.. you're kidding me... you play Gemstone? You're a liar... you're not a liar?! THAT'S AWESOME! Lets get out of here (each going to our own respective houses) and knock out some bounties)" Lifelong friend is made.

As such, someone made point about swearing not being necessary in an adult conversation. Though looking back I think he may have been referring to the "tell that f*** c***..." comments, its still a point.

My friend, who may not have a problem with swearing objectively, has requested that we keep the conversation mature since its a real issue and not just standard videogame message board trolling. I can respect that request.

Still going to swear on other threads. Still going to swear at home. But I can respect the request. Yes, swearing does have its uses. (see here (https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-do-we-swear/)) (and here (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypoalgesic_effect_of_swearing) But I don't see how that is necessary in this context.

But I digress... lets get back to what's important

//Break text//

OP: What did you decide to do?

[Tisket]

Pussy. Swearing is to conversation what spice is to food. Any "friend" that tries to modify my communication to suit their own sensitivity to words is no friend. Fuck them.

[Ososis]

Dear Mcgyver, If you are unsure why people are sick of your shit...

In the ~75 days you have been a part of PC you have started 52 threads. All of which are stupid/annoying or the nonsensical ramblings of a madman.
You have posted 508 times (6.82 posts per day) with equal skill of being totally worthless.

Beyond just the massive volume of your blather you consistently ask people to walk you through basic concepts that are readable on the wiki while simultaniously demanding end game details even though you won't get there (on your own) for a couple years most likely. You dive into the political bullshit with gusto and ask the community to comment on your life as though anybody gives a shit about you.

settle
the fuck
down.

0 Friends
macgyver has not made any friends yet

[Stumplicker]

Pussy. Swearing is to conversation what spice is to food. Any "friend" that tries to modify my communication to suit their own sensitivity to words is no friend. Fuck them.

Don't worry. The probability of anyone wanting to become your friend is mathematically insignificant. You're safe from meddling.

[Tisket]

Don't worry. The probability of anyone wanting to become your friend is mathematically insignificant. You're safe from meddling.

Fuck fuck hooray.

[Tisket]

Dear Mcgyver, If you are unsure why people are sick of your shit...

In the ~75 days you have been a part of PC you have started 52 threads. All of which are stupid/annoying or the nonsensical ramblings of a madman.
You have posted 508 times (6.82 posts per day) with equal skill of being totally worthless.

Beyond just the massive volume of your blather you consistently ask people to walk you through basic concepts that are readable on the wiki while simultaniously demanding end game details even though you won't get there (on your own) for a couple years most likely. You dive into the political bullshit with gusto and ask the community to comment on your life as though anybody gives a shit about you.

settle
the fuck
down.

0 Friends
macgyver has not made any friends yet

This. Exactly this.

[jumbodog]

Okay. I see we're now at the inevitable limit of all non-merchant/non-game mechanic posts on the forums which seem to follow this scale:

8220

[Ososis]

Okay. I see we're now at the inevitable limit of all non-merchant/non-game mechanic posts on the forums which seem to follow this scale:

8220

I bet that felt speciously clever. but your stock graph doesn't account for the original post being a steaming pile at inception. Not to mention that most all answers have been STFU, GTFO, and GFYS from the start.

[Gelston]

I'd say the usefulness of the answers have gone up. They hit a high point at "Mind your own fucking business".

[jumbodog]

Would a bell curve have been better?

And it did feel speciously clever. :)

[macgyver]

Holy cow, this thread is still active? I got the point by page 2. Thanks for the commentary but unreal.

[Gelston]

Holy cow, this thread is still active? I got the point by page 2. Thanks for the commentary but unreal.

No, you're like a dog that pisses in the house. We're still rubbing your nose in it so you don't do it again.

[Methais]

My nephew is a 31 y/o who just had a baby. He is what we call a "stay at home dad". Apparently, this is OK and "a thing" especially for lazy ::cough:: sorry, "progressive" millennials now-a-days. His wife is some director for a bunch of hospitals in LA and makes a whopping 300k+ a year, she is apparently OK with this arrangement(and I suspect domesticated my nephew into his current role).Now, I'm not OK with this and ever since his dad died I took on the mantle as some kind of paternal sherpa for Mark. So, I feel like I have some skin in this relationship.

Long story short, whenever I drive down to Venice to their little glass and marble office building they call a home I get this uneasy vibe from my nephew's relationship with his wife. I'm seeing a husband and wife role being completely turned upside down. I sit down in their living room and Mark's serving me drinks and food; she's sitting across from me chatting me up. It was surreal. I see my nephew hunched over on his knees serving mini sausages and she's got this cobra strike eye lock on me like the cunt is sizing me up. I mean I can read her mind, "it's been fun fucking your nephew, wonder how it'll feel when my cocks in you old man."

Anyhow, I really don't know what to say to him. My gut says this kind of relationship can't last; it's unnatural. I wouldn't care too much but they have this boy and it's going to destroy me if he doesn't grow up proper. What can I do? What can I say? Any suggestions?

Introduce your nephew to porn.